What do you think of having a Spritual Wedding instead of a Legally Binding Wedding?

It would almost be a lie to not be legally married. Unless it was a same-sex marriage or you planned on marrying legally later, I find it pointless.

There is nothing wrong with being spiritually bound and legally bound at the same time. Besides, if you want to be married in the eyes of God, I feel you should sign the papers. That is how it is viewed to be married nowadays. Not doing it legally makes it easier to do bigomy.... unless you're into it, then no issue there.

Unless you are gay or in a plural marriage, it makes no sense at all. I understand the homosexual aspect (although I don't see why they can't get the right to marry) but for straight people makes no sense. There is not enough covering of your behind you can do that can't be done with a marriage license and a five-minute ceremony ten times easier.

OMG is this thread current again? It makes my head hurt.

But y'all are missing her point!!!!!!!!!

Actually if you are legally married and the other god forbid gets very ill tru the spouse makes all legal decisions but not if the spouse sign a power of attorney authorizing someone else too so there are ways around that too. I was married before and I became very ill in the hospital and was estranged from my husband and I did NOT want him to make choices for me so i signed a power of attorney authorizing my mom too. So there are ways around both. I dodn't really think either is better I think it's preference there are a lot of reasons people get married in Mexico it's not recognized here in the states but they are still married.People do it for tax purposes, inheritance purposes all sorts of reasons. So I think it's what you as a couple want.

A pastor will do a commitment ceremony, but you can be darn sure that it won't look like a marriage.

And the point of this thread is what?

THE POINT, Celia, has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with this thread. It's about how Kim Kardashian's marriage could have been saved. (the tragedy)

Okay, now I am totally lost, and I"m usually good with this....

Kim Kardashian did not have a marriage; she had a wedding, but that doesn't negate the significance of marriage.....

Is her point that somehow a couple doesn't have to be legally married to be committed? Well, duh, yeah. But being 'married in the eyes of God' (like God cares....) isn't being married for purposes of health insurance, privacy laws, mortgage rates or any one of a number of other reasons people get married besides the obvious.

And it sounds like a cop out to me, frankly. Let's play married but not really be married.

This post has been going on for a while now.. she stopped posting. Perhaps she realized there is no point to this post or at least that she's gone completely off topic. It reminds me of her "Brides that choose pink and purple as their wedding colors are immature" topic... it was a bunch of "wtf"?

The original question was "good or bad idea?" and because everyone thinks it's bad, she is trying to make it about something else (putting God first) but it's still not really making any sense.

Oh. okay. tankers ;-)

I'm Back!! I had a busy weekend, Choir Rehearsals...you know, God/Church work...

I just wanted to get everyone's opinion on Spiritual Weddings instead of Legally Binding. Trying to find some solution on how, and why so many of these Hollywood Marriages are falling apart. Thinking that maybe, they didn't have enough Love or Faith, or Both! We can definitely admit that it wasn't God 1st! I should've explain myself more, sorry about that! But I got everyone's comment thanks!

Oh did anyone see the last week episode of Kourtney and Kim? Do you believe in that, "Speaking to the Dead"?

There are reasons why some couples choose to spend their lives together, have kids, have a house together, etc. but never get officially married. But, if you're going to go to the trouble of planning a "spiritual" wedding, you may as well get legally married. As others have said, God is important in a marriage IF that is your religious belief. There are many couples who stay together for years and do not even believe in God. There are also couples who are very religious, but made a poor decision. Is it better for them to spend the rest of their lives in misery because they feel they can't divorce because God wouldn't approve?

And as others have said, not being legally married will probably cause more of a hassle in the long run than just signing the paperwork in the beginning and being done with it.

Maybe I should just get spiritually married now, so I can have sex, and it won't be before marriage so I won't burn in hell... Then it'll be easier if we split. Thanks, this is a great idea.

Judith, I think your father would feel much better about it. And don't worry, you won't split, because you got spiritually married. That's a guarantee. Besides, you got polka-dotted blonde spots, you know your spiritual hubby will love you because you have blonde in your hair! ;D

Haha, he actually really wants me to go back to blonde... off topic, sorry.

Just another point, I don't really get this 'true love' thing (although whenever I read it, I really hear "twue wuv"). Guess what people? Sometimes love is a choice! There are times in your future when you really won't feel like loving your FI, when they do something that you hate. It may be leaving their dirty socks laying around, or it may be lying to you, but you will be faced with that choice. It's a hell of a lot easier to decide no, I don't love him right now. But you can choose to love. It's a verb, not something you just fall into or feel. It's something you will have to choose, a million times, the rest of your life. Spiritual or not.

Deep, Judith.

Reminds me of that line from "Dan in Real Life"

Marty Barasco: Love is not a feeling, Mr. Burns. It's an ability.

And you thought I was shallow. I guess if I had a spiritual wedding and a legal wedding, I would have two days that were all about ME!

Oh snap, that means I'd have THREE (which is better than two, in case you can't count)