What do you do when they don't show up?

Sorry for grammar errors, I'm on my phone lol

Oh I had the no shows for the shower too but those people did come to the wedding so that made up for that! Seriously wtf?

Let it go. Do NOT ask anyone why they didn't come to your wedding. That is very tacky.

Not everyone invited to attend an event will. Not everyone who RSVPs yes, will. This is life. A wedding is truly only important to the Bride, Groom and whomever is paying the tab.

LOL to the shower. My daughters MIL RSVPd no to the shower. We all accepted that. No one said a word to her about it.

Amazingly enough, the afternoon of the shower (it started at 7PM) she miraculously asked if she could attend. I wanted to tell her to eff herself, but said "Why of course you can join us." Drama Queen.

I think sending an RSVP of yes and not showing up is tacky. I'd be pretty upset if someone didn't show and didn't apologize. My friends apologize for breaking normal plans, so people should apologize for missing weddings (if they RSVP as yes).

Sometimes things happen. Sometimes keeping a job is more important than a wedding. It sucks, but it's the truth. I've worked jobs where I've asked for days off and then wasn't given them. Or was and wasn't even told about it!!! Or, when I was moving, I got called in to do something that I could have given instructions over the phone for, but it was insisted that I come in. Stuff happens.

Why they weren't able to make it is their business though. And they probably figured you were so busy that you didn't even notice they were missing.

Kathy this is different. This is a wedding a major event for your so called good friend! These 2 people are not just my acquaintances these are life long friends. So yes this day is maybe more important to me but if they were friends and cared for me they would've been there right? So tacky is not a word to be used IF I did say something.

Its the tackiest thing in the world to RSVP yes and be a no-show. You have a right to be upset, but I'd just try to let it go.

I get the job thing but if you requested off to begin with chances are you do not get called into work. The other friend didnt have a sitter and I'm sorry but if I meant anything one or the other should've came! Kind of just shows how important witnessing their good friend get married meant to them.

Oh and both of these people replied yes or I would be having this discussion

@Lucky me....I WAS responding to your wedding guests. They didn't show up. Get over it. The world did not end and you had a great time.

As far as the wife getting "called in to work", perhaps she did. Are you calling them liars? Again, get over it. The day is ONLY important to you. Their income is more important. If they could not make it, they could not make it. DO NOT bring it up to them. You are being beyond silly.

I think it's rude. Maybe we should start to send out invoices to those that respond yes and don't show up. I think I'm going to have some cousins do that to me.

Funny thing is I had a co-worker not show up to another co-workers wedding after replying yes. 7 Months later when it was her wedding, she was livid that people did that. Go figure.

Is anyone else getting tired of the word tacky?...... Js.

Kathy did you even read my post? I said 1 friend a guy friend and his wife did not show because they didn't have a sitter the other friend didnt show because of work. I was asking for advice on whether to confront these so called good friends. This isn't about me needing to get over myself.

You sound like such a helpful bride btw. Lol move on. Your no help here.

@J&B - NO I am not being a bitch. I am being realistic. What is your issue?

@Annie, you of course, are joking. Invoices. Bwahahahaa!

Everyone - even if someone says that they can make it to an event does not mean that they will be able to, even up to the last minute.

We are only reading one side of these stories. We do not know what the guests, who could not make it, have to say.

Again, get over it. The fact that four people did not show up did not cause the world to end. If saying that makes me a bitch, so be it. I have put on more events than any of you will ever dream of...experience=bitch. ;-)

I second that J&B!

Yes, @Lucky me, I DID read your comments, all of them. I responded to that. I responded that you should NOT confront them. The fact that you use the word "confront" tells the story. You are looking for a fight.

Stop, smell the coffee and resume your life.

Wow.... No reason to be nasty about it. You could have just said no to her question and moved on.

I'm sorry I didn't know confront means a negative word in all situations? I meant confront as in talk to them first! Seriously I was asking because I am hurt. I have been on this forum for a long time and those that know me here know this is bothering me. I am not its about me person. Seriously remove yourself.

Sigh. On so many levels.

I responded to your question, you didn't like my honest (experienced) response and now you tell me to remove myself?

SMH.