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What color should a widow wear?

Ash, on August 12, 2016 at 7:17 PM

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My first husband passed away after only 3 years of marriage. I don't wanna wear white but then again i don't know what's appropriate to wear either. Any suggestions or does anyone know the rule of thumb??

My first husband passed away after only 3 years of marriage. I don't wanna wear white but then again i don't know what's appropriate to wear either. Any suggestions or does anyone know the rule of thumb??

39 Comments

  • BeachBride
    VIP June 2017
    BeachBride ·
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    Whatever color you want. If you don't want white, there are gorgeous ivory and champagne dresses.

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
    SleepytheDwarf ·
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    Nice avatar Ashley! I hope you find the perfect dress. :-)

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  • Fitz
    Master August 2018
    Fitz ·
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    I'm sorry you lost your first husband, but congratulations on finding love again! Wear whatever you want. There are no rules about what color dress you "should" wear.

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  • Nicolette
    Expert August 2016
    Nicolette ·
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    I'm wearing an ivory dress and this is my first marriage. Wear what makes you happy and I'm very sorry about your loss.

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  • jenifer
    Devoted October 2016
    jenifer ·
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    Definitely wear what you want. If you don't want white, have you looked at blush colored dresses? I'm so in love with them

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  • FutureMrs.M.
    Super July 2017
    FutureMrs.M. ·
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    Wear what color you want! I love the ivory and blush dresses if you want to go with not white!

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  • Nancy Taussig
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    I'm sorry about your first husband. But, you're no longer a widow -- you're a fiancée and bride-to-be!

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  • annakay511
    Master July 2015
    annakay511 ·
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    I would never bat an eye at any bride- second, third, tenth marriage, whatever- wearing white or ivory. Actually, most brides these days wear ivory (I did! First time bride!) because most people don't look good in white!

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  • Ash
    Beginner April 2023
    Ash ·
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    Thank you all for your input and condolences. I'm not a blush bride it won't go with my color theme anyway.lol

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  • Sam
    Super October 2016
    Sam ·
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    I'd say wear whatever color you want. Don't feel like you're not allowed to wear white though. It's your day, wear whatever will make you feel beautiful.

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  • Sara
    Master April 2017
    Sara ·
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    You are still the bride. Wear whatever works for you!

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  • Erin381
    Master September 2016
    Erin381 ·
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    Wear any damn color you like.

    I just wanted to say that I am happy that you found love again and beat wishes to a long, happy and healthy life with your fh

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  • H
    VIP March 2017
    Hammie ·
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    Ahhh Centerpiece. You always word everything so beautifully. Your comment actually made me tear up a little. I agree 100%. The tradition of only first time, virgin brides wearing white is long gone, OP. Wear whatever color your heart desires!

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  • OfficiallyMrsG
    Super September 2016
    OfficiallyMrsG ·
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    I'm sorry for your loss. There are lots of brides today that wear color, even the first time around! Champagne, blush pink, soft peach, blue or purple, even black! Try on a few different things and see what makes your heart sing. Good luck and have fun shopping.

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  • Natasha
    VIP January 2017
    Natasha ·
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    Do whatever makes you feel beautiful it is your day! what do you think about champagne or a blush pink dress?

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  • MrsMelissaP
    VIP January 2017
    MrsMelissaP ·
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    Blush may be a good alternative.

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  • AngieYP
    Dedicated May 2017
    AngieYP ·
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    Wear what you want, this is my second wedding (divorced) and I am wearing Ivory.

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  • taetae88
    VIP October 2018
    taetae88 ·
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    It's your day, wear whatever color you want.

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  • Brianna
    Just Said Yes December 2021
    Brianna ·
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    Hi! I’m a newly engaged widow. My husband died in 2011.. just wanted to see what color you decided to go with. I have absolutely no idea what to wear.
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