Went to a wedding this weekend...PLEASE DON'T DO THIS!

Lol...I NEARLY put 15 minutes early...but our site coordinator was adamant we shouldn't...so I listened. If anyone is more than 15 minutes late, they may miss the ceremony!!! LOL.

Nope. I'm starting on time. RIGHT on time. If people are late, they will be told by the DOC that they can wait outside the area until the ceremony has ended, or she will help them sneak to the back row if there is a good time to do so. It's rude to show up to a wedding late, and I'm not having it if they do.

And frankly I don't care if you are 'perpetually late' no matter 'what you do'. Leave earlier, that's all there is to it. Getting somewhere on time isn't rocket science.

I'm putting the exact time & knowing myself I'll be a few minutes late anyways! That is really rude, they obviously did not respect their guests' time.

WHAT THE...!! An hour though??!! Now that's ridiculous! What the hell were they thinking?

I almost put 15 min early as well, but didn't. I've budgeted about 30min for the ceremony, so even if we started 10 min late (WHICH WE WILL NOT, I PROMISE YOU THAT!!), I'll still be on schedule. And if people come in extra late, they'll just have to wait.

Wow how rude!

I do understand why people put earlier start times (but never an hour!) but I will put the actual start time.

I would be mad waiting a half hour, let alone an hour! I put the exact start time on my invitation and if there are still a large amount of people coming in we will delay.

I would be mad, too! That is just wasting all of the guests' times.

We have to use the exact start time on our invitations as our venue requires it (I guess they don't want people coming in super early.)

Went to a wedding like this....it is annoying.

If this wasn't a close family friend I would have gotten up and left

I didn't put an earlier start time, I figure it gives me an extra 15 minutes incase Im running late..lol

That's terrible! Last August I went to a wedding that had the start time on the invite at 3pm and the wedding didn't start until 4 - but it was OUTSIDE. In August. In southern Illinois. It was 96 degrees outside. Needless to say, nobody in attendance was thrilled with the wedding, we all just wanted to get back to our cars!

Absolutely crazy. Maybe it's the military in me; but if you say 3; you mean 3. Our pastor and I discussed this and I was thrilled to know that he feels the same way. So we may give people a little time; 15 minutes at the most though.

I'd be SUPER upset too if I had been you; that's absurd.

I am using the actual start time on my invite. My WP is ferocious and if you are late you won't be seeing the ceremony. I make it a point o be early wherever I go but I definitely would be annoyed to have to sit and wait over an hour for a ceremony to start. One hour too early is a bit much for me.

Yikes! Thats terrible! We're getting married on the boat and we told people to be there at 6:30 sharp! Wedding is at 7 but we have a short distance to the site where we will get married. So if people aren't on time then they will miss the entire thing as we won't be coming back for them!

My invites are 30 mins prior to ceremony time because my culture is known for being late and my wedding is on a Friday at my church. I figure this will give them enough time to get situated but an hour is insane.

I assist with weddings at my church and we recommend 30 minutes. The reason for this is that if the wedding begins late (and as much as people say they will start without, if there are 10 people sitting there they don't want to), there is $400 on the table that they stand to lose with the late start. We give a 25 minute grace period, but so many lose out on that $400.

An hour is too much, but in the NY/NJ area, no one, it appears, is on time for anything. Plus, we have to figure in parking, valets, etc.

I always tell my couples to invite for a half an hour ahead and start precisely a half hour after the invite time.

I agree; an hour is ridiculous.

But it's YOUR SHOW! Decide when you want to walk down that aisle and do it, regardless of who is there.

I put a 30 min earlier starting time. The location can be kind of hidden and hard to spot if you don't know what kind of building you're looking for. My venue coordinator suggested putting 30 min earlier because she has been there 10+years and has seen a lot of guests arrive late, plus I know my people, they are always late... to everything. But I would never put anything over 30 minutes early that's just craziness

I'm with you we'll always have Paris. I've never even heard of an early start. My wedding is at noon and l hope, pray and plan to be there at that time

Okay, I have issues with people who cannot plan their time. 3PM should mean 3PM. So, guests should know to arrive between 2:30-2:55.

To tell all of you 3PM and then starting at 4? Ridiculous.

We put 4:30PM on my daughters invitations. Everyone was there and seated. We started the ceremony at 4:35. It would have been 4:30, as everyone was ready, but the officiant (my friend and, at that time Mayor of Portland, OR was delayed at an event he had prior to the wedding. He walked into the hotel at 4:29. LOL!