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View Quoted Comment Honestly I think a lot of people come on here because they really just don’t know.

For example, when I first started planning my wedding I had an old school way of thinking that my parents would be paying for the bulk of my wedding. After coming on here, I realized that asking about money was rude. I genuinely didn’t know that beforehand. I guess from watching movies / TV I just thought that that was the normal thing to do.

View Quoted Comment “Good etiquette” is a subjective term. To me, a cash bar is an instant boner killer. I think it’s really rude to your guests. HOWEVER, in your area that may be the normal thing at weddings and it wouldn’t be considered rude.

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THIS! When a bride goes 'Well, it's my day and if I want it then everyone will have to like it or they can go fork themselves' in regards to something that is generally considered rude (Like dismissing a bridesmaid because she didn't have the money to fly back and forth 4 times for dress shopping that she wasn't needed at), I'm reminded of my high school girls and am REALLY glad I'm not friends with that person.

I also agree that some things are a 'Know your crowd' but for those sorts of things where I know my family differs from some traditional etiquette (for instance, SO of cousins don't get invited to family events until they are post college age) I'm not going to put it up on this forum because they don't know my family and know that is how it has been since I was a kid. I think people use that as an excuse as well to be willfully ignorant of general social norms just because they want to be.

View Quoted Comment That makes sense for you. No need to post about things that are common for you because you know most people don’t have the same social norms as you do.

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Yes I love that analogy!!

Here’s some things you’ll always hear:

That you must invite ALL or NO children.

All couples are social units that must be invited together regardless of the length of the relationship.

Plan for everyone to be in a relationship by the time the wedding rolls around.

Address everyone by name on your invitations.

Nobody is as excited as you for your wedding.

Gaps between the ceremony and reception are rude if they’re at the same venue.

View Quoted Comment Second paragraph is a really good point that I’ve noticed. Each wedding is unique and people definitely run into a lot of context specific problems. Sometimes the advice here just doesn’t take into consideration the context surrounding what gave rise to the issue in the first place and that can just lead to unrealistic or unfeasible advice. Or, sometimes multiple, generally accepted views on WW come into conflict with each other and the threads are truly a sight to see.

View Quoted Comment Lol 🤣🤣🤣 all very true!

View Quoted Comment Oooh almost forgot:

”it's rude to tell parents they get a night off from their kids for adult only receptions.”

View Quoted Comment Oh, so I’m rude for wanting an adults only wedding?!

View Quoted Comment Right!!! You can expect more. Sheesh. Lol

"Its rude to have a gap between your ceremony and reception"

View Quoted Comment Lol could not have said it better myself

View Quoted Comment Worked out perfect? People still brought you stuff/cards/money?

View Quoted Comment For the life of me I do not understand why family has to argue about this point. Like for real. Kids (for the most part) are messy, loud, bored and left to run a muck at a wedding. I love them to death, but they just are. Im having a super formal church wedding that will last for an hour and 15 minutes. Then to a hotel for the remaining portion of the night until 11pm. Sound like a kid-friendly atmosphere? I'm spending a fortune for an elegant affair. So I literally offered free childcare to some relatives and I still think they are so offended that they wont show. It was going to be a great time for them too! I was thinking trampoline/arcade lock-in for them and a nanny for the toddlers. Sounds like torture for kids huh? Much happier than they would have been stuck through a "boring" ceremony and old people dancing! Like good grief man....geez louise!

View Quoted Comment You’re VERY generous. I just said no kids. I didn’t offer any solutions. You’re amazing lol

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Wait so I haven't seen much on the negatives on the honeymoon fund, why is it not a good idea?? I thought it would be cute and really help after spending so much money on the wedding. Genuinely curious!

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LMAO Yupp my eyes have been opened. So silly of me hahahaha I love this response

View Quoted Comment It’s not rude to want an adult only wedding it’s rude to act like your doing parents a favor by doing so.

There is nothing wrong with having an adult only wedding. Kids are messy and loud and they’re usually bored during weddings. But adult only weddings do mean parents have to find and pay a babysitter or figure out some other form of childcare for their kids. Most parents are happy to do this but again you aren’t doing them any favors since their idea of a date night probably isn’t a wedding.

One thing that I haven’t seen on here is don’t you dare split up couples for dinner by having a head table. Either have a Kings table accommodating the bridal party and their dates, or have a sweetheart table 😐 people get so angry on here about that..

Anywho, we’re having a head table lol