Wedding Wire people say ...

It's rude to host your bridal shower/bachelorette party.

Always invite someone's spouse or significant other.

All of the helpful advice I've gotten, including what you already wrote:

- Don't put the dress code anywhere on the invite unless its actually a black tie wedding (and black tie service)

- Self catering seldom ends well! This isn't something we considered, but my family has self catered for other weddings and I never realized the horrors that could go wrong until I joined WW.

-Mostly, stay away from friendors! They can really let you down either by backing out last minute or not providing quality (obviously because they are usually free/not professionals)

Nursing babies are always the exception to the "no children" rule.

It's very seldom okay to kick someone out of your bridal party.

Real flowers or bust and I know you basically mentioned this already but definitely if you even hint at a honeyfund you'll be blackballed lol

1. You can't get married prior in private and have a ceremony later if you don't tell people it's not a wedding, it's a vow renewal.

2. You can't tell your bridesmaids to get hair & makeup done and not pay for it if it's required.

3. Jack & Jill parties or "Stock the Bar" parties are tacky.

Not that I disagree with any of this stuff, I just see it mentioned a lot!

Don’t expect anyone to plan anything for you or help you plan unless they are a hired professional

View Quoted Comment Actually I’ve found a lot of people on here that aren’t using real flowers. Whether they're paper flowers or something else.

I literally laughed out loud when I read your last sentence.

I remember thinking the honeymoon fund was a cute idea 💡 but after seeing others get verbally assaulted on here I changed my mind 🤣🤣🤣

View Quoted Comment Yes. God forbid anyone helps you with anything.

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Oh really? I saw one post asking if people were doing real or artificial flowers and I saw soooo many people saying just real! I'm glad I'm not alone then, I'm having both.

LOL! I still think it's a cute idea, but everyone has their own opinion!

View Quoted Comment I had NEVER heard of a Jack / Jill party before Wedding Wire.

View Quoted Comment I think a lot of people still prefer real flowers. But I’ve seen a lot of ladies making posts showcasing the bouquets that they made using other materials.

I didn’t realize a honeyfund took money from your guests. I also didn’t know that it didn’t actually go towards an excursion or whatever you’re planning on doing on your honeymoon.

View Quoted Comment Yes these are good ones!

View Quoted Comment I never would have realized the horrors of friendors had it not been for this site.

View Quoted Comment Yes it’s all about making your guests comfortable even if you don’t know that person.

View Quoted Comment Yes according to WW etiquette that’s very rude.

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Same! Or a stock the bar party. I've really never heard of charging anyone to attend a party other than frat/sorority parties in college. I had to google it when I first saw it on here!

View Quoted Comment Girl you are not alone. I had to look them up too. I was so confused!

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I've heard of stock the bar parties as sort of a "house warming" party, where guests bring items to stock the person/couple's personal bar in their home. Are there people on here who are throwing stock the bar parties to provide the bar at their wedding?!

View Quoted Comment I’ve been to quite a few stock the bar showers. They are usually in place of a bridal or couples shower. I only think it’s rude when people use it to stock the bar at the wedding! Usually it’s to stock the couples home bar.