Wedding: Why is it important to you?

It's a big thank you for all the people in our lives who have been there for us and helped us become who we are today.

My FH and I want a wedding because it's rare that all of our friends and families will be together in one place. His parents does not travel anywhere except to Alabama to see their parents which is fine. His siblings are too busy to visit us which is understandable since everyone have things to do. Our families and friends are all spread out in our state and out of state. I guess in a way it is somewhat a reunion. If we see our families on a regular basis then we would have gone to the courthouse.

Honestly? I love lace, and frills, and fancy clothes. Out here in the Bay Area, we are very casual-- no debutantes, few balls (I think there's one charity ball around, but I could be wrong....), so my wedding was my one chance to have the long dress, the petticoat-- the shebang. Having family and friends there was also priceless, but I have to admit-- for me it was an excuse to get the fanciest dress of my life.... which I will never wear again... and doubt any future daughter-in-law will want. It's happy memories, though!

I have always wanted to do a wedding to enjoy with the family and celebrate party style but FH wanted to just elope and go about our business. As time went by the roles started to switch he wanted the wanted and I was just wanting to go with his first thought and elope but it was mainly because of the amount of money that was spent and how it could be used on something more important and useful. At the end of the day as long as we are together and happy that is all that matters.

My wedding is important to me because I want to set a positive example for my future children about waiting until you are married to have children, to celebrate our love with the people we admire most, and to always have this memory of -so far-the most important day of our lives! I didn't want to have a big wedding until I got engaged and my grandmothers face lit up.. I want her to be there and see me in my dress and honestly i have every reason in the world. It will be unforgettable for those who love us and I cannot waitttttt

It's the one time in your life when I feel like you can gather EVERYONE who matters to you together in one place, and I didn't want to miss out on that. One of the reasons we chose our venue is that the ceremony is on a grand staircase and we'll have our family and friends above and below us, just completely surrounding us when we say our vows. The planning has also been really fun for my fiance and I- we're actually getting married at a beautiful Swedish museum in South Philadelphia, and we found out that my fiance's great grandfather actually worked there, so we've been playing around and trying to find out ways to incorporate his Swedish roots into the wedding.

Sure, the money would be nice, and I would LOVE to get rid of the stress, but I'd miss out on all of these fun experiences which you usually only get one shot to have

Honestly I love my FH so much that I wanted my family and friends and everyone who matter to me to witness the beggining of our life and how much we love each other. I don't care if I am spending all of this money on a wedding like people think it's dumb it isn't to me it's once in a lifetime, I am doing this wedding my way and at the end of the day it's going to make me and FH happy and that's all that matters. I don't care about "I could have saved it for a house" I really don't because at the end of the day I am going to look back at this and never regret a single thing or wish I could've had a wedding. I could've eloped but that's not what I wanted ever since I was little I dreamed of marrying my prince and having a big celebration and I will fulfill my dream!!!

Just because it acts as a memory for you to tie up with someone very important to you. Life is always going and there will come many chances to go for vacations. But weddings happen only once. It is just a one-time investment and you must go for it.