Wedding Website: how to say "no kids"?

I said-

"Due to venue restrictions as it is a historic home, we ask that no children under the age of 13 attend the wedding and reception. DH and I would like to not have to worry about this on the most important day of our lives and enjoy our special day with family and friends! Thank you"

As there are very few people invited that actually have children, we are just using word of mouth.

I'm going with the school of thought that if they aren't specifically named on the invite, they aren't invited. However, in my social circle, it's commonplace to leave the little ones behind. We do have a few kids who will be invited and specifically named on the invitations.

We're just using word of mouth. Only 3 couples have children and 2 of the 3 actually asked if the kids were invited or not. Neither were offended in any way that their children weren't invited, they understand the cost of a wedding (that's our main reason for no kids). For the 3rd couple we were prepared to make an exception. His son has autism and only seems him twice a month, we weren't going to make him miss out on a weekend with him, turns out he doesn't have him that weekend though.

I put it in the FAQ's section as the first question and answer lol I will also put it where the name of the venue and location is. If it is not stated specifically everywhere someone will try to bring their kid.

Lol Rosemary!!! We are doing adults only besides our flower girl and ring bearer. Although FH best man (cousin raised like brothers) it's his 11 year old daughters birthday on our wedding and everyone who could watch her will be AT the wedding (kids mother is a BM) we are making an exception for her.... She also lives directly next door to us and we see her every day!

We simply put on our invitations, "Adult only reception." And on the RSVP cards, we put there are "2 seats reserved in your honor," so it was hopefully obvious that they couldn't add additional guests/kids.

We are going to add a section to our wedding website that gives information on bonded and licensed sitters that the hotel we where we have our hotel block gave to us.

Here's what i put:

A Special Note for Mommy & Daddy Guests:

Unfortunately due to space and budget our wedding is adults only. We're sorry for any inconvenience this causes but we hope you see this as the perfect date night.

On the FAQ section of our website I put:

CAN I BRING MY CHILD/CHILDREN WITH ME TO THE WEDDING?

UNFORTUNATELY, NO. THE BRIDE AND GROOM RESPECTFULLY REQUEST THERE BE NO CHILDREN UNDER 14 AT THE CEREMONY OR RECEPTION, OTHER THAN THOSE CHILDREN IN THE WEDDING PARTY.

Honestly I don't think children (teens) over 14 care to attend the wedding unless they are super close to the B&G or can bring friends. But I have two aunts with teenage kids so thats in there to give them the option to bring them. But even they doubt they will (all their kids work and drive).

I had inner envelopes (which people say are a waste of money) that clearly listed who was invited, and had zero questions, rsvp issues or people adding guests (children included). Seriously the $0.20/envelope saved me a ton of headache. I really really recommend it.

Thanks for the responses, ladies. I definitely plan to specifically name the people invited on the invitations (rather than "the ____ family") and the RSVP cards will say "__ seats reserved in your honor." I just feel like I may have to also address this on the website as well. FH's family has not had a formal wedding since his parents' wedding 40 years ago. So I'm anticipating some issues with RSVP etiquette.

As to the why it's an adults only event I didn't feel the need to give an explanation. On my wedding website I tried to keep it light. I used Adult Only Ceremony and Adult Only Reception and added something along the lines of "...please plan ahead for childcare...this is a day of celebration with a little drinking, and a lot of dancing... so parents take the night of and celebrate with us..."

You don't have to explain anything. Invite specific people on the invitation, don't have any space for anyone to add in other people, and be prepared to tell people who call/add, 'No."

And, as I've said before, 'no' is a complete sentence.

I listed the invitations by name and also had no issues.

I would put on the invite that it's an adults only reception, address the invitation to just the couple or person invited "Mr. and Mrs. Smith", note the number of reserved spots on the RSVP, and put it on the wedding website. My MOH had an adults only reception and it was stated on the invite, invite was addressed only to the couple and one of her RSVP cards come back with 8 people attending (the couple + their 3 grade school kids and friend for each kid) and another came back with 6 attending (the couple + their 2 kids who were teenagers/young adults and their boyfriends). I thought it was a joke. Some people just don't get it. She made her FMIL call them.

I'd keep it short and sweet that it's adults only. However, that doesn't mean some won't passive aggressively try to impose their will on you. Just politely stand firm, all will be right with the world

I agree with the no explanation needed. FH and I made the mistake of telling his parents that because of budget and space can't invite the exta 60 people on their list. Well that sparked some anger and then they told us they would pay and that his family would make it up in monetary gifts. Avoid the nightmare and don't explain. I love the idea of an FAQ section. Definitely don't assume that the RSVP card will suffice. My friend had an event for work and people scratched off the plus 1 and added whomever they wanted to bring. Smh

We put it on our save the dates "Adult only Ceremony and Reception"

we are hoping that it doesn't cause any issues.

@becky that's crazy lol