Wedding Website: how to say "no kids"?

We put "Respectfully we request this be an adults only occasion" Or something like that lol. We also spread it by word of mouth.

Word of mouth and writing out the full names of each person invited on the invitation. I also put it on my wedding website just in case someone looks on there?

Q: Can I bring a child under 18 as my guest?

A: Although we love little ones, please only bring a guest over the age of 18 years old.

Q: Can I bring additional people besides my spouse/guest?

A: We apologize for the inconvenience, but we can only accommodate the number of people reserved on the RSVP card.

@MzRosaLu, I definitely agree that it's wise to put the info on the website, as well. Clearly addressing the invitations did NOT preempt this problem, for us, so I wouldn't rely on that as the main method of telling people. We were in the same boat as you -- most family members were unaware of wedding/RSVP etiquette, and as long as you're understanding about that it'll all work out. We did online RSVPs, but ended up doing a lot of following up by text and phone. One of DH's distant aunts responded for herself AND her grown son (who had not been invited), so we made it work with the numbers...then she didn't even bring him! So annoying.

Save the dates (magnets) went out 10 months before the wedding. The wedding website address was on them and they were only addressed to adults. The first page of the website had the line on it "Our ceremony and reception have been planned for adult guests 21 and over ".

Everyone got the message. We know of 2 couples who didn't attend, because of it. One local couple, because they couldn't find a babysitter, given 10 months notice, and my aunt/uncle, who were the only 2 of 250 guests, who never responded. They didn't even bother to send us a congratulatory e-mail. We have no regrets ...

You guys are all so helpful. Thank you for the suggestions!

Unfortunately people these days are too dumb to realize that if the invite is only addressed to Mr. & Mrs. Smith, then they will most likely add their kids assuming you meant the whole family. I had some get mad that kids weren't invited and then I shut them down when I pointed out to them that they never seem to have issues finding sitters when they spend every weekend at the bar, yet can't find one for a wedding that is 6 months out?

ARE KIDS WELCOME?

To give all our guests the opportunity to let their hair down and have a good time without having to worry about little eyes and ears, we politely request no children. Our's (Payton) will be a part of our day, along with his close cousins. After dinner/reception they will be heading back to our house for their own fun!

I put on the website "No children under the age of 12 please". On the save the dates, I addressed the envelope with the specific names of who is intived and plan to do the same on the invitations. I also plan on putting something like " _ seats have been reserved for you.. on the RSVP card to avoid any confusion. I have a cousin with 8 children all different ages ranging from 16-4 and we only invited the 4 older kids. She is mad but its my wedding and I don't want children under 12 running all over the place.

A wedding invitation we received last year said "Adult reception" on it. So maybe you can have those words on your website.

I'm putting it my FAQs.

Are children invited?

Due to the nature of the venue, this is an adults only event.

Here's what I put:

2. Can I bring my kids? This is an adults-only ceremony/reception. Children in the wedding party and nursing babies are of course the exception. We're sorry—we wish we could have all of the kids there! We'd be happy to help you arrange child care, as well, so please contact us if you will need a babysitter.

This is how we worded it in addition to inviting guests specifically:

"Restrooms and other accommodations will be located inside the historic Blanton House however, please be aware this is an OUTDOOR event that IS NOT APPROPRIATE for small children or infants. Due to the amenities of The Blanton House, the owners CANNOT accommodate the needs of children under the age of 6. Children, and those under the age of 6 are not permitted to attend events held on the property. We, Brody and Jennifer, apologize for any inconvenience this may cause."

The venue did not even have basics like changing tables, high chairs, or anything "kid". My SIL brought her infant however without incident.

We put it on the facts page of our website and addressed the STDs (which had the website address on it) and invitations to only the adults.

It still didn't stop my grandmother from sending 2 nasty e-mails, demanding I invite a family (2 kids) of estranged/distant relatives, whose address my parents don't even have. She sees wedding as family reunions. And my cousin wanted to bring her 17 month old son, who she referred to as "the little monster," in her e-mail, despite her not inviting kids to her wedding, a few years before. She thought it would be a good way to introduce him to his relatives.

And my mother in law screwed up. Despite being told there would be no one there under 25, except members for the bridal party and my honorary little brother/sister (15 and 17.5), she told a friend she could bring her 9 year old granddaughter, if her husband had to work. No, Mom - we don't want to pay over $150 for a uninvited child to substitute. I let my mother e-mail my MIL about it, because I was too mad to see straight.

There were no issues from my Mom's side of the family as her family has been hosting adult only weddings, since she was a kid (late 1960s).

On our FAQs page, I added the question, "Can I bring my children?" And wrote something along the lines of: "With the exception of the flower girl, ring bearer, and their families (they have siblings, too), we cannot accommodate children at our reception. Although we love kids and know that our friends and family have wonderful kids, we respectfully request ask that this be an adults only reception." I'm keeping my fingers crossed that our guests understand this. And before we send out invitations, I'm going to start getting in touch with people via text, email, Facebook, etc., to give them a head's up: no kids! I"ll probably remind them more than once, too, depending on the guest, lol. I wouldn't put it past certain people to defy our requests no matter what we do. Ugh.

We have it on our website in an FAQ that we are having an adults only wedding. We have two or three friends that will have infants by the time we get married. We will speak to them in person to let them know that of course they can bring their babies, who will be relying on mom for food at the time. We are not going to stand between a baby and their source of food.

View Quoted Comment I think this is perfect wording, I'm going to use it. We are getting married at a museum I don't want any running or being held liable for anything broken or damage artifacts.