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Wedding Superstitions - Not seeing each other before the wedding

Jo, on April 17, 2018 at 11:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 47
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How much do you buy into this wedding superstition ?

This wedding superstition is very well known and has been around for a long time, but more and more couples are choosing to skip it. Historically this stemmed from arranged marriages, when the couple may not even have met before their wedding day. Now, it's said to be "bad luck" if the couple see each other before the ceremony. But by opting to skip this some couples get to enjoy getting ready together, doing a nerve-calming first look, and/or taking photos before the ceremony so they can enjoy their cocktail hour with their guests.

Will you see your future spouse before the wedding, or do you think it's bad luck?


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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2018
    Stephanie ·
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    FH and I were tossing this idea around for a while but we decided to do a first look. It'll be super special and will calm our nerves. But, we are not getting ready together or staying together the night before.
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  • Ericha
    Devoted November 2018
    Ericha ·
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    My FH believes 100% that it is bad luck and refuses to see me at all the day of until I'm walking down the aisle.
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    Hahaha my DH did a first look and hung out the morning before the wedding. Hopefully we don't get too much bad luck.
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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    We're doing First Look, so nope - another one I don't believe in!

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  • PrincessLawrence
    VIP June 2018
    PrincessLawrence ·
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    We are sticking tradition with this one. Sleeping in different places and really not talking till we have "that moment" as i walk down the isle

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  • A
    Devoted March 2019
    Amanda ·
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    We are having a first look so we are skipping this. Not just for nerves, I want to have a moment of just us before really getting into the whole day.
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  • KarenO
    Master June 2018
    KarenO ·
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    At first we didn't want to do a first look, but time-wise it just makes too much sense. We are both pretty traditional about some things, but really want to get a head start on the photos. We are staying at separate locations the night before though.

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  • Kaylyn
    Super May 2019
    Kaylyn ·
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    I don’t believe in this superstition but apparently my FW does, she said she does not want to see me until I walk down the aisle
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  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
    Happy Hedgie ·
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    We are doing a first look so, will see each other prior to the ceremony. I'm keeping a bit of the tradition alive in that FH will go to his parents' house to sleep/get ready after our rehearsal dinner and won't see me again until I surprise him at the first look.

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  • O
    Master October 2017
    O ·
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    We were with each other the whole day, no separation, and even got ready together. I don't believe in this superstition whatsoever. I believe I had such a wonderful wedding day was because we didn't build it up to some magical moment of my H seeing me for the first time walking down the aisle-we did everything together the day of just as we are supposed to the rest of our lives.
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  • Shinee
    Expert September 2018
    Shinee ·
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    I know we went back and forth about if we were going to see each other before the ceremony, or even spend the night apart. We decided we were going to do a first look and spend the night together to help calm our nerves.. I figure if I see him and get the tears out before the ceremony, I might be better during the ceremony, lol

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  • Kim
    Dedicated June 2018
    Kim ·
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    This is one that my FH and I totally believe in. We are skipping the first look and just waiting until I walk down the aisle. Cannot wait!

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  • J
    Devoted June 2018
    Janette ·
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    We originally weren't going to have a first look, but then I started outweighing the cons. We invited a good handful of people and wanted to spend some time during cocktail hour with them.
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  • P
    Devoted July 2018
    Precious Stone ·
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    I never knew the reason behind this tradition was "bad luck". I thought so the groom will not see how gorgeous you look till you walk down the aisle.
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  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
    Mrs. Sponge ·
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    FH are spending the night before together but will part ways in the morning. It's not so much about bad luck as it is preserving that special moment of seeing each other all dolled up in that this is it moment. I never wear makeup or dresses and it will blow FH away to see me like that, and compound that with the realization that we are getting married then is to much to pass up.

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  • Mmssecrets
    Devoted March 2019
    Mmssecrets ·
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    We haven't decided yet. But we probably won't see each other after the rehearsal dinner. I do know we aren't doing a first look FH said no. So that's not happening. He wants it to be a special moment when he sees me walking down the aisle. Not gonna lie this is a slight superstitious for me.
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  • Xandria
    VIP December 2018
    Xandria ·
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    FW & I are planning on getting ready together, but it took her a bit to talk me in to it....

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  • SoKatiiee
    Devoted June 2018
    SoKatiiee ·
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    I do not believe in superstition- so FH and I will be doing a first look. It works better with our situation. Smiley smile

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  • L
    Expert October 2018
    Linda ·
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    We are doing first look. I want to have a few moments of an insanely busy day with just he and I. And we want to get as many of the photos done ahead of time as possible
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  • Liana
    VIP March 2017
    Liana ·
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    We saw each other during first look.

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