Wedding Shower Invitation Etiquette

I kind of went by a travel radius of max 2 hour drive away or immediate family (like husband’s grandmother). I feel like a brother-in-law is far enough removed that you can skip the invite and they won’t be offended.

This is your FH's brother (I assume), so I would consider that immediate family for a co-ed shower - if it was a standard shower, with only the ladies, I would agree with Hannah. In this case, I would invite them because they are immediate family.

View Quoted Comment Sorry yes, this is my FH's brother so he is immediate family. And thank you both for the input!

Only invite those who are attending the wedding but live in a 2hr drive radius.

This one might be more of a “know your crowd” type thing. Some people might be offended if you don’t send one and complain that “you aren’t recognizing me as being part of the family.” While others interpret as “gift grabby”. Personally, I sent a bridal shower invite to my out-of-state aunt because we are very close, and if she had been in-state, she definitely would have wanted to come. I wanted to recognize her as someone I would have loved having there, but she knew there was no obligation.

Since it's a co-ed shower and your FH's immediate family, I'd send them an invitation. I also think Erin's advice on sending an invitation to people who would definitely want to attend if they lived closer is a good idea.

Thank you all! I am thinking that I will invite them because if they lived closer, they would definitely want to be there.

Everyone was out of town for my bridal shower, even my mom and sisters who planned it. Not many people ended up attending, but I still invited all the women in my life I was close to including my grandma who had already declined being able to come before invited went out. I thought the gesture of inviting was kinder than only inviting people in a certain radius.

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That makes a lot of sense, thank you!