What is the etiquette for inviting out of town guests to the shower (especially if we know they will not be able to come)? I've read some posts that say it appears gift grabby, which we definitely do not want. But I also do not want to seem rude by excluding people.
My family is throwing us a co-ed shower and I know for a fact that my brother-in-law and his wife (who live 1,000+ miles away) will not be able to make it due to their work and their kids. We are not particularly close because they live so far away. Is it better to invite them knowing they cannot come or does that come across as greedy? Please help!