Wedding redo

View Quoted Comment I bet you still looked gorgeous on your big day! Our wedding attendance will be around 150, so it’s definitely been expensive, but a big wedding has always been my dream!

I wish I had gotten the videographer!

Most people did not take videos, as I thought they would, so key moments like the dances and speeches were really hard to track down. There is just so much going on and you cannot capture it all - the video is something I wish I had done. It is worth it!!!

I wish I had gotten the videographer!

Most people did not take videos, as I thought they would, so key moments like the dances and speeches were really hard to track down. There is just so much going on and you cannot capture it all - the video is something I wish I had done. It is worth it!!!

I would definitely get a videographer. The only video I have is from cell phones. Didn’t think I would want it but now I do lol

I would have picked a different group of girls for my bride tribe and spent more time with my mom. My girls ended up ditching the night before, the morning of, and the night of the wedding to do drugs (even after we said no drugs allowed due to us being in recovery). I cried most of my wedding weekend and wish we were able to do a redo, because it wasn't what I had always dreamed of. And because I was so hurt, I ended up pushing my mom away on my big day so I have barely any photos with her. It was horrible and not a dream come true at all.

I was on a tight budget but finding a photographer was difficult and someone offered to do it for free but 😭 honestly some of my guest and my mother law captured better photos of us then the photographer did. A lot of his pictures came out blurry . MY ADVICE take a look at the photographers work and look at reviews . It’s best to hire someone that works with another partner because it seems almost impossible for 1 photographer to capture so many special moments and then you have guest and people trying to get photos of themselves and with others . It was annoying. So one photographer that can focus on the couple and the other can capture pictures of people and scenes .

View Quoted Comment Omg I’m sorry hun! I can’t even believe your BMs did that, I can only imagine how you were feeling. And maybe you can have a redo one day with the right people!

Probably wouldn't have had a ceremony. The place I had it at was very remote and the vendors in that area did not do a good job. At all.

Attempted to schedule time to taste the food being served. Venue provided caterer prepared food that was left to be desired..........this is the challenge when having a destination wedding - - you lose out on such.

View Quoted Comment Us too! Made me sad that I bought vintage umbrellas for my girls and I and we never got one picture with them....😞

We probably would have eloped. We had a lot of people RSVP and never showed. We spent a lot of money on food that was never eaten.

I think I'm in agreement with most the pictures/photographer. There were some moments I wish I would have gotten better pictures. I wanted to get one with each of out family.

View Quoted Comment Awww im so sorry that is horrible they would do that to you. Maybe one day you and your husband can renew your vows and make it special

The biggest thing I'd re-do is hiring a better DJ. My mom had an acquaintence who DJs on the side, and he was the worst I've ever heard. His phone went off twice during the ceremony, he played the wrong songs a couple times, and some of the songs were a terrible quality. On top of that, he rarely spent time at the DJ table so people couldn't request songs.
Don't just use people because you know them, unless you are 110% certain they will provide the service you want.

I also would have timed out my rehearsal a bit more. I had envisioned myself walking out to a certain part of a song, but I didn't time at the rehearsal, and it ended up being way off. It threw me off so much, that I essentially ran down the aisle and I didn't get my big moment.
Practice until it's perfect, because it will only be done once on the big day.

The one thing I am so glad I did, however, was hire a social media team. I hired two people to run around, capturing candids throughout the day. They then posted to a public Facebook group where we invited family who couldn't come, as well as other people who just wanted to snoop (aka parents' friends). They also ended up sending us all of the photos and videos they took - which was over 1,000! Some of our best and favorite photos of the night are from our social media team, and it made a huge impact. Everybody loved being able to "be there" without actually being there. It was amazing!
We even had our guests posting their own photos to the Facebook group, so it really was so fun being able to look at everything. You can see how well it went here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1167904296949159

The only thing that I would have changed was not doing a game that we did. We had planned a surprise scattegories type game for my family with questions based around my Husband and I. However, it was not executed in the matter that we were expecting and because of that we feel that the room lost a lot of energy and it took a lot to get things rolling again.

Stress less about the little things, like decor. I was so obsessed with every little detail of table settings and decor, and then day off, there were hurricane force winds and half my decor couldn't be used because of it. and you know what? it didn't matter, it was stunning anyway and no one noticed but me. The day will be stunning no matter what.

and second, have a legit shot list for the photographer. don't think that just because they are a pro, you don't need one. somehow, I do not have a single picture of just my mom and I from my wedding day, which breaks both our hearts.

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I am so afraid I am going to get too nervous/excited and drink too much!

Congrats! You will have a wonderful time! Thinking back to my wedding and some details I wish differently was one, pay attention to the details. You put in so much work, time and money, enjoy those details. I was so caught up in the moment I didn’t even know how the tables looked, the decors, etc, I’m glad the photographer took pics of everything! Haha Second, don’t forget any important info on invites and have at least 3 different people read your sample invite first. It made sense to me and my fiancée but I kept getting questions from guests. I would’ve added on that ceremony/reception would be outdoors so people knew what to bring. Also, always always have a plan B for weather if you’re doing it outdoors. I figured there would be no rain or wind in mid Sept in CA. The week of my wedding it was 90 degree sunny and the day of my wedding a sudden rainstorm came that lasted from morning till 1 hour before my wedding. The following day was sunny. However, my wedding was a dream that I fell in love with! Wish I could replay it all over again! ❤️

View Quoted Comment At the end of the day, my husband is what matters and we both had a great time. It's funny how you remember more of what went wrong sometimes, but then it makes you remember what went right. Now I just need to clean and sell my wedding dress! It's too beautiful to keep in a closet ⚘

I would extend my reception. We thought 5 hours for ceremony & reception would be plenty of time, but I wish we'd had at least an extra hour of dancing and spending time with our loved ones. It all goes by so fast and was the most magical night, but I would have loved for it to be just a little longer. Otherwise, it was a perfect day!