Wedding redo

Stress less! If something goes wrong more than likely you will be the only one that knows what was supposed to happen! At the end of the day you are marrying the love of your life and that’s all that matters not the decorations not the dress not the food nothing else matters but the love you both share! Also make sure the dress fits perfectly a few days before the wedding if not get emergency alterations I was 3 months pregnant when tying the know this November 13th and my dress was too tight and hurt the entire ceremony and reception don’t make that mistake make sure the dress is comfortable! Good luck and I wish you all the happiness in the world!!!!

View Quoted Comment Wow! I can only imagine how difficult that was lol, but thankfully mine is a one point but I still videoed so we remember!

View Quoted Comment This is actually my biggest worry! I actually went to cosmetology for a while and Im doing my own makeup, but Im so stressed about it! I hired someone for hair and makeup for my girls, but I never am happy when other people do my makeup. I just hope all goes well lol

Thank y’all all so much, this was definitely needed!!!

View Quoted Comment I’m sure you’ll do great! I am unskilled as far as the various eyeshadow looks I saved and wanted to do. I hear you, in the past I’ve never been satisfied with anyone else doing my makeup but I am hoping your special day is ultra fantastic!

Stay with your partner all night! If you lose them, you might not see them again for a longgg time. Plus, everyone who wants to see your partner, probably wants to see you, too!

I agree with PP's, I would have built in more time for photo's and been more vocal about wanting more photo's. Our photographer was AMAZING and would have taken all the photo's I wanted but I was worried about seeming vain. We ended up having an intimate wedding (32 total) and it was incredible, if you can shrink the list do it. We still talk to everyone who came to our wedding weekend and had time to actually enjoy our entire day. Good luck, congrats and happy planning!!

I planned my wedding in 2.5 months, we had 65 guests, and so overall I think I did great but I would have 1) hired a second photographer 2) Took the time to build a must have shot list I have over 900+ so I have some many wonderful but there are a few couple and getting ready shots that I don't have and in the moment you get distracted. I also wish I took solo shots with a few people. I should had sent my shot list to the photographer, my DOC and videographer. and 3) scheduled a call with my videographer and photographer as they didn't come from the same company

1) We were able to both have getting ready shots but it would had been nice for us to each have a photographer at the venue to get those shots before we walked down the aisle and also have a photographer glued to him and one glued to me as I walked down the aisle. I also would had sent 1 photographer to cocktail hour to take photos of guests and then could have released them once the reception kicked.

2) I started a shot list but focused on other things and decided to just trust the photographer. He got great shots but I wish I had a shot list.

3) My videographer did an excellent job and overall worked well with my photographer despite not meeting beforehand but for some shots my photographer should have had more precedence but my photographer did an excellent job still.

1. Communication with vendors/family. We were scheduled to take family photos with my extended family (which I had mentioned and asked my dad to remind his brother/sister), but they left right after the ceremony. We did get them later at the reception, but they were not as formal as my husbands family photos. Our reception arrangements weren’t as big as I had envisioned.


2. My dress. Although it was beautiful the style was not designed to provide the support I had wanted and is noticeable in our photos.
3. I wish I hadn’t stepped on a metal prong the day before. It resulted in having to get a tetanus shot the morning of. Just made it pretty hard to walk and had to change shoes last minute.
4. Not checking my bustle before the wedding. My seamstress showed me how to do it, but the day of I realized the string she sewed to clip was missing. We had to improvise, but it didn’t last long.
5. We didn’t have time to do a walk through of our first dance. We made some minor mistakes that nobody noticed, but I know it could’ve been better if we had given each other that time.

The hall I rented didn’t come with linens and I bought them instead of renting, (it was cheaper for me), I would rent them instead, the time it took to iron them all was a bit ridiculous, definitely could have spent my time relaxing, thank goodness my wedding party helped!

I would have been more strict with the invitations. My guest list grew out of control at the last minute and some of the last minute add one didn’t even show up.

View Quoted Comment I know that’s right!

View Quoted Comment Sorry you had to go through that.

Nothing. I really feel we did everything right and everyone told us it was the most beautiful wedding they’d ever been to. I am a planner at heart so everything went well. And even though it rained, our wedding was still amazing.


My advice is to plan your heart out prior with the intention of having your wedding day to relax and enjoy. Figure out your goal for your wedding. What do you want to convey to your guests about you as a couple, your love and your style of living? What’s the purpose of even having this thing? That’s more important than colors and all that other stuff you take quizzes on. Because from there you can plan a wedding that says YOU!
And make sure your vendors fit your style of who you are and how you do business. We are cool, elegantly casual so we left things up to them because they are the experts. My hubby and I would never want someone to tell us how to do our job if they’ve never done it. So that flowed into our vendor choices.
Finally, and most important, take a pause from time to time. I literally stood there a while just listening to my entrance music because our coordinator said, “You go when you are ready”. And when I walked around the corner, I stood there and looked at everyone and everything. And I even thanked people as I walked down the aisle because I was so grateful to be with them all. And during the reception, we took time to look around at everyone, to see people enjoying themselves. Because for us, that’s what it was all about.

I wouldn’t of paid for a videographer. Our video was okay but I really wanted like a home video vibe where one could hear everything going on in the video instead of having custom music playing over top and muting the video. That is my only regret.


With wedding planning, I started planning a year ahead of time. And the best thing that I did was ask family members and friends to do things - decorating, MC, coordinator, etc all the rolls of the wedding. The only thing we hired was for the tent, tables, chairs and Porta potties

1) I wouldn't have done a guest book. I know who was there. We even had a sign for people to leave "Wishes, quotes, advice, or jokes" one page was just peoples names, and then maybe four people actually wrote something. The rest is just empty. The cards people gave had much more thoughtful things written in them. 2) Double check that your Person of Honor (or someone, a parent, sibling whatever) knows what you want your photographer to be doing if you are running late (such as sending them to get pictures of your partner). It will make you feel less pressured, those last moments of getting ready can be emotional roller coasters. And feeling like your late/wasting peoples time won't help. Have that same person be in charge of your phone. You will be getting texts until the last minute and will be too busy to even know where your phone is. 3) Not something a change but something I recommend ****% I had to have everything to our venue by noon the day before. Which meant the night before I didn't have any last minute things to get done, instead I got to relax at a hotel with my bridesmaids and my out of town family. A much better way to be present in the moment.

View Quoted Comment We’re actually doing a wooden sign with our names on it, instead of a guest book. Our guests will sign it and we can just hang it on the wall after! And I actually have 5 binders with all the info, so no one should need me. I completely expect my FH to text me though lol!

I would definitely book the venue for two days and set up the day before. What a hassle I had on my hands. I was running around like crazy decorating and then had hair and makeup and all. I was exhausted before the ceremony even began.

I would redo the amount of people we planned to have (100) & just reach out to 30 or less people and hop on a plane to Mexico and get married on the beach which I just found out would have been WAY cheaper . I unfortunately cancelled my wedding day due to too many guests and not enough money to pay for food 🤦🏽‍♀️ Went down to the courthouse and wore my dress instead and took pictures with who was around us that day.


Congratulations 🍾🎉 on becoming a fiancé !
SN: I have a lot of wedding stuff if you will need some stuff . My wedding colors were navy blue, rose gold and white/cream. Just ask I may have it .

Tell the photographer to get pics or video of all the things you invested time and money that you wouldn’t typically see but the guests will, like the flowers or the decorations at entry points or memory corners. We forgot to get the entry way photo and I’m still kicking myself cause it was the best floral arrangement we got. I have no memory of it cause we didn’t walk in the front like a guest. Also - be flexible - ish will happen - rely on your preset go to people. Also, pro tip - Make sure someone has a small sewing kit that has clear nail polish and safety pins as well. You have no idea how handy that stuff was. Savor every moment!