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Wedding Reception vs. “party” with venues

Jessica, on January 23, 2022 at 8:01 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 12

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Hi all! My husband and I got married last year in a small, private ceremony with our church with the idea of the doing a bigger reception/party later (like 2023 maybe?) because #Covid.
We’re in the process of looking at venues and I feel like the second you mention the word “wedding”, the price literally triples! I understand the extras that go into a wedding reception vs. just a “party” but my god…
He has the opinion that we don’t tell venues it’s a wedding reception to avoid the price hike. I feel like it can’t be avoided because that IS what we’re doing. Thoughts? Has anyone does this or know someone that has? Thank you!

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Latest activity by Jessica, on January 24, 2022 at 1:39 PM

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Sarah · on January 23, 2022 at 8:04 PM
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Could you ask them what the specific differences are between the two and try to reach a compromise with the venue you like? Our venue charged the same cost per person no matter what kind of event you were having so I didn’t experience wedding upcharging like what you’re describing. I’d think if you book it as a party and then clearly throw a wedding reception, the venue could shut your event down and sue you for breach of contract.
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Michelle · on January 23, 2022 at 8:41 PM
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The only place you could pull this off is a parks department owned venue. Otherwise, vendors and venues will charge fines and void the contract so they don’t work when they do find out.

Because you are already married, and hopefully you will be honest with them with the info shared here, in their eyes you would be having a vow renewal which it technically is. Sometimes that costs as much as a wedding and sometimes not. It’s always best to not lie because they will find out. Be upfront in asking what the difference in price is and negotiate.
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Jacks · on January 24, 2022 at 2:01 AM
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Oh wow, no, I wouldn't lie. Venues do have a lot more to tend to when it comes to weddings. Also currently you're having a vow renewal, maybe it will be cheaper.
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Chloe · on January 24, 2022 at 6:39 AM
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We've had to postpone our reception due to covid and we just sat down with our new venue and had an honest discussion about their pricing regarding weddings vs. parties. We've met somewhere in the middle.
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Samantha · on January 24, 2022 at 8:06 AM
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If you aren't doing a ceremony or the typical wedding stuff that would affect the venue, then I don't see why they need to know. As long as no contract rules get broken!
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Jessica · on January 24, 2022 at 11:31 AM
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That's what I was thinking! Once they see what we're doing (either during the planning process or after) it's clearly a wedding reception LOL I always think transparency is best!
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Jessica · on January 24, 2022 at 11:32 AM
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Thank you so much!
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Jessica · on January 24, 2022 at 11:32 AM
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It looks like negotiating is the way to go! Thank you!
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Jessica · on January 24, 2022 at 11:33 AM
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That's excellent! I'm glad you were able to negotiate something. It gives me hope!
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Jessica · on January 24, 2022 at 11:35 AM
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We wouldn't be doing a ceremony, but everything else would be your typical "wedding reception"... including the cocktail hour. LOL
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Michelle · on January 24, 2022 at 1:22 PM
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That is very common of anniversary parties. The couple often does not wear wedding attire.
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Jessica · on January 24, 2022 at 1:39 PM
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That's a good point! But we would definitely be wearing wedding attire. Unless I tell them I just like white fancy dresses haha (Joking!)
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