Wedding postponed

First piece of advice is to proofread. It was tough to understand what you were saying. Second, I think it's important to get down to the bottom of why you are postponing. Try couples counseling. Obviously communication is lacking. Best of luck.

First take a deep breath and try not to stress too much! Have you tried talking with fh about why he feels it's not the right time? Is it the house? Is he nervous? Maybe he's worried about money with the house and the wedding? Try to start a light conversation with him about what both of you expect for the wedding maybe that will help him understand how you feel about it l.

Well, I'm not positive if any advice I give will be helpful, but I, personally, feel that there's something deeper going on if this is the second time he's backing out of marriage plans.

By your initial post, he proposed to you, then called off the engagement, but then proposed again...only to want to postpone the wedding, which is two-weeks out...that's a red flag, in my opinion...

I think there's something more going on then him feeling overwhelmed with everything going on. Why did he call off the engagement the first time? Was it for the same reason he wants to postpone the wedding right now?

First thing you have to do is call everyone. You are 2 weeks out and you have made this decision, you need to let your guests know.

I think you should look in couples counseling. It seems he's probably having some deeper feelings about this or he's not aware of what this means to you and your family members.

Okay first of all I really can't read this so I'm not exactly sure what's going on.

Sounds like you and FH need to communicate - this is a conversation that should've been had WELL before you sent out any invitations. The fact that you said he took his proposal back once already is a major red flag. Good luck.

The first he proposed he took it back and say he wasn't ready

But this he actually proposed with a ring

I'd be more concerned about why my FH is backing out for a second time on marrying me. I'd say you need to have a conversation and see what's really going on and why he wants to postpone. You're two weeks away, if he really doesn't want to go through with it you need to start calling guests asap. I'm sorry that you're going through this!

First of all, an engagement is an engagement, with or without a ring. If you're actively planning a wedding and don't have a ring, you're still engaged.

Second, the first time he proposed, he wasn't ready; the second time he proposed, he wants to postpone everything two weeks out because he feels overwhelmed. He knows that it means a lot to you to get married in two weeks time so your grandmother can be a part of your special day; he agreed to it. However, again, now that he's ready to postpone things so suddenly...this isn't a good sign...and paired with the previous called-off engagement...again, not a good sign...

I think there's something more going on. If you're going to postpone, start making calls now, as someone else mentioned. Regardless on whether or not you postpone the wedding or not, you two need to talk and I second the recommendation for couples counseling.

Ring or no ring, a proposal should mean he's ready to get married. He should not have asked either of those times if he wasn't.

I'm sorry this is happening, but I agree with Rachel, this might be a deal breaker for me,

I agree with pp this is a big red flag. Discuss couples counseling with him.

Also, it's very hard to give advice when posts are unclear. Proof reading and clarifying some things might bring better advice.

OP I agree with others that there seems to be bigger problems here than postponing the actual wedding. And due to those issues, I think you should cancel the wedding scheduled. You two really need to sit down with a counselor and talk some things out. It is evident you and your FH are not on the same page here and the last thing you should do right now is get married. Enlist help to call your guests and vendors to cancel and get an appointment scheduled with a counselor as soon as one can see you!!! Best of luck!

I'm sorry but it seems like there are too many warning signs. When someone proposes to you, they propose to you because they absolutely know you are the one to be in their life. You don't just propose to someone and take it back because come to think of it you weren't ready. This isn't about asking someone to be their girlfriend/boyfriend. And for this to happen SECOND time, I say there is too many warning signs before the wedding even started...

He seems very immature and cannot effectively communicate his feelings with you..how old is he? Just curious. I'm sorry you are going through this, but if he thinks he can just back out of proposals to you whenever he wants, for whatever reason, then you're probably saving yourself from a lifetime of turmoil.

He took back his first proposal and now he's wanting to postpone? With two weeks to go? I suggest counseling stat and you should consider if you want to pursue a future with a man who's now, in one way or another, backed out of marrying you. I'd be incredibly mad if FH decided to postpone two weeks away from the wedding. By then, everything would be (mostly) paid for. That's a lot of money potentially wastes

Honestly, OP, I hope you call off the wedding, or at the very least postpone it, and attend couples counseling. There's a lot red flags and red flags do not a good marriage make.

He's 26 we have four children together two are biologically his. We really been doing great until when its time for the commitment he say's things like we need to build things first but I've told him we building together as one. Too me he just want to stay in girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. That he can't proposing to me and take back.

So many red flags I could make Santa a new suit.

Go to individual and couples counseling. But honestly, if he already took it back once and he still isn't ready, I doubt he ever will be. You may be dodging a bullet. Please seek professional counseling and determine what you believe you deserve for yourself.

He's almost thirty, you have children together, and he STILL can't commit? I agree with Sass, it doesn't sound like he's ever going to be ready for marriage.

You two clearly want different things. Couples counseling may help, but if he is dead-set on his ways, marriage probably won't ever be in the picture.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, dear!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Especially two weeks before.

Maybe I'm a hard ass, but I wouldn't be giving my SO an opportunity to back out a third time.