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Nicolette
Expert August 2016

Wedding postponed due to death....

Nicolette, on February 1, 2016 at 7:58 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 33
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Hello all. I am very heartbroken and distraught. My godfather suddenly passed away this weekend from a heart attack. He was only 47 and leaves behind two children. I am so beyond devastated as it was so sudden. He had no life insurance and his wife is currently out on disability and had no savings. With my father passing, he was the real father figure I had for the last couple years and was honestly there my entire life so I felt it only right to give what I had saved up for my wedding to give him a great funeral. I know people will probably think i'm silly for giving up all my money, which was only 5,400 and also for being sad that i'm giving up my wedding money. I am feeling so lost and confused. I felt this was the best place I could go without talking to my family about it. FH said I did the right thing and that the wedding will/can wait and I know it can I guess it's just so many emotions all at once. Thank you for letting me vent. I love all you WW ladies.

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Latest activity by FutureMrsBrbr, on February 2, 2016 at 11:20 AM
  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    Omg, I am so sorry. What a kind thing for you to do. Hugs.

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  • Sara
    Super November 2016
    Sara ·
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    I'm so sorry to hear! (Hug) It's so nice that your FH is so understanding though

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  • Amanda J.
    Master March 2016
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    I am truly sorry for your loss. Sending prayers your way. You did an incredible selfless thing and it is very admirable.

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  • M
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    Ms. Koala ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. A death is always hard to bear and when it is someone who means a lot to you it hurts much worse. You can still plan your wedding, but it's also understandable if you don't want to work on planning right now. I'm sending you hugs!

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  • Susan
    VIP September 2016
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    I am so sorry for your loss. I think it's incredibly generous of you to do what you did and when your wedding day finally comes, I'm sure he'll be smiling down on you.

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  • Lorith
    Master May 2016
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    I'm sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers. ?

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  • Nicolette
    Expert August 2016
    Nicolette ·
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    Thank you for all your condolences and kind words. I appreciate them so much.

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  • Rebecca
    Master November 2015
    Rebecca ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. You and his family will all be in my prayers.

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  • Ambelina16
    Dedicated October 2016
    Ambelina16 ·
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    What a beautiful thing for you to do! Candles lit for you honey!

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    People don't do what you did, Nicolette -- not typically. His family will never be able to express what your generosity meant to them. It was a selfless act, and I sincerely hope that you are rewarded for what you've done. Count yourself among the genuinely selfless and good people on this planet. Thirty years from now, people will still be talking about what you did (long after they would have stopped talking about your wedding). I know that wasn't your objective, but it will be part of your legacy.

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  • HazyF
    Devoted May 2016
    HazyF ·
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    So sorry for your loss.. That's a wonderful, selfless thing that you are doing., prayers and God bless.

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  • Jacqui76
    Master May 2016
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    I'm sorry for your loss Nicolette. Here's a great big internet hug for you!


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  • Jenny92
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    Im sorry for for your loss

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  • FutureMrsKnight
    Super October 2016
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    Awww I'm so sorry for your loss.

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  • CrystalQueenB
    Master August 2016
    CrystalQueenB ·
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    My condolences! He was way too young, my heart goes out to you and your loved ones! ;(

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  • EmilyJ
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    EmilyJ ·
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    I am so sorry for your loss. He must have been an amazing man to help in the upbringing of someone as selfless and sincere as you. One day, your wedding will be amazing and everything you dreamed of.

    One day at a time.

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    Zoe ·
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    I think you did a kind, brave and wonderful thing to give her your money. I am not at all surprised that you have strong, conflicting emotions-- who wouldn't? But your FH is absolutely right-- he will be there, ready to marry you, when you have the money. The funeral needs to happen now.

    Be easy on yourself-- as you know, from your father's passing, grieving is hard work.

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  • carriemichelle
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    carriemichelle ·
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    I am incredibly sorry for your loss.

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  • Jenny
    VIP December 2016
    Jenny ·
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    <3

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