Wedding Pet Peeves

View Quoted Comment Oh yes! Especially after you just got engaged. Drives me crazy. I wish there was a heart or like button

View Quoted Comment There will be people who are offended that they are not invited to our daughters wedding. But it is what it is! We have a budget and not looking to invite everyone we know for a gift. We want the people there that we actually enjoy and talk to

View Quoted Comment DITTO! And the Baclorette parties!! The trip, stay, special T-shirt, etc. The expectation that BM should cover all the brides expenses in said trip. Our daughter is in Professional school and does joy have a job, and on a school loan. She isn’t taking these trips on my credit card!

View Quoted Comment My daughter wants No kids for this very reason. It is her day and we shouldn’t be worried about children running out of control.

View Quoted Comment Omg this!! I had a co worker I only worked with for a month or so (3 years ago) put me on the spot and ask me if she was invited to my wedding, right in front of a bunch of current co workers (still work at the same place). It’s super awkward and rude.

In general..... don't hate me please, but I'm personally not a fan of sand ceremonies. I get why you have them but they're just not for me.

Specifically related to my wedding: I can't stand the snide remarks I've been getting regarding corners we cut, when the corners we cut were SPECIFICALLY so we could even afford to invite those making the snide remarks. Like I guess my less-expensive wedding isn't good enough for some people in my family..... why did I press so hard to have a wedding (instead of elopement) to invite them to in the first place?!

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Thank you for saying this..... I SOOOO needed to read it just now!!!!

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I agree so much with this! I have multiple relatives on both of our sides saying to just go to the courthouse, save your money. Seriously?!?! YOU had a beautiful wedding - not in a courthouse with no after party and just jeans. Why on earth would you tell me not to have my own dream day?? Ugh!
Not saying courthouse weddings aren't magical, just saying that their idea is to not be done up. So jeans, t-shirt, no special vows and no decor...

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Agreed! It kills me when I overhear someone telling my FH that his life is over, or its not too late to run, or even what the heck did you do that for?? When they are married themselves. Ridiculous

Lol these will be unpopular:

Kid free weddings. I find them snobby 🤷🏻‍♀️ We had tons of little kids at our wedding, and it was no issue. Kids are part of a family and weddings are a family event, and usually the people choosing to exclude kids have zero clue how inconvenient that is.

The “it’s my day, I don’t have to accommodate anyone else” mentality. No no, an elopement is your day. But hosting a party means being a host and considering the needs of your guests. Now that doesn’t mean you can’t buck tradition... I didn’t do a bouquet or garter toss. But no seating, insufficient food, running hours late, or other inconsiderate things for the sake of “vision” bothers me.

Brides who have their whole wedding planned before they are even engaged and it seems like he was just an ingredient beaten into the mix. Similarly, grooms who push off the whole thing on their brides. My husband wasn’t terribly hands on, but he was very supportive, always offered a helpful opinion and let me vent. I also planned tons of little surprises for him to make it feel like his day.

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Yes!! We looked at lots of hotels and this was a huge issue. It was the main reason for us ruling out several venues we liked otherwise.

Cash bars!!!! The worst.

Can you imagine inviting guests over for a dinner party and charging them for the alcohol? Absolutely not! The wedding is one large dinner party. If you can't afford to host that many people, then adjust the size of your wedding until it becomes within your budget.

Might be my old-fashioned Emily Post self talking but that is something I will forever find just the tackiest.

My biggest wedding pet peeve is white and ivory together. They clash so bad! I thought it was bad when I attended a wedding where a bride with an ivory dress wore a white veil, but later I saw photos on Facebook of another bride in an ivory dress and the groom in a white tux

View Quoted Comment For reals??? Sounds like a movie!

View Quoted Comment You should hit them back with a "what do you mean?" and an inquisitive look so they understand you're actually looking for an answer. Like you said, these may be 'jokes' but there's an underlying issue of not truly appreciating marriage and what it stands for. If you ask them what they mean, they may think twice about what they're saying since they will have to awkwardly explain that they have commitment issues or they're just trying to be funny (which obv it's not, it's annoying). Food for thought.

View Quoted Comment Truth!! This annoys me too!! Like set back Susan this is my wedding not yours if I want something let me figure my budget not with assistance unless asked! So aggravating on top of decisions to be made already! Makes your thinking become overthinking and overwhelming!

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THIS. I had one person ask how big our guestlist is and when I said 250 the response was "wow, how are you going to pay for that? Your parents must be paying".

SO RUDE AND AWKWARD.

View Quoted Comment Or you should save the money for a nice honeymoon. We have 2 young kids and don't want to leave them for long periods of time so we're doing a few nights at a nice hotel and that's it

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I totally agree with this one! I have 2 close friends at work who are my bridesmaids and then 2 other people I am close with are invited as well. That's it. Well all the older ladies in the office who rarely talk to me, got upset and complained that I talk about my wedding to much and they aren't invited so they don't want to hear about it. I was like seriously, now it is uncomfortable in my office when the wedding topic pops up.