Wedding Party Vs. No Wedding Party

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That sounds wonderful. It sounds like you have great people to make you feel loved and supportive on such an important day. May it be as beautiful as you imagine.

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That sounds really tough. I hope she can get to a point where she is supportive of you and your plans for the big day. Good luck with your planning and with finding peace between you.

I've been a bridesmaid a lot and so I chose to have only one attendant for my wedding. It's been fabulous. All my friends were understanding that we kept the party small, and still helped host my shower. I know some people who enjoy big wedding parties, but I'm loving our having one attendant apiece🤷🏼‍♀️

We've decided not to have a wedding party. Second wedding, destination-style here. I'll have my mom, sister and bestie with me to help get ready, but we're having a super relaxed microwedding of 20 ppl and are trying to keep the drama nonexistant. My sons will walk me down the aisle, my FH will be walked down the aisle by his son and daughter as well. No fancy suits or expensive dresses for anyone to pay for (except FH and I), no gifts tossed in the corner that we can't really afford anyway. We're keeping it small, fun, and totally us. Next summer we'll be looking at a BBQ reception for friends, but even that will be shorts and t-shirts. We've done the big white weddings, and just can't see spending the big money, time or headaches that go into a huge wedding.

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She had the big wedding the first time, I did not. I also didn't get to make any of the choices, just agreed to what was chosen for me. This time we wanted to make it us. We will each be escorted by our sons, 1 each, who will be our best men. We only asked them to bring black pants and shoes and we are buying their shirts and ties. It has been very drama free. My close friend, future daughter-in-law, and future sister-in-law will be getting ready with me, sis-in-law will also bounce into her room to help us both. The wedding is big in some respects, and small in others which is what we really wanted. We essentially wanted a beautiful ceremony with a cocktail party on the beach, we are having just that. I love seeing other brides planning what they want too. I've seen so many brides end up like me the first time around. I feel so bad for them.

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I totally get it. I'm trying to get my FH more involved, he did much the same as you, went with what was chosen. Not this time! He's all in whether he likes it or not! It sounds like your day is going to be absolutely gorgeous - I'm so excited for you! We just wanted intimate, fun, relaxed and all about the two of us. We're going to (we think!) be getting married on a small party boat at sunset, just awaiting a final confirmation from our vendor. So excited! Ceremony on the top deck, delicious dinner to follow. Short and sweet, with time to celebrate with friends following.

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She insisted I get what I wanted and since I'm a planner it's been a lot. She constantly has to remind me to take some things go. That is the hard part for me because when I plan a party it has to be perfect.

That sounds beautiful!!! Good luck on the venue! The pictures are going to be amazing.

We have decided to not have a wedding party. We are pretty young so it came as a surprise to our close family and friends, but we are doing a destination wedding with about 75 guests, and we wanted to make it less about “the event” and more about us as a couple and our marriage. No bridal party DEFINITELY makes planning easier and will end up saving us money so I’m all for it! Also — my FH did NOT like the idea of having to pick and choose out of his brothers and friends

We chose to have my FH's son as the best man and my nephew as the sir of honor and then our daughter as an honorary. We both love going with this, but my family is taking it all personally that they don't get to be in it 🙄

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That I can relate to. I just couldn't pick only a few of the many people that have stood by my side and become my family. My FW is my best friend, but I have a bestie, a best girl, and several people I call sister or brother. Now they all get to come and enjoy the party without feeling obligated to do a thing.

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That's tough. I hope they realize it's not a snub. We have been very lucky that everyone is just excited for the ceremony. Good luck to you and your family.