Wedding Party Hotel Rooms

If you've already told them that their rooms will be paid for then I think you should pay for them. If not, paying for the accommodations is a nice gesture but it wouldn't be a huge faux pas to have them pay for their own. Based on your post, though, I think you've already told them the rooms would be covered.

I agree with Caitlin. I know it is an extra expense but if it was offered, you can't take it back. Hope it all works out

You should pay for them and if your MIL gets mad you can just tell her you were mistakenly (eyeroll) under the impression she was paying for them and they planned accordingly.

It is so frustrating that she went back on her word, sorry OP. To other brides, this is a good example of why you can't count on help until the money is in your bank account.

I agree that if you already told them the rooms were covered then you and your FH should cover the cost of those rooms. And your MIL doesn't need to get upset about it because she doesn't need to know. Just like it is her prerogative to only pay for her family's rooms, it is your prerogative how your money is spent. You do not need to discuss your finances with her.

I think you and your FH should cover the rooms. If I had been told that you were renting a room for me and then, later on, was told you changed your mind I would probably ask you to cancel the reservation as this isn't something I intended to spend money on.

Also, why would you tell your FMIL that you paid for their rooms? That is none of her business and I wouldn't even mention it. If FMIL asks if the other wedding party members have booked their rooms you can just tell her that everything has been taken care of and she doesn't need to worry about it. I would stop discussing my/our finances with her.

I would be uncomfortable with the situation, especially if I wasn't able to take care of it financially. If they've already been told that they'll be paid for, then that still needs to happen.

I 100% agree with Caitlin. If this is already something that's been communicated to them - please follow through. I once was a bridesmaid in a wedding where a friend was constantly taking back things she'd previously said to save money. I understood the REASON, but it came across as really really inconsiderate. That said, i've never had a couple pay for my room before (have been in 7 weddings) - so I certainly don't think it's a faux pas if you haven't already committed to it!

Thanks, everyone! We let our WP know we'd be covering their rooms on the night of the wedding, and so far, everyone has been great about it.

Whether or not we tell my FMIL about our financial decisions, she still comments on how she perceives that we have spent our money - not something I will ever be able to escape. But for this choice, at least, I feel justified in the decision we've made.

Where would they be staying if this situation didn't come up? If they basically accepted an invitation to an OOT wedding, they had to figure they'd be responsible for accommodation of some kind.