Wedding on Birthday Weekend?

Do what's best for you.

I once got into it with a bride on FB who threw a fit that her best friend dared have his wedding on her birthday weekend. My point is that she has lots of birthdays, he should have one (hopefully) wedding. And if "doing something special" was important to her, she should observe her birthday on another weekend. In other words, adults do not throw tantrums about events that happen near their birthdays.

My sister had her wedding the week of my birthday. And i was fine. Dont worry!

I thought this was going to be about doing a wedding on a family member's bday (mom, sister, etc.). Honestly, even that isn't a huge deal - FSIL is getting married on her sister's birthday next year and everyone's cool about it.

Don't move your wedding for a friend's wife or boyfriend, that's silly.

Do what's best for you. It's not like every year its going to affect their birthday.

We had our wedding two days after my MOHs birthday and in her husbands birthday. Not a big deal. Of course we've been BFFs for 20 years and she was bummed it was his birthday not hers! (Hers was a thurs we got married on a sat). Now of course I had to redirect her a bit as she joked(?) about making our girls night her birthday celebration reminding her it was my wedding that she thoroughly supported the date for

Okay - thanks, everyone. I try to be super considerate (sometimes I'm TOO considerate), so I had a moment of panic, but what you are saying makes sense. I will leave it alone.

@8815wedding - We actually have a ton of family birthdays (my sister, dad, uncle, and two cousins) and another family wedding scheduled in July alone, so we knocked that month out in the beginning. I thought August would be safer. lol

Funny thing is, I looked up my Facebook to see if I had any friends with birthdays. I didn't so I was stoked. Turns out we ended up having two. One of our couple friends - the husband doesn't have fb. And a friend of my mom's. We wrote Happy Birthday on their place cards and I wished them both a happy birthday in person at the wedding. No biggie

DO NOT Change your date! My FH's brother got married a day before my bday. It is what it is. Now I will never forget their anniversary and they will never forget my bday

Thanks so much! I feel better now. @Gamecock Mrs. - That's a great idea. We will be sure to acknowledge both of the birthdays in some way.

Don't sweat it-- just this once these people will have to spend their birthday attending your wedding (but hey-- they get a free meal and free cake-- SWEET!), and from then on your anniversary will not impede their birthday in the slighest.

I was in a wedding, clear on the other side of the country and missed my FH 30th birthday. It sucked and I was really sad the night before but the reality was that they are farmers and they had to do the wedding when it was right for them. I had a choice to make and I asked my FH (we had been dating for 4 years at the time and living together for 2 years) He was very understanding and said that weddings only happen once and so we decided I should go and I did.

I'm sure the next question is why didn't he go with you? Well lets just say they didn't (and still don't) get along all that well. Not to mention the cost to travel etc... I stayed on the farm with her, if he went we would have required a hotel etc....

Anyway, point is, you have to pick the date that works for you!

PS FH bday is Aug 21st and my brother and BF at the time who both went with me.... their birthday's were Aug 22nd.

Mandigurl - How funny that it was the same dates! He's right, though. Weddings (ideally!) only happen once.

I had my heart set on 8-8 because we would be together 8 years. Well, it is also my nieces 8th birthday! My fw didn't want to take anything away from my niece so we are doing it on August 1st. However... if anyone other than my IMMEDIATE family's (inc nieces and nephews) birthday falls on that date...ie: cousins, friends, aunts, uncles.... I wouldn't move it. In fact I just found out recently that our date is on her grandfather's birthday! He passed away a little over a year ago though. His wife (fw's grandmother) seems to be happy about the date. Which is very surprising since they (her dad's side) are very religious and never "condoned" our relationship.

@Lauren I know right! That's almost the funniest part! I think I was more stressed about it then he was!

I am getting married August 22 as well...which is also my sisters birthday...and she's in the wedding as a bridesmaid. My FH and I plan on giving her a birthday shout-out etc...

Mandigurl - It's nice to have such an understanding FH! I am glad it worked out.

WeAreOne0822 - Date twin! I am sure your sister will appreciate the birthday shout out.

I feel like I could be the expert on this subject thread, believe me! Where should I start? First, like everyone else has said, let me just get this out of the way: Do what is best for you and FH! For sure!! I know through experience, hard experience.

Well, we had a difficult time choosing dates/venues in the beginning. I have allergies in Spring, so I didn't want to be miserable on my wedding day. Fall has always been my favorite time of the year, and everyone who knows and loves me knows this. Also, our first date was in October, although early October, but the rates weren't cheaper. FH didn't want a winter or summer wedding. We find our venue and the coordinator tells us that we should "jump on 10/17" because it is still a nice time of the year around where we live, and it is the first Saturday (which FH wanted a Saturday) wedding date available with the new "off-season rates" which we were looking for. Perfect! Except, my FH's birthday is the next day on 10/18. He said he didn't mind having our wedding anniversary a day before his birthday. Very sweet I thought. Now, my MOH's daughter's birthday is on my wedding date 10/17, but she isn't a child, she is 23 years old. I asked my MOH what she thought about it, she said she didn't care because her daughter is old enough now and does her own thing on her birthday. But, I am inviting MOH's entire family, including her daughter, so I asked her daughter, her daughter said it didn't bother her and it was just another reason to celebrate her birthday. Great. So, I booked it. 10/17 it is. Well, my brother and SIL got wind of this and proceeded to tear me apart. It just so happens that 10/17 is their "5th year wedding anniversary" - it is also my aunt's wedding anniversary and they are thrilled and honored that I will have the same anniversary date, but my SIL isn't thrilled about it. But yeah, everyone was fine with it except for my brother's wife ... It just confirmed how many good people I have in my life and who is not a good person, or rather jealous and selfish. Besides, I have gone to enough weddings, and I can't count how many times the dj will make an announcement to all the birthdays or anniversaries of guests in attendance that have been made, which, by the way, I always think is very special. Bottom line is we would drive ourselves crazy trying to book a wedding date that accommodates everyone. As for my brother's wife, I asked her if she thought she "owned 10/17?!" I thought it was impeccably selfish of her, and a little jealous, especially because my wedding venue is much nicer than hers was (just a fact), for her to act the way she did about my wedding being on her anniversary. Also, our family doesn't do anything special for people's wedding anniversaries. Usually that is something you celebrate with your spouse alone. I do plan on having the dj make announcements throughout the night saying "Happy Birthday" or "Happy Anniversary" to any of the guests that come on their special day, and thanking them specifically for that. I think the good people in your life will be happy for you if you had your wedding on their birthday or anniversaries. Most people are honored to share a special date like that. Just my experiences. Do what works best for you and FH. Maybe acknowledge those guests who come who have bdays or anniversaries.

My grandparents got married on G'pa's b'day.

My parents got married on St. Patrick's Day.

One of my brothers got married on G'ma's b'day.

And the world didn't stop spinning.

Picking a date was a huge issue for us, too, because of our massive families and endless birthdays all spread throughout the year.

all these ladies give great advice: do what's best for you you sound like you've got it covered!

We got married on my husbands brothers birthday- I did talk with him first to make sure he did not care- His reply was "At least I will always remember your anniversary"..