Wedding on a holiday weekend?

My wedding is Memorial Day weekend and it's working out great! I am having it on that Sunday and annually my family has a major BBQ on that Saturday so it works out great!

On the plus side the only person who complained about my choice of date was my fathers wife, she wont be able to make it "because her daughter has school and she is working and cannot ask for the day off" I gave you a year in advance, but hey that's fine, I get to enjoy my dad by himself without you

Our wedding is on a holiday weekend. (MLK) We have a few out of town guests coming, but primarily we did it so that FSIL and her DH will have 4 days off so they can be here without having to take vacation.

We are that weekend this year and a lot of people seem to be praising us for it and being able to spend the extra time around family. The only declines we got were because of not allowing children. A good point has been brought up though, which is airfare. We do have one person coming up from FL and there ticket for that weekend is $2100 round trip. The next weekend they go down to $650 round trip

ETA- plenty of notice is key! We announced our date 18 months ahead and send STD's 10 months ahead. We also went with the advice of our planner and sent invites 12 weeks out.

The keyword is that complained to your face. All i'm saying is there seems to be a lot of biased people who are saying go for it who are also having weddings holiday weekends. I know in my circle it's annoying to spend a long weekend traveling unless your wedding is in a great vacation spot as well (and thats' when flights get expensive, which it sounds like yours may not be)

I live in South Florida. I mean to each their own you know. I only know how my family is handling it. Plus i gave them plenty of notice and it worked out.

*Sorry brain fart*

We had ours over July 4th weekend and before we set the date, I made sure all our VIPs could be there and no one had any issue. We had a 23% decline rate which is average.

Depends on the holiday, Labor Day, Memorial Day okay. Thanksgiving or Christmas no!

We do multiple weddings every holiday weekend day, and I can't remember one of them that was less well attended. I'd day that this is one of the rare instances that I would recommend a STD.

Ours is on the Saturday during the MLK holiday weekend, though we didn't even realize that when we booked. (one less vacation day I have to use, since that's a company holiday for us, YAY!) I do remember seeing in our venue's pricing a note that stated holiday rates may be more, so it may not always save to book on major holiday weekends. It didn't effect the pricing for ours, but I guess it just depends on whether or not your venue and vendors will consider labor day weekend as a major holiday.

I actually think its not being selfish by picking a holiday weekend. Okay, it does depend on which holiday. If its Christmas weekend...yeah maybe a little selfish...

but if its MLK day or Columbus day weekend, its actually nice to your guests that are coming from out of town, so they don't have to miss work.

Then again, my culture usually has Sundays weddings so holiday weekends are best.

Big holiday weekends like Memorial day or labor day weekend can get pricey for you and your guests though...just be mindful of that.

My wedding is on Halloween. The actual date. Everyone is excited, it's going to be a blast!

Have you actually found your venue yet? Because a lot of places we looked didn't offer discounts for Sundays on holiday weekends. Just something to keep in mind.

Sunday of President's Day weekend here. Piggybacking on what Rebecca said, the venue we chose not only doesn't have discounts for some holiday weekend Sundays, but the minimum is actually much higher than a typical Sunday. Because we're in the off season, we get the discounts, but we'd be paying double for Memorial Day Sunday. I know some guests will decline due to family ski trips and others will leave early if they're local and have to work Monday. I know my VIPs, save for my retail pharmacist mother who would be requesting it anyway, get the Monday off.

I guess it all depends on what you want, you know your crowd, budget and personal preference on all of this.

Some people care some don't. Some people will have big special plans that they won't want to miss and others don't do anything. Also, while many people do get mondays off on holiday weekends, not everyone does. In fact for my FH those are often the hardest days to get off so if anyone has a wedding on a holiday weekend we have to say no almost always. People in retail or things that have to do with tourism or recreation often have trouble getting those days off because since so many fun things happen everyone wants them off, plus the place they work will be busy so they need all hands on deck. Where my FH works pretty much no one gets off holiday weekends because they are so busy.

FHs cousin had her wedding right before thanksgiving figuring people would be in town already so they wouldn't have to come in twice. Problem is we don't spend thanksgiving with his family but mine and so we had to drive back and forth SO much it was miserable. If she hadn't been an uber close family member we wouldn't have gone and in all honesty even with my "it's your wedding, do what you want" attitude, I couldn't help but be pretty annoyed that we had to spend so much money that we couldn't really afford and just be so miserable for several days.

I think it is important to think through if people will be able to make it work without too much trouble and make it clear to everyone that you understand if the date makes it so some can't come.

Planning for a holiday weekend wedding is fine but I do think you need to be incredibly gracious about declines. I will attend Memorial Day or Labor Day if they are local. If I have to fly and get a hotel you are getting a nice gift along with my decline. That all goes up quite a bit for holiday weekends.

In our family 4th of July is out out out. At least 2 of DH's siblings have standing vacation plans that weekend as does my sister. None of them will reschedule that for a wedding and no one in the family would expect them too.

Every other year on the 4th of July I camp with the DDs and grandkids. They have custody agreements with the every other holiday thing so for me, those weekends are non-negotiables. 3 of the gkids are teens and there aren't many of these trips left. I may love you a lot but if you choose to get married on the 4th of July weekend when I am supposed to be camping, I won't be at your wedding.

You need to do what works well for you but your guests do too, so that is why I say you need to be very gracious about the declines.

This depends a lot on where you are too. One of my friends got married Labor Day weekend in the groom's hometown, but that hometown happened to be Pensacola, FL. Flights and hotels were outrageously expensive. Then a hurricane hit and they had tons of no-shows. If you're in a non-beach town, it can be ok. Some guests with money but not lots of PTO might prefer it, other people who have PTO but not as much disposable income might pass. I don't think it's really that much more helpful on PTO than just having a Saturday wedding.

Personally I hate weddings on holiday weekends. I know its convenient and people already have it off and if you give them plenty of time blah blah. I just think its annoying to take away the few holidays people have a year and consume it with your day. Do I want to spend the few days I have at work traveling, spending jacked up prices, sitting in traffic, etc...nope! I look forward to holidays and I don't like when people take that away from me. There are about 45 other weekends in the year that I would much rather you make special then make a holiday your wedding.

Summer holidays are especially the worst. And any other holiday that is more family oriented is just annoying. The only holiday that I find acceptable is New Years. And I find it funny that people are saying "My guests love it and tell me how great it is." No shit, of course no one is going to say to your face, "Thanks for picking Labor day weekend. Its the last weekend a year I get to spend at the lake house with my family every year. We have a big bash and you just ruined it for me."

But will I attend, 99% of the time yes. And I will still have a great time. I just find them annoying and selfish. But hey to each their own. People think I'm selfish for having a Friday wedding. OH WELL