Wedding on a holiday weekend?

I don't think its selfish, just give your guests plenty of notice with STD, especially for very traveled holidays like Labor Day, Memorial Day and 4th of July!

We are having ours over New Years weekend! Everyone is excited to extend celebrating the new year at our wedding! . Only issues we've had is rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

Labor day Sunday here too! Most of my local family stays in town that weekend, and out of town guests technically don't even have to take off work if they travel Saturday and Monday. I've been really happy with this date choice!

We had ours memorial Sunday since most were out of town guests. Nobody complained and we had more guests than expected.

We're getting married the Saturday of labor day weekend. It can go both ways- some people were willing to travel because they had a long weekend (and we live at the beach), others who would have had to fly couldn't afford it because flights are PRICEY.

We got married on a Monday, Memorial Day, from 3-930pm. We definitely got an amazing deal since it was a Monday and a holiday. I think it depends on how "big" the holiday is...I would vote no to all of the major holidays (Christmas, Thanksgiving, July 4, etc). And at 270 guests, most of them showed!

I'm having mine over Thanksgiving weekend this year (black Friday). We sent out STD early (January?) Invitations are going out next week. Most guests are local or family from out of town. We've really only received negative feed back from older family members who live OCONUS, but it would inconvenience them to come whenever the wedding is scheduled.

We are doing ours Labor Day weekend this year. It just worked out for us because most of our guest list will be traveling for our wedding so it is helping to have that extra day off.

Labor Day weekend here...people will still attend, it's not Christmas or Thanksgiving.

Ours is on the Saturday of Memorial Day. Like others said I would just make sure you let your guest know with enough notice. We sent out an email to our immediate families as soo. As we booked and I sent out our STDs at the end of July to make sure everyone was able to plan accordingly. At the end of the day the people who really matter & love you will be there no matter what, but it's nice to give them time to prepare

I am attending a wedding of the Sunday of Labor Day weekend this year. As a guest I am still going but it is a little inconvenient. The wedding it is a popular summer destination, so hotels were expensive even with a group rate. And traffic is going to be awful driving home the day after the wedding (Labor Day). Plus I am missing out on plans that I would normally have if I was in town that weekend.

My wedding is the Saturday before Christmas. I did it because we have had so much negative going on in our lives with deaths and sick family members that I want us to all be together.

ETA: The only OOT guests that I invited was my father (California), Sister and husband (Arizona) FH aunt, uncle and cousin -who is a BM- (North Carolina) and his other cousin and her husband (South Carolina) Any one else is either local or lives in Northern Florida and are making the trip because they are immediate family and don't mind.

So I'm pretty much okay lol

Here are the two sides of this situation:

Brides: This is great because everyone already has an extra day off!

Guests: This is the worst. I finally get a day off work to relax, but instead, I have to spend the weekend paying higher gas prices and be stuck in more traffic. Or I have to pay higher flight costs and higher hotel costs and spend my time in a busy airport instead of being able to relax at home or get things done around the house. This sucks!

Honestly, I just heard this from a coworker this week. She got invited to a wedding next year on a holiday weekend and she was talking about how inconvenient it is. People will attend, you will get a higher decline rate, though. And the people who do attend will be complaining about it any chance they get (to everyone but you).

ETA: Just saw you said Labor Day weekend. That is a weekend where people spend grilling with their family, taking care of lawn work before winter, relaxing, going to an air show, etc. Every time we try to get friends together for a cookout, 80% of them are traveling back to their parents' houses to have a relaxing family get together. So yeah, it's really inconvenient for your guests, but they won't tell you. Not trying to be mean. I'm just telling you the truth from a guest's perspective. Especially since this topic came up this Tuesday at work.

Many of my destination weddings fall on 3-day weekends when guests have the extra day for traveling.

I think that if you gave people enough notice that it is on the long weekend, probably send a save the date, then you shouldn't have any problems with people attending. If you leave it too long then many people will already have plans for the long weekend.

I would definitely not do it, and as some people already said, if you have a lot of OOT guests, travel and accommodations are more expensive (and there's more traffic/airports more crowded, etc.) Personally, my 3 days weekends are for ME, I need the extra day just for myself b/c hey, adulting is hard, so I would be super pissed about a holiday weekend wedding.

Although you may think it's convenient for OOT guests, flights are actually much more expensive holiday weekends.

@Emily- My dad actually bought his ticket round trip for 300. Thats cheap compared to what me and FH spent for a May flight. We paid almost 900 round trip for us two. His cousins are all driving down and since they do it every year they don't mind. Only one i have to somewhat be worried is sister and her husband, but they don't mind at all. she is MOH and her in laws are our officiant so it works out

Mine was the Friday before Independence Day. Most of my guests were off, and the out of town ones spent the whole weekend in Chicago.

From my guests experience, if they get the STD early enough and plan early enough, flights (to where I live at least) were not any more expensive for Labor Day weekend. If you buy them a few weeks in advance? Yeah, but that's with any flight. I went to a wedding over Memorial day and most of my friends agreed it was great to have three days. Even if they do normally do something, most people end up traveling back home on that Monday that they have off, anyways.

I didn't think twice about choosing labor day weekend because 1) it gave us a holiday on Monday, vs having to use a vacation day for that part of our honeymoon. Selfish? Maybe, whatever. 2) We live at the beach. That's pretty much where most our guests would be going anyways.

However - choosing to have a wedding around Christmas/Thanksgiving/Easter/New Year's eve (Sorry, but I hate NYE weddings) is an entirely different story. People are already spending a lot of money around those times - so a wedding will likely not be a priority.