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Wedding invite wording

Beckie, on July 27, 2021 at 8:04 AM Posted in Planning 0 16
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I have kind of an odd question.
I was in a bad accident 6 years ago and admit I was drinking. We aren’t having a dry wedding but the wedding venue is 20 minutes away from the closet hotel and about at least 45 min drive for every one going home. I wanted to add on the invitation something about drinking responsibly and having a DD if you choose to drink but don’t know how to word it. We are already doing a limited bar, bar tenders have been forewarned to shut people off if they have to much and I have three friends my decorating committee that will also be watching and cutting people off if need be! Thanks in advance for the wording advice!

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Latest activity by Laurel, on August 1, 2021 at 9:43 PM
  • Jasmine E.
    Rockstar May 2022
    Jasmine E. ·
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    You don't need to put this on your invite, or probably anywhere else. Adults know not to drink and drive.
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
    SHY ·
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    Do you have a wedding website? If so, that's where I would put this information, not on the invitation.

    For ours, I just put it within our FAQ about free parking: "Free parking is available for all guests, and is located on a grassy field when you first arrive." ----- "We love a good party, but please do not drink and drive!"

    I don't think it's necessary to add on a part about DD's. Your guests are adults and should know how to plan accordingly. Also, if your area has it, they're more than capable of ordering an Uber or Lyft.

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  • B
    Beginner May 2022
    Beckie ·
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    Unfortunately Uber and Lyft don’t go out to that area. I do know a couple drivers and was thinking of asking them if there was anyway to coverage in the area that night. Doesn’t hurt to ask. Love the idea of placing it on the wedding website versus the invite. And unfortunately we can’t be that naive to think adults don’t drink and drive they most certainly do! It is a concern and like I said before it will be watched closely
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
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    Sounds like a plan. I just believe that information isn't appropriate on an invitation, but on the wedding website I see no problem!

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  • Jessi
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    I agree that your website is probably the best place for that information. While I can understand your worries, I feel like the only way you can be 100% sure that there's no possibility of someone drinking and driving is by providing transportation. These people are all adults and will make their decisions by themselves, and if they believe they can drive after drinking they will, unfortunately.

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  • B
    Beginner May 2022
    Beckie ·
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    Totally agree I didn’t even think about the wedding website until you mentioned it. Bride brain lol 😂 if that’s even a thing
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  • B
    Beginner May 2022
    Beckie ·
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    Agreed 100% I’m gonna see if I can get a room block to the hotel 20 minutes away and see if they have a shuttle bus we could use just as back up. I totally get where you’re coming from that they will make their own choices unfortunately I have been there before I’m hoping with at least placing it on the website that there are no ubers or Lyfts in the area it will make a couple of them think again. At least it will give me peace of mind and like I said in the og post we are for sure going to have people there to cut people off if need be. No free passes from bartenders that night! Lol
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  • Jessi
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    I definitely think there's nothing wrong with putting a reminder on the website! We have a few people that I plan to tell our bartenders to cut off early if possible, so I can understand that. It sounds like you guys have a good plan in place!

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  • Hannah
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    Hannah ·
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    As others have said, the invitation isn't the best place for this. Unfortunately, while adults know that drinking and driving is dangerous, that doesn't stop it from happening. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and decision-making abilities because of how it impacts the neurotransmitters in the brain. What you read on an invitation sober and what you choose to do when drunk aren't necessarily strongly correlated. Having bartenders cut people off and also trying to arrange transportation such as a shuttle are the best things you can do to mitigate the concern of drinking and driving.
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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    Hey!! I think I would put on the invite, please drink responsibly, don’t end the night in the back of a police car.. make it serious but add a little humor. Hopefully they get the hint. Good luck!
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    Beginner May 2022
    Beckie ·
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    That’s a cute and funny way to put it for sure! Reminds me of when we are down in Tennessee and they say people come for the party and leave on probation so please drink responsibly lol.
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  • Amy
    Savvy July 2022
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    That’s great!! Lol
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  • Cool
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    Cool ·
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    Well, she didn’t.
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  • B
    Beginner May 2022
    Beckie ·
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    Facts just because adults should know better doesn’t mean that they always make that choice! I don’t want someone to go through what I did especially on the account of our wedding! Mistakes happen I get that but even though adults know right from wrong doesn’t mean they won’t make a bad choice if given the opportunity.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    I agree that the website is the place to put it if anything.

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  • Laurel
    Beginner June 2022
    Laurel ·
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    Maybe think about getting a shuttle if it fits in your budget?
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