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Ugh, no. Seriously - I'm hoping for a great outcome for you and your family. My dad is the same way! I've finally gotten him to be really honest with me which has helped my anxiety.

@Remi - My mother's doctors have stopped chemo due to the complications we have encountered in the last two weeks. She has recently become very weak and had tremors. She fell twice in the last two weeks and finally on Thursday of last week, her doctor admitted her to the hospital. They found that she had C. Diff I guess it's called which can occur in patients with severely low immune systems and the elderly. In addition to that, she had developed pneumonia. Finding out all of this information, her doctor decided to stop chemo until she can get clear of all of the infections and pneumonia.

With her cancer (Multiple Myeloma) there is no remission really, only what they call "smoldering" which is when your M-Spike falls below and stays below a certain threshold. Her M-Spike has fallen below the threshold but they were going to continue with chemo for a little while longer as a "just in case" if you will. So her chemo is working but for now it's on hold.

If I seem grounded, I guess it's just cause we've been here before. We've had 5 years to kind of deal with it and go through all the ups and downs. When she was diagnosed she didn't have to start chemo for almost a year then it was aggressive chemo followed by a stem cell transplant. I joke and say we got a 3 year reprieve after the stem cell transplant but even in those 3 years there were complications that came up. We have just learned to take it one at a time, if I look at it all at once, it becomes too overwhelming. It helps that my mom is very much like your dad in that to her it's no big deal. Just another thing we'll get past.

I can't even imagine what you're going through, being in Texas while your father is in Mass. It has always been just my mom and her wife in my life so the second I found out about my mom, I packed up my whole life and moved back to Florida to be with her. Not the most rational but I was young and had no real ties to where I was at the time.

If he's in Boston, does that mean he's being treated at Dana Farber? They are excellent when it comes to cancer treatment.

Stay focused on the everyday, plan away, include your dad as much as you can and try not to worry! Think about the positive...like @WolfWedding2016 says - worst case, we can roll our parents down the aisle with us!

It will be okay....I'm praying for you, @WolfWedding2016 and your families! Good vibes.

@Tania - Thank you love. You are always so supportive

Olivebranch I just read your updates. As scary and horrifying as brain surgery sounds esp when you learn he is awake that is common. My granddad has had a few brain surgeries where he was awake. Of course parents don't want their children worrying which is probably why he is downplaying it. He also is probably still processing everything. I would make sure you get information from someone who pays attention to details but isn't a the world is ending personality. If you can talk to doctors yourself.

Lots of prayers to you and your family and doctors. Take things one day at a time and remember to take care of yourself.