Wedding Information Packet for wedding party members

Oh one more thing! There are Dalek's at the wedding? Like life sized? Did you make costumes, or do you have pictures?

My FH would be all over the Doctor Who details.

I think it's very helpful. The only thing that rubbed me the wrong way was the statement about "we will not dictate a lights out time"

I'm oppositional enough that I would be thinking "oh, why thank you so much for allowing me to be an adult and chose my own bedtime."

Like I said, I'm a tad defiant and a huge smart ass. Maybe it's just me lol.

But overall, I think it is really helpful and organized!!!

What if you said something like "after rehearsal dinner we are done for the evening; go and relax! Please make sure you're on time, sober and ready the next morning "

Your're right about the lights out. I'll give that a tweak. Thank you for your honest opinion on it!

Yes! Life size daleks that our friend have built. I'll see if i cant hunt down pictures real quick!

Monana here you go. This is just one of the three that will be in attendance.

Very impressive!

I'm beyond excited about our theme. My mom really isent and faight us a lot on it, but we eventually got our way. The tardis will be in attendance as well.

I have made a few small changes per urging from this thread. I'm glad I shared this with all of you, I wanted to make sure it sounded right before I sent it to our wedding party members!

That is amazing! Good job.

Thanks! I'm feeling pretty good about it now! I was worried it was a little pushy at first.

I'm going to be completely honest with you so please don't take this as me being mean. I was a little worried opening the document that it would be awful, but it doesn't seem that pushy. The contact information and the day of timeline would be extremely helpful and if I were your BM I'd love having all that info in one place.

But two things really came off as overbearing and would rub me the wrong way if I were a BM. One: you're dictating how your bridesmaids wear their hair. IMO, I think that's wrong, and you already are having a problem with it because one of your bridesmaids has short hair. Two: you're assigning tasks the day of. I get why you're doing it, and none of the tasks are super burdensome, but why does one of your BM's need to take care of the marriage license? Again, this is a personal opinion, but I don't think members of the bridal party should be forced to do tasks like that. The way it comes off is that you're using your bridal party as props and workers the day of, instead of honored guests. This is just my impression from your document, so I'm not saying this is what you're doing, but it is kinda how it comes off.

Here's what I would do: keep the timeline, attire, FAQ, and contact information. Drop the "assignments" part and just have a checklist that you have with you the day of the wedding. If members of your wedding party are around and offer to help, ask them to take a few items off the checklist.

Love the daleks by the way!

The assignments part is MOSTLY meant as a "hey, can you do me a favor and just double check that this gets done." Not nessisarily a list of things they are to do, but I do see where youre comming from on that. I eill just be so busy, that when i am doing my checks, i'm bound to miss something, so them double checking is a back up.

I dont think its so strange to ask for the bridesmaids to style their hair a certain way... Is it? My bridesmaids have asked me how I want their hair, and that is what we decided on.

I do appriciate your honesty

Looked it up, its acceptable for a bride to ask for a certain hair style, so long as she is not dictating "you have to appove pre wedding hair cuts with me!".

I edited the 'assignments' list. There are still specific 'jobs' that the wedding party already know they are doing. Moh will have my phone that day so that it is near by if needed, but i wont be on it. Best man will be handling tux return the next day, and handing out tips (which from what i understand is standard) and one of my bridesmaids will be my mother wrangler (she volunteered for that!)

But i removed those specific tasks off the list, and just made a list on the bridesmaid list and the groomsmen list saying "the bride will be making sure this list is taken care of, but please help her do a quick double check!" As that was the origional intent of the assignment list. Just a back up set of eyes making sure everything gets done.

Where did you find that it was "acceptable" to ask for a certain hair style? I've never been in a wedding where the bride requested a certain hairstyle, even where the bride made it known that she preferred us to have professionally done hair. There's another thread where this has been brought up as an issue. I find a lot of problems with asking BM's to wear their hair a certain way--not everyone will look good or like a certain style being the biggest problem.

A quick google search brought back a few articles on what to ask and what not to ask your bridesmaids. Anyways they asked ME how i would prefer their hair, and thats what we all came up with. Every wedding ive been to the bridesmaids all did their hair similar to one another, and you see so many bridal party photos where the girls all have their hair the same... I thought this was standard.

So i found just as many "mixed" hairstyle bridal party photos as i did one hair style bridal parties. So I guess its a matter of preference.

On a side note... What is this butt cheek out bridal party photo nonsense? Am i missing something? Why is this a thing?!

I love this!!! I don't think it's overwhelming at all but I am like you and very organized. It could be over whelming but everyone rushes around that day and things get forgotten. I may have to use this idea

Haha please God no I hope it's not a thing.

Personally, I would never dictate to my bridal party how to wear their hair. Everyone is different and likes different things and I find it super weird when bridesmaids all look exactly alike. We're a group of friends and family, not a dance troupe.

But if your girls came to you and asked I think it's fine that you talked it out and decided on a hairstyle. That's different from unilaterally deciding on a hairstyle and telling them they have to wear it like that.

I like it. I think having a timeline for everyone is super helpful as well as letting them know the times for rehearsal events.

Apparently it is a thing... Whhhhhyyyyyy? I dont get it. Put your butt cheeks back under the dress where they belong!

Lol

Yeah.. I have given them a lot of choices when it comes to their attire, but they mostly just go "its your wedding what do YOU want" which is both wonderful and frustrating at the same time.

I think it's overboard. Dictating a hair style is also overboard, not everyone's hair looks good the same way and you might wind up with someone super uncomfortable.

Getting ready should they want to is happening @ insert time, if not pictures are happening @ insert time...Bingbangboom...done

I think that brides often forget that these people have functioned daily and made it by. Getting to places on time, looking good and presentable, knowing when to sleep and wake up, I don't think they need a multiple page google doc.