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Laura
Devoted October 2019

Wedding Day Gift for Future Spouse—necessary?

Laura, on July 23, 2019 at 11:06 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 25
I would like some opinions. Do you think it is necessary to give your future spouse a gift on your wedding day? Why or why not?

Thanks for the input.

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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    Not absolutely necessary, but many will give something small like cufflinks or a tie bar. I'm giving my FH a couple of small things for the wedding day: cufflinks, socks, and pin. He's a big Green Lantern fan and like to play D&D, so I got him some new dice as well.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I don’t think that it’s a necessity, but I do plan to give my FW a gift the day of the wedding. Someone will deliver it to her while we’re getting ready, so it will kind of be like a “thinking about you” thing. I’ll also give her a letter with it.
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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    Nope! Our gift to each other was getting married and going on a honeymoon. I actually mentioned the concept of giving a gift to future spouse to my now husband and he was like "that's silly. Why would anyone need to do that?" So it may also depend on your partner.
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  • B
    VIP July 2017
    Becky ·
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    We exchanged letters, but considered our rings to be our gifts to one another.

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  • Lauren
    VIP September 2019
    Lauren ·
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    Not necessary, but a sweet note can go a long way. Something to calm the nerves.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    Absolutely not. I don’t really there there’s an answer to “why not” — it simply isn’t. You can go ahead and get married without one. We didn’t do gifts, we’re still married and we still love the crap out of eachother. The ONLY thing that is important is to get on the same page about this as your future spouse — not doing so can lead to hurt feelings (A gets B a nice gift but B doesn’t realize gifts were a thing and suddenly feels terribly to have not done something, or A gets sad not to have received anything in return. Or B gets A a really nice extravagant expensive gift and A gets B a gift but it’s something teeny tiny, and then one feels awkward)— so it doesn’t matter if you do or if you don’t, the day will go on. But manage expectations with your partner! That’s what matters!
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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·
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    I think I'm going to give him a little something when we pass out gifts for the wedding party (partly because all the guys are getting dopp kits, so I made him one too), and leave him a note when I head out for hair and makeup in the morning. It's certainly not necessary, but I really love giving gifts, so I'm not going to pass up the opportunity.

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  • Erin
    Expert May 2020
    Erin ·
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    Definitely not necessary, but I plan on doing this! I just want to treat my FH on our big day Smiley smile

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  • Brooke
    Expert November 2019
    Brooke ·
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    I do not think it is necessary. My FH and I are currently trying to get rid of our debt (student loans/credit cards), so we decided against getting each other gifts.

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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    No. The wedding is his gift as I paid for the whole thing!
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  • Btbride
    Super August 2019
    Btbride ·
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    His gift will be getting me as a wife 😂
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  • Tonia
    Expert October 2019
    Tonia ·
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    This! All of this! lol

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  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
    Yam ·
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    Not necessary but I’m doing it anyway because he can use it on our honeymoon, it’s a spellbook prop for his wizard outfit for a renaissance festival we’re going to in a different state. He’s been wanting a nice looking one for a long time.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    Not necessary. Our gift to each other was our wedding and honeymoon. That cost a small fortune and was plenty.

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  • Charlotte
    Dedicated August 2019
    Charlotte ·
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    It’s not necessary. The only reason I’m doing my gift is because it was more of a passion project. Plus, it wound up inexpensive anyway.

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    Master October 2019
    Jolie ·
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    We aren't. The wedding is enough of an expense and then a honeymoon is the gift. We can do a nice gift for the holidays this year when all is said and done! We both agreed we are marrying each other and throwing the biggest party of our lives so we didn't need gifts.

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    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    He got me, I got him, which means we each got what we wanted most in the world. Nothing else could stand up to that.
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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
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    Yes, this is me.

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  • C
    Dedicated May 2023
    Candace ·
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    It’s not necessary, but FH and I will be doing this. I will have something delivered to him while we are getting ready. As well as sending my flower girl down the aisle with a simple note to him right before he sees me!
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  • J
    Just Said Yes August 2019
    Jennifer ·
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    I haven’t talked with my FH about it, and didn’t plan on it - isn’t their gift getting us !?! 🤣 however my FH needs a new set of sunglasses - so I’m considering going to buy him some nice shades which he may use at some point for the outdoor summer wedding we have planned, or honeymoon. 🤣
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