Wedding Day Gift for Future Spouse—necessary?

Not absolutely necessary, but many will give something small like cufflinks or a tie bar. I'm giving my FH a couple of small things for the wedding day: cufflinks, socks, and pin. He's a big Green Lantern fan and like to play D&D, so I got him some new dice as well.

I don’t think that it’s a necessity, but I do plan to give my FW a gift the day of the wedding. Someone will deliver it to her while we’re getting ready, so it will kind of be like a “thinking about you” thing. I’ll also give her a letter with it.

Nope! Our gift to each other was getting married and going on a honeymoon. I actually mentioned the concept of giving a gift to future spouse to my now husband and he was like "that's silly. Why would anyone need to do that?" So it may also depend on your partner.

We exchanged letters, but considered our rings to be our gifts to one another.

Not necessary, but a sweet note can go a long way. Something to calm the nerves.

Absolutely not. I don’t really there there’s an answer to “why not” — it simply isn’t. You can go ahead and get married without one. We didn’t do gifts, we’re still married and we still love the crap out of eachother. The ONLY thing that is important is to get on the same page about this as your future spouse — not doing so can lead to hurt feelings (A gets B a nice gift but B doesn’t realize gifts were a thing and suddenly feels terribly to have not done something, or A gets sad not to have received anything in return. Or B gets A a really nice extravagant expensive gift and A gets B a gift but it’s something teeny tiny, and then one feels awkward)— so it doesn’t matter if you do or if you don’t, the day will go on. But manage expectations with your partner! That’s what matters!

I think I'm going to give him a little something when we pass out gifts for the wedding party (partly because all the guys are getting dopp kits, so I made him one too), and leave him a note when I head out for hair and makeup in the morning. It's certainly not necessary, but I really love giving gifts, so I'm not going to pass up the opportunity.

Definitely not necessary, but I plan on doing this! I just want to treat my FH on our big day

I do not think it is necessary. My FH and I are currently trying to get rid of our debt (student loans/credit cards), so we decided against getting each other gifts.

No. The wedding is his gift as I paid for the whole thing!

His gift will be getting me as a wife 😂

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This! All of this! lol

Not necessary but I’m doing it anyway because he can use it on our honeymoon, it’s a spellbook prop for his wizard outfit for a renaissance festival we’re going to in a different state. He’s been wanting a nice looking one for a long time.

Not necessary. Our gift to each other was our wedding and honeymoon. That cost a small fortune and was plenty.

It’s not necessary. The only reason I’m doing my gift is because it was more of a passion project. Plus, it wound up inexpensive anyway.

We aren't. The wedding is enough of an expense and then a honeymoon is the gift. We can do a nice gift for the holidays this year when all is said and done! We both agreed we are marrying each other and throwing the biggest party of our lives so we didn't need gifts.

He got me, I got him, which means we each got what we wanted most in the world. Nothing else could stand up to that.

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Yes, this is me.

It’s not necessary, but FH and I will be doing this. I will have something delivered to him while we are getting ready. As well as sending my flower girl down the aisle with a simple note to him right before he sees me!

I haven’t talked with my FH about it, and didn’t plan on it - isn’t their gift getting us !?! 🤣 however my FH needs a new set of sunglasses - so I’m considering going to buy him some nice shades which he may use at some point for the outdoor summer wedding we have planned, or honeymoon. 🤣