Wedding date close to sibling?

I would think it would be hard on FH's family having two weddings in two weeks. If I were one of his parents, I wouldn't be thrilled. Would scheduling weddings that close be a problem for out of town guests that would want to go to both weddings. Cause hotels and flights cost money.

Agree with the PP. If your guests lists are similar, I think it's going to be really hard to get everyone together two weeks apart. Also would you expect the groom's parents to rent/purchase two different outfits for the weddings? That would get expensive.

His brother may be okay with it, but I'm not sure how the family guests will feel. If you go this route, I'd set realistic expectations as far as OOT guests are concerned.

My cousin is getting married exactly one week before me (I sent out my STDs before she was even engaged). We never talked about it. I know that most of our family members won't make it to both weddings and it's irritating to me, but it is what it is. My FBIL is getting married about 6 weeks after us and I think that's fine (although annoying for my other FBIL who has to travel from Texas to PA two months in a row).

As long as the couple is okay with it I say go for it. However, I'd check to see if it'd interfere with their honeymoon plans.

Your FH would need to be sure to check with all his VIP's (especially OOT ones) and not just his sibling. But, then again, you both need to check with your VIP's for any wedding date you choose.

My FH have been engaged for over a year and by the time we are getting married we will have been engaged for over 2 years. His brother just got engaged, and they mentioned doing something similar. I was MAD. If they really are that chill, okay. But some people may not speak their total opinion and there could be some.animosity there. Like I said I was MAD when the idea even came up. They have decided to do their wedding the fall after ours (next may) and that is completely fine with me. I am a pretty easy going bride but that was just not okay with me

I agree. A cousin is a little bit different than a sibling. With a sibling that means his parents could be doubly stressed if they're helping set up, need to buy two outfits and be in a pretty prominent position 2 weeks in a row. That would be hard. And roughly 1/2 the guest list could be the same between family and family friends... If I had to fly I'd probably just pick one of the two weddings

This seems incredibly inconsiderate of the grooms' family, the expense of two weddings so close together would probably be too much for a lot of people. I also feel for their parents trying to handle two children getting married so close together.

Thank you everyone for the thoughts! It's always nice to hear what others think. Between the two of our families we have so many weddings all within the next year or so. All four kids in his family are getting married within a year and a half of one another. Several of my cousins, who I'm extremely close to, are getting married within the next year. It feels impossible to pick a date that everyone will be happy with.

As for out of town guests, all of his family except for one couple live within a 20 minute radius from here, so traveling won't be a huge issue.

I really do appreciate all of these opinions from everyone. I don't do well with conflict and I really don't want to start off our marriage with anyone mad at me!

I would let them have this one to be honest. Their wedding sounds like its been set. It is very close to theirs. I would brainstorm some other dates.

My future husband and I were dating before his sister was dating her FH, we were engaged before them, we set our date over a year in advance and then she set her date exactly a month before ours and all of a sudden no one could come to ours because we were planning a destination wedding. Even though a year before they were all for it. I was livid. I still am. We did not go to her wedding and she wanted our daughters in it and wanted her brother to walk her down the aisle. I was trying to be gracious until she wasn't going to our wedding nor was she even making our shower a priority... a cousin is one thing but a sibling?! Stay far away from their date of they set it first. Go out another year if that date is that important.