Wedding Criticism

I agree with Katie. Don't lie. Break people out of the assumption box, and tell them that no, you aren't that excited right now, just stressed. People need to learn not to tell someone what they are thinking, when they should be asking.

Oh man, this sucks. somehow you need to get these people to back off...seriously. This shouldn't be that bad of an experience for you.

Sounds like you need to take a break from it all and just get away from everyone for a few days. Take a mini vaca and just relax. Take some time for just you and FH for a day or two, and then just start telling people that the details are being kept private.

It's amazing how some people think they can criticize and comment on things when they really have no right, huh? No tact. Please don't let anyone ruin your wedding for you. Don't give them that power. If there is anyone who you know will not be critical, and will be supportive and helpful, lean on them. Try not to talk about the wedding to anyone else. Focus on you and your FH.

Give out less info.... Tell people it's a surprise on things you can get away with that response. You can't please everyone. Hugs.

I'm in the same boat and I've only been engaged for less than 2 months :/ I was so excited to start planning and then I began having (or rather continued to have issues) with FH's little sister, my dad who thinks that a wedding isn't something money should be spent on is assuming that all of these random relatives I do not know are going to be invited, my grandma, who I asked if she would be willing to collect family photos over the next year, explained how little time she would have because of stuff going on with everyone else in the family and then questioned "what is a potluck wedding? have never heard of one? am unsure how this will work out....". And then my mother is a mess on any occasion but add a wedding to the agenda and its a whole other level of crazy.

And I'm less than 2 months in. Can't wait to c what the next 11 months have in store for me :/

One day I had a moment..the other day lol...and realized that if I continued to think so much about other's opinions and not do what I really wanted to do, then I would surely look back and regret it.

I feel you! We just had a massive blow-out over the rehearsal dinner. I've restricted access to all wedding documents/information to myself, FH, MOH, and the mom, and have just made it VERY CLEAR that comments and opinions on the wedding are no longer welcome.

I cried about our wedding for a while when people were interfering, I have a small budget, his parents are rich, and they expect weddings to be a certain way. It was rough, I was even told once by his mom "Your rehearsal dinner will be fancier than your wedding!" Which was really really mean, I almost started crying on the spot, and that was at Thanksgiving, in front of his whole family, and his sisters future in-laws.

And then I just said forget it. I stopped talking wedding to ANYBODY, said my plans were going fine, and let them get lost in his sisters wedding, which is in July. In fact, they got so lost in her wedding his mom forgot about planning the rehearsal dinner.

My advice: Pay for what you can on your own if you aren't already and stop sharing ANY wedding details. Just don't do it. Say everything is going well, or better yet tell them you have everything figured out, and people will leave you alone. Because I've been there, and I feel ya.

...I'm still tired of people asking me how planning is going, and I'm kinda tired of his family right now, even the ones that have been so nice, I'm like, terrified of them asking me how it's going or what I'm doing for this or that, but I don't cry anymore, and FH and I can enjoy our time together.

This is such a sad post. I can't believe people would be so mean. It's not their day and if they aren't happy, then throw their own wedding. This is YOUR day, not theirs. I think I would just simply say that things are taken care of and leave it at that. I'm sorry you are being beaten up about your wedding.

Oh, and the wanting to elope feeling - I had that too, but FH and I discussed it and decided it was too late, we'd loose too much money, and things really are better now that I tell everyone nothing.