How do you guys feel about wedding crashers and how it should be handled?
For a little backstory: my wedding has been postponed since august of 2020, we planned and paid for said wedding in the fall of 2019, it’s a destination wedding so things had to be done pretty early especially per the contract. Our guests had all rsvpd by Jan of 2020 (also asked to per contract) so all spots were filled. One of our groomsmen who is also the brother of my fiancé has had an on again/off again relationship with a girl he started dating after our wedding was planned/paid for and decided he was going to bring her to the destination wedding. At one point they even tried to make her a bridesmaid and had her look at her own bridesmaid dresses (totally don’t get that one..) he decided to have her got to the wedding without asking us and then after being told there was no room. He’s always been a bit of a jerk towards me/ his brother (why is he in the wedding in that case you wonder? I wonder myself) but after his more recent breakup with said girl she decided to go out of her way to try and sabotage the relationship between some mutual friends while also constantly going out of her way to behave really inappropriately towards me and my fiancé (sounds rather high school but she’s 22 and we are in our late 20s/early 30s) given her behavior we said if they got back together(which they did) she definitely couldn’t come now even if a spot opened up. I was told by her that they planned on having her still attended despite us saying she couldn’t go. I get him wanting her to be there and have a date, but given her behavior and his we really don’t want her there to cause drama and also because there isn’t room, and we really want this day to be about us and have people that we WANT there. Also, it’s not a family paid wedding or any contributions so family doesn’t have a say since I know that can be an issue for some people.
Thoughts on how to handle it? My current thought on the only way to handle it would be to have her and/or him escorted out if they push boundaries on the day.