Wedding celebration after microwedding

Congrats on your engagement and your upcoming nuptials! although you are not hosting a traditional wedding, I am sure there will be guests who still want to give you a gift. Most likely they would give a monetary gift, but some may inquire about a registry. If they do, you can direct those people to your registry. However, no mention of gifts or a registry should ever be included on an invitation (that goes for “regular” weddings as well). As far as a shower, it is not considered proper etiquette to invite anyone to a pre-wedding gift-giving event if they are not invited to the actual wedding. It comes off as gift grabby, and as though you are saying they are not good enough for you to spend your money hosting them, but they are good enough for you to receive a gift from them. So it is absolutely acceptable for somebody to throw you a shower, but only those who will be invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower.

My husband and I had a minimony last year with 35 guests and we're having our big reception this Saturday with about 90ish guests. I didn't have a bridal shower, but we did do a registry. For the reception we're pretty much doing everything that would be at a normal reception. Open bar, first dance, dinner, speeches etc.


We didn't put anything on the invitation about a registry, however we did put a link on our website. We specifically told people no gifts for the minimony, to just wait until the big wedding (we were originally going to do the full thin over then decided on just a reception)