Wedding and a new house in the same year!

Well, they are both high up on the “most stressful events couples experience” so you’ll get that under your belt quickly!


For the house - get title insurance which is usually extra but if you need it, you’ll be so glad you got it! Drive by the house at different hours of the day to see what the noise level is like. Go for walks in the neighborhood and see if there are any neighborhood issues that will cause trouble - like neighbors who have loud fights, cars going really fast, etc. If there is a lot of scent things in the house, the windows ate open, check for odor. You don’t want to buy a house that smells like cat pee or mold! Don’t give in to pressure to make a quick decision, you’ll be spending a lot of money on a house, make sure you feel good about it.

We got married in 2019 (planned during grad school) and bought our house in 2020. Both were a lot. Granted we sold and bought at the same time. So, I had to fix up our old home and then search for a new home at the same time. I was stressed. I was also stressed a lot during wedding planning, but more towards the beginning and the last 2-3 weeks. If you bought in the middle I guess it could be ok.

Um.... don’t? 😝 We had the option and chose wedding 1st, house 2nd since a mortgage lasts a lot longer than wedding debt. #noregrets Wedding stress was plenty.

We will technically end up having a wedding and buying a house the same year, however we opted to pay for the wedding first and then buy house. We got engaged last February, found venue and paid it in installments in which we will finish this February. At the same time in February, we will purchase a house. Basically we gave ourselves a year and some change to be engaged with plan to pay for wedding and get finances straight for house to have both done this year.

My husband and I are in the same position. Our big wedding was scheduled for March (which has been postponed) but now our main focus is buying a house.


We started putting away more money towards the house rather than the wedding. We also decided that since we have to postpone, we don't want our wedding as extravagant as we originally planned for.

I recommend prioritizing money towards the house rather than the wedding

View Quoted Comment I did this too! House hunting was a whole other ordeal

Absolutely get an inspection - and then make SURE they fix what needs to be fixed.

I ended up not being able to check that they fixed all the things that needed fixing, and.... yeah, they didn't care.

Also, if there's a Condo Association, or an HA, make sure their finances aren't wonky.

Long story short, I'm now Condo President, and I had a *whole* mess to fix.

View Quoted Comment We know each of those are stressful yet each should be exciting and fun too. We wanted to enjoy wedding planning.

Besides dont do it unless money isnt a big issue.

I was engaged a week before we finally got accepted on a house and we moved our wedding back to a 2 year engagement because house is so expensive and closing cost and things breaking. 1 stress at a time.

In some ways it is good - it really makes you work on budget and money talk. But it is really stressful! My fiance and I just bought a house in September and we are getting married in July 2021. We pushed forward buying a house because of low interest rates and we are both teaching from home, and space was an issue. I do think it made us stronger as a couple - if we can get through COVID, housing buying, and being around each over 24/7 for a year, I feel really good about us getting married! ❤️

We did it! Went to look at the land on May 30th 2020. Closed on the house 10/2/2020 and are getting married May 30th 2021! A year from when we said I do to our property we are saying I do to each other. With interest rates low, great first time homebuyers programs with down payment assistance we would have been foolish to not buy. Mind you before April 2020 home buying was sooo far off our radar but things fell into place. Now we are saving because our living expenses are significantly cheaper. I say talk to a professional (realtor, lender) see what your options are then go from there. You might be surprised like we were.