Wearing Your Wedding Rings Before You're Married

I kinda feel like once you are getting married it's "our" money. So who cares what bank account the money for the wedding ring comes out of

I wear mine... Only because my first set got stolen when my house broke in so I don't care what people think. We spent alot of money on our rings. Yes we bought them together. We share money. FH and I have been living together for 4 years and have 2 little ones.

@lynZ, have you seen that video going around of I believe Army dudes doing a zumba class? FH legit did that, more than once. I didn't believe him until some other friends started commenting on the FB post talking about it. It's probably best we don't know.

FH and I got rings to show our commitment to each other and have been wearing them. When he proposed, I told him I was going to wear the band with me ering. He asked about our ceremony (should we get new bands, I said no....I love my rings) I will just slip it off and back on for ceremony. Those who know me, know we are engaged. This who don't cam think of me as married, that is how I feel after living together for seven years.

I don't plan on wearing mine until the day of the wedding! When we got ours we both put them on to see the fit and how they looked but plan to keep them in their boxes in our safe until the day of. You can do whatever you want!

@MrsMayorca Thank you for the tip, I never even thought about that.

I tried mine on when it came in to make sure it would fit, and I really didn't want to take it off, because it looked amazing and made it feel even more real, but I'm not actually going to wear it until the wedding. I agree it seems weird to wear the wedding band before the wedding.

I don't wear mine but I do try it on every once in a while!

@Macy exactly. After living with my FH and 2kids. It's like we are already married. I'm just going to slip it off before the ceremony too.

@MrsMayorca - at least they are finding fun ways to keep everyone in shape!

@LynZLeigh, what branch is your FH?

FH hurt his knee when he was in the Navy, because they were playing football in the hangar....

I have mine, and I've tried it on a few times. I don't think it diminishes anything...unless your marriage is about material possessions. Also, who cares who paid for the ring? FH and I live together, so it's all household money anyways lol.

I wear my e-ring with the band because I got them soldered together as soon as the custom band was done. The jeweler is not close to our house, so I'd rather not have to make an extra trip

I just don't care about the tradition. I won't wear the rings the day of the wedding though until the ceremony.

ETA: And I don't believe in "luck", so I couldn't care less about that.

Re: finances

We are splitting the cost down the middle for the bands. His will cost more than mine by about $800. Like Miranda, I don't see why he should have to pay more because his cost more. It's our money now.

I don't have our bands yet, but when we do get them, I intend to put it on to make sure there's no issue with fit, then it'll go back in the box until the ceremony.

I completely agree with statement of "our money".

Who cares who paid for the rings.

As far as wearing them, I had mine soldered together the month before the wedding. I just wasn't comfortable wearing mine without being actually married. However, I wouldn't side eye anyone who wore them before their actual wedding day necessarily either. I know girls who wear wedding rings for their live in boyfriends who aren't even engaged.

Who cares. Just be prepared to answer questions and meet criticism.

@Mrs. Fall Bride, it was a joke, but people do tend to slow their roll when they see a ring. They can hit on him all they want, I trust him, but he is at work and trying to make money off of these people. He can't be rude and some people don't take subtle hints to back the fuck off. As soon as he mentions me, a lot of women have an "Oh..." moment and chill.

I was a waitress for a long time and I used to wear a fake ring while working to get people to leave me alone. Guys were relentless and "please stop" and "no" didn't really stop them. They'd see my ring and say something along the lines of "Oh, you're married" and leave me the hell alone.

Not everyone is as respectful.

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View Quoted Comment I have been with my FH for 9 year we have a house and just got engaged I look at it like it all are money anyway lol so I am paying payments on both are rings on Etsy on a layaway plan because he gives me money all the time for stuff. I guess it’s all about how you look at your relationship. We picked out the rings we had fun doing it. Who cares how they get paid for

I was wondering the same thing! My jeweler told me it would take up to 3 months for mine to get sized and soldered together and it ended up only taking 4 weeks. So now do I wear the whole thing or go 4 months with nothing?

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I purchased my own, my FH purchased his own. In the end we figured it doesn't really matter because we are a team. I think these days it is more common place. I told myself I wasn't going to wear my wedding band, but decided why not. Although I use the excuse that I want to make sure I don't need to return it.

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Welcome to the 21st century when women believe that they can either help pay for the wedding ring, or pay for the man's wedding ring. Some women find it unequal that a man should fork over all the money. DeBeers is the one that advertised that a man should buy the entire ring if he loves his lady; DeBeers made women believe that the man had to buy the entire enchilada. I didn't bring it up to my other half, she brought up to me that she wanted to pay for half of her ring and mine. I paid for hers, she paid for mine. It's whatever makes sense to a couple; nothing in marriage is black and white, and what is to you may not be to others. Probably why I hate, "what should I do?" and somebody says, "do this". Grown adults can make up their own minds.