Wearing Your Wedding Rings Before You're Married

My FH has to wear his to make sure he doesn't react to the metals before the return policy runs out. So I hope it's not bad juju!

You paid for your own wedding band? I never heard of it.

I was really really tempted to when we purchased our bands, but for me it felt like it would diminish the feeling of putting it on during the ceremony for the first time. Not that it would make me feel any less married, but that moment of having him put the ring on might not feel the same.

LOL My FH wants me to wear mine. I have 2 bands and only started wearing one but then i came home from work one day and FH was like "why don't you have on both of your bands with your ring"...lol i really believe that he loves to see me with my rings on. He is ALWAYS talking about it. hahahaah **love him**

I like the idea of something new for after the wedding, but that's just my opinion.

@Tamara, is that sarcasm? If not, yes, we financed them together and just recently paid them off.

IMO, you aren't married so why wear the band. People who wear wedding bands and are not even engaged/married, is ridiculous. You do you but I wouldn't. Wait until the big day.

Mine is an all-in-one, e ring and wedding band.

Joe put his on the moment he saw it.

We took them off to have them cleaned and put them away a few weeks before the wedding.

I'm waiting bc I want that moment to feel special when it's getting out on

Well, obviously it is breaking tradition given that the wedding band is placed on your finger at the wedding and worn after that, not before. It symbolizes that you are married which you won't be before the wedding. So...it's pretty weird to wear it before IMO. But you can do whatever you want.

I just got my wedding band yesterday but I will not be wearing them both until we are married. I think it would take away from the excitement when he puts the ring on my finger if I've been wearing it our entire engagement.

Wedding bands are for married folks. Engagement rings are for engaged folks. If you wear your wedding band before you ascend to "married" it diminishes the value of the ceremony, the marriage, and the seriousness of the commitment. Just bc you paid a lot of money & its in your possession, doesn't mean you should start prematurely wearing it. There are millions of us with expensive wedding bands sitting at home in a safe waiting to wear it on the 1st day of forever. Please wait its not that serious. Enjoy being "engaged." You should still be gushing at your engagement ring. But as I always say, do whatever floats your boat just know its not the norm.

So Marlene, our marriage is diminished?

Just because I wear a ring doesn't mean I'm any less committed to FH... and vice versa.

Yikes! This got tense fast. I think the symbolism is more important to some people. If you feel weird about wearing it, then don't. My FH and I bought a house and have been living together for almost 2 years, so to us, the wedding ceremony is just a formality at this point. We are already committed to one another exclusively. Like I mentioned before, my FH also has an allergy to nickel, which is apparently in a lot of jewelry. Since we'll be going on a long honeymoon out of the country, it makes more sense for him to wear his ring NOW and figure out if it will be a problem, before we're out of country and cannot return it. So, circumstances dictate the actions a little...

Marlene, it doesn't make sense to me to wear a wedding band before the wedding, but this is quite an assumption: "...it diminishes the value of the ceremony, the marriage, and the seriousness of the commitment." A tiny band made out of a precious metal (or not) has no power to diminish anything -- least of all a marriage. Did you really just suggest that wearing that tiny piece of metal, prior to the ceremony, indicates a lack of seriousness when it comes the couple's commitment? That's beyond the pale.

@StuckOnYou, that nickel is usually in the plating they put on metals. Most metals get a plating on them to "protect" them, but just end up wearing off and have to be re-plated.

My e-ring and wedding band are both white gold, but the e-ring came from another country where plating isn't really popular, but the wedding band is plated and makes the e-ring look yellow compared to it.

I started wearing mine to make sure it was comfortable, and just never really took it off.

I didn't wear it until my husband gave it to me. I tried it on of course and then it went back into the box. I stopped wearing my engagement ring leading up to the wedding as well. Once everything was cleaned and polished I didn't want to risk getting it messed up.

My FH is wearing his Qalo ring now. He won't be wearing his "fancy" ring until after the wedding. I see nothing wrong with this at all.

I wear mine on occasion as well.

Re: finances - OP don't worry, FH and I both paid for both of ours since it's our money, we've been living together for years and have comingled our money for about as long. It's all the same money, if he paid for my band then I'd have to pick up an extra bill so it doesn't matter.

FH and I have both tried ours on and worn them around the house a few times, but we won't fully wear them until after the ceremony. We mainly did this to make sure they were comfortable and we didn't have reactions to the metals as someone else pointed out. Symbolism is really important to people, and that's great for them! For us, the symbolism of speaking our vows far outweighs the rings themselves, so we do not feel the value of our ceremony or our marriage will be diminished by having worn our rings before.