Wearing Your Wedding Rings Before You're Married

@Jennifer, that sounds like my plan towards the end. Have them cleaned and store them away for a little bit to make sure they don't get dirty.

FH wouldn't let me wear mine, he said it's bad luck to put it on before we're married. So I shall wait till the ceremony when he places it on my finger. Does suck just looking at the box on my dresser. He sees me looking at and jokingly reminds me not to touch it lol.

Not my cup of tea but I definitely don't agree that it would diminish the value of your ceremony. That right there is absolutely ridiculous. Personally, I want to wait to wear my ring but that's my own personal view on that. If someone is in a committed and loving relationship then I see no problem with them wearing their ring early. I don't believe a marriage ceremony changes your commitment level to someone and a lot of people view it as a formality.

Mine couldn't wear his right now if he wanted to, because he jammed his ring finger playing volleyball at work (I don't always understand the military) and his finger is swollen to twice its size right now! Sucks, because his band arrived yesterday and he had to try it on his right finger to see if he liked the width enough.

"If you wear your wedding band before you ascend to "married" it diminishes the value of the ceremony, the marriage, and the seriousness of the commitment."

Umm what? I'm sorry. I am dying laughing at this comment because it is so absurd.

@LynZLeigh, FH was in the Navy, I understand the eye rolls and confusion, lmao.

I'm definitely not wearing mine until the wedding and neither will my fiancé. I just want to be excited to start wearing them then. But I don't think it makes you less married if you wore them before your wedding.

And it is not weird to pay for your ring. The whole he buys your ring and you buy his ring thing doesn't even make sense to me. Here's why. Usually ( at least now a days ) couples pay for their own wedding. Meaning that they are both putting money into the wedding. A lot of couples live together. And when you get married the money will be shared too. So acting like it's ridiculous that some of your own money went towards your own ring is silly because the money all goes into the same pot anyway.

We bought our rings together too OP. It's not weird at all.

@Emily - Same. I had to laugh a bit. I guess I just never took the ring that seriously. The marriage is all serious, the ring...meh.

We bought the engagement ring and wedding bands together. We've shared the same bank account for years and wether you want to admit it or not most couples play a part in paying off the bill after the marriage. Unless it's paid for in cash.

I don't have my band yet but once I do I don't think I'll be wearing it until the day of the wedding. It wasn't expensive and I actually love the look of my engagement ring by itself. Not bad juju though. HaHa!

@Miranda, I didn't even know you were supposed to pay for each others... That seems confusing and unfair. My ring costs a lot more than his, and I make more money, and our finances are combined. I was just kind of dumbfounded by the question. You learn something new everyday!

I am wearing mine bC we went ahead and got them all 3 soldered together. This is my second marriage so idk if that has me in the mind set of "can't do traditional" the reason we had it soldered together is bc the ering was too big, but it fit with the other two bands. I think you should do what you want!

We all have our opinions about it, but here is the thing. It's your life do what you want. It's really No one else's business. I can understand all the viewpoints, but if your not traditional or superstitious then do what you want. You paid for them and they are yours.

I mean, I tried my wedding ring on, but I'm certainly not going to wear it full time. What's the point of buying a separate wedding band if you're going to wear it before the wedding?

My FH gave me both when he proposed to me bc they came together. They are 2 separate pieces and I planned on getting them soldered together after the wedding. On occasion, I will wear both pieces. I don't think it's bad juju nor is it going to diminish anything IMO.

FH won't even let me try them on occasionally. Once they were sized and back in our possession, he locked them in our safe. I won't get to see them again until he takes them out to be soldered to my E-ring.

@Teri, honestly I was just curious as to how many people do this. I didn't realize it would be a touchy subject to some.

@tamara who paid for your wedding band?

@MrsMayorca - "What did you do at work today, babe?" "Frisbee golf!" "Uhhhh . . ."

On the other hand, he gets up at 5am every day and once had an African warlord put out a hit on him, so I guess it evens out.

I am shamelessly wearing mine today

@MrsV2Be, I'd recommend retrying them on when it gets closer. FH recently lost a bunch of weight and tried on his ring again and it practically fell right off. We bought ours back in November and just pulled them out to a week or so ago to make sure they still fit.

If we would have never pulled them back out, he'd probably lose it at the wedding because it wasn't properly sized anymore.