Wearing a veil

Anyone who judges you for wearing a veil is a judgmental asshole. Wear your veil!

That's just like saying you can't wear a white dress... Who cares about "tradition"

@Kris, yes she was. She thought she could say anything she wanted to me. I had let the little things go to avoid a fight for so long and honestly we were very close, like sisters, but at a certain point I had to say something and she just didn't care that she was hurting me.

@Crystol It's one thing to give honest opinions to a friend but that's very different than saying hurtful things when you know no good can come of it. For example, this girl saw my engagement ring for the first time and only had bad things to say (it was somehow gaudy and cheap at the same time). It's not like I could go exchange it so in my book a simple "It's not my taste but it's lovely for you" would have been good. She never even congratulated me on getting engaged but I let it go because it seemed like the rude thing to do on my part to say something about it. Looking back I should have cared more about my own feelings (hers as well of course just mine should have mattered too) and shouldn't have let it down downhill for so long. I think it went on for long enough and got bad enough that she couldn't understand why it was a problem when I finally called her on it because I'd let myself be a punching bag for so long. Now I know standing up for myself is ok and it actually makes my relationships better in the long run.

It's your wedding. Do what you want!

It's none of anyone's business if you're a virgin or not anyways.

You should follow your way and do what you want more.

Who cares if your a virgin or not. Its no ones business anyways, let alone hers.

And this girl is suppose to be your BM?...Sorry to say but it sounds like (IMO) your BM may be showing signs of jealousy.

If everyone today were following traditions with no exceptions....you'd have majority of all brides not wearing white on their wedding day (from what I've been told was a white dress signifies purity and being untouched/virgin)....and sorry but I've never heard of the veil only being worn if your a virgin.

Bottom line...like OP have said, its YOUR wedding, you do what you want and what makes you feel happy!

Wear it!

I think you should wear it however you want!

What nerve! I say go for it! You'll feel beautiful and you won't have any regrets about it, either.

@Reggie - WOW! People just crack me up sometimes! So sorry she ruined that moment for you though and that you lost a friendship over it.

And to add to what Niki said, if people are so concerned about what and how a bride wears for her wedding day, I'm sure many already know that the white wedding gown was popularized when Queen Victoria wore a white dress for her own wedding, like 200 years ago. Before that red was THE color. When she chose white, people were like, Um, wha??? But a few years after that, ladies journals claimed that her white dress was a "symbol of purity" and all that.

What i have learned is, that IT IS YOUR WEDDING... not your BM's ! Wear it and wear it proud.. If you feel beautiful, then that is all that matters. & Slap her for me please

Do what you want

Wear what you want. It's your wedding!