Wearing a veil

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If you love the look, then absolutely do it.

I did it! I wasn't sure at first, but at the end of the day, I think its pretty. So I did it and have no regrets.

The Virgin stuff is ridiculous wear whatever u want

I've been to plenty of weddings where the brides weren't virgins, and they had the veil covering their face! It turned out beautifully for all of them! I'd say go ahead and do it, if that's what makes you happy! I'm sure it will be beautiful!

Do what you want.

Thanks ladies!! I can't wait for my big day...I'm gonna wear that veil!!! Lol.

Wear it if you want.

The veil has been used historically to symbolize many things: hiding the bride from enchantment by evil spirits, preventing the groom from backing out of an arranged marriage, a sign of humility and respect before God during a religious ceremony, and a status symbol during Victorian times.

Do whatever you'd like!

Like E&M said, weddings have been going on for so long that the symbolisms behind traditions have changed. I'm not a virgin, my FH has been my first (and hopefully only) intimate partner. I'm still wearing a Cathedral length blusher because that is my vision, and it's important to my Dad. If I wanted to I'd even wear a white dress (the white was also a status symbol before it became a symbol of "purity") but I've always liked the look of off whites or even very light blush.

If it's what you want to do, then do it! You don't owe anybody an explanation. My cousin just got married and his wife was wearing a pure white mermaid gown while she was pregnant. Your friend should judge not!

Do want you want! I'm wearing white

How does what happens with your reproductive organs have anything to do with what you wear? Sorry, but some old traditions have no real common sense or meaning today. Wear the veil.

I very much dislike all the "virgin" traditions. So more then half the bride's now wouldn't be allowed to wear white or a 2 tiere veil. I say if you love it do it! You'll look gorgeous in it or not. Don't worry about traditions.

I've been with my fiancé 16 years he was my first and has been my only. Together we have 3 kids and I am wearing a White Dress with a Veil over my face! Wear it with pride!!!!

My opinion is I would smack your BM in the face.

I'm divorced with a kid and I've been with FH for almost five years. Still wearing a veil over my face.

Tell your bridesmaid it's nothing to do with virginity; it's to hide you from the evil spirits [that came out of her mouth]. If you wanted a tradition that said you were a virgin, you'd wear a blue wedding dress.

I just wanted to come back and say something else because this really actually gets to me. I have a *former* friend who constantly made really rude remarks about how I wasn't a virgin so she didn't see why I should do this, that, or the other. It really bothered me because no one should ever judge you for choices that don't affect them (this girl actually judged me for a lot of other things as well but this one esp irritated me). When we were wedding planning there was even a time when she and I were shopping and I found my wedding lipstick color. I was really excited because I had been having a ton of trouble finding anything I liked and she managed to ruin the moment with her judgment. I turned the tube over and noticed the color was called "chaste". I laughed and told the sales guy I thought it was funny since it was for my wedding. She felt it necessary to say it wasn't actually fitting at all and that she was the one who aught to wear that color and not me. I brushed it off but it bugged me more and more for the rest of the weekend she was here. She also continued to judge about our relationship, even saying she couldn't understand why we needed a wedding at all since we were already living together! After a while I confronted her and when she couldn't see anything wrong with her judgments and attitudes it was the beginning of the end of our relationship.

I don't know this girl, but IMO it's 0% her business if you are a virgin. If you want to wear a veil and it makes you feel good then that's all that matters. It could be your third, fourth, or tenth marriage an I would still tell you to wear a veil if you want to. All that matters is what is going to make you feel your best. This is something where to me, I think it's important not only to hold strong to what you want to do but also to make it very clear that judgments won't be tolerated. I let it go on far too long in my life and unfortunately it ruined a great relationship. I think if I had calmly and politely nipped it in the bud when things like that first started happening we might still be friends.

The origin of the veil actually has absolutely nada to do with virginity - thats a meaning that was attached entirely once western religious ceremonies co-opted the use of the veil (like so many other things). The veil predates the whole "purity" and bride in white concept by many centuries.

Its actual origins are largely believed to be from greek and roman wedding traditions - the veil was believed to protect and disguise the bride from demons and evil spirits. Its also where the tradition of bridesmaids in matching dresses came from - originally, they would have worn veils as well and were intended as 'decoys' to confuse any ~evil spirits~ trying to target the bride. The bouquet used to be made of garlic and dill, and intended for the same purpose - warding off "evil".

So uh, yea. Rock what you want.

@Reggie What a biotch.... That lipstick thing is too much!

Thanks everyone, she definitely had me second guessing. I'm usually not one to even care what others think of me, but your wedding day is suppose to be the biggest, happiest day of your life. I didn't want to be judged while walking down the aisle. Reggie, thanks for that tidbit of info...definitely going to pay close attention to the little things for now on. I lost someone who I considered a sister because it turned out she was jealous of everything I did and had. She was secretly in competition with me, all while I thought she was my best friend.