We can’t agree on a wedding

Yikes!!

Wow!!!

U can elope and have just parents present

Counseling stat! If he's putting his mother over being married to you, it's time to reconsider this marriage.

Huge falling out with my family *try and fix this, elopement or not

and the people IN our wedding showing no interest *what interest were they supposed to show?

he absolutely will not marry me unless she’s there *can't you invite your parents?

Why don't you want her there?

Well it sounds like she wants to be there, your FH wants her there, so she should be there.

A falling out in your family, but not his. No wonder his mother is hurt. Invite the parents.

Honestly, please seek some counseling before getting married. If he is so open to being so obviously manipulated by his mother, you may want to figure this out before you commit legally to him. Also, it may help with the strife you are having with family.

Whoaaaa.

Elopement with parents present is an option, if you so choose. However, the wedding is about the two of you, and he should NOT be letting his mother dictate your plans. It sounds like it was a mutual decision and he only changed his mind because of what she said. She's making things about her by refusing to be happy for the two of you, and that's not okay. Your FH needs to set some boundaries and tell his mother that it's his wedding and it's up to the two of you to decide how you get married and who is present.

I would suggest counseling or some sort of mediator for you and FH, because it sounds like this is causing a lot of stress for the both of you and you need to get on the same page.

Is there a reason you wouldn't want his parents there? It is not uncommon for immediate family to be present at elopements.

I'm pretty sure my parents or FH's parents would be pretty upset if we told them they couldn't come to see us get married. Can't you elope and have parents present?

What is so bad about having his mom there? But I agree with PPs, you should consider some pre-marital counseling.

It's still an elopement if you invite your parents. I think my parents would be very hurt if they couldn't attend my wedding ceremony.

Ugh this sounds like my FH.

He let his parents talk him into a lot of things with our wedding, i.e. Making it way bigger than we wanted.

It wasn't until everything was booked that I realized he was telling me what his parents wanted him to say instead of what he actually wanted. It look a lot of conversation and a lot of getting him to realize that we need to be a team and his parents need to be removed from the picture and he needs to decide what HE wants and not what his parents want him to do.

That was a lot of ands. But, my advice: talk to him. Make sure this is what HE really wants and not him settling for making his mother happy. Then, work out a solution together.

You both need to compromise, but make sure you're starting off on what YOU and HIM want and not what your parents want. And go from there.

I think counseling is a bit excessive for you at this time. You just need to sit down and talk.

Just have the courthouse or elopement with the parents present. Then, you can go out to dinner after. Are you worried because your parents may not attend? You mentioned that you had a falling out with your family....