We accidently set our date on the same day as our friends 1st wedding anniversary

Don't change your date. It would be one thing if it were same date, same year. But one year apart? If your wedding is on a Sunday, why can't they celebrate Saturday? You have legitimate reasons for the date you picked. They can get over it or not come.

My wedding is the same day as a close friends 1st anniversary. I don't feel bad about it at all. It's the date that we wanted and that's what matters.

Keep your date. If they want to celebrate elsewhere, they can choose not to attend your wedding.

Does he realize that you (because you are going to keep your date) and plenty other people will share the same wedding date???? Tell him to get a life and if he has a problem he wasn't a friend to begin with

I would think that attending a best friend's wedding would be an amazing way to celebrate my one year. Even if they don't feel that way, asking you to move your date is ridiculous.

We thought we were doing good with our wedding date, because all of our relatives are done with birthdays and anniversaries around the beginning of October. Well turns out, it's FH's aunt and uncle's wedding anniversary the day of our wedding. We aren't changing the date just because it's their anniversary, and I don't think you have to either.

Nope. Not terrible! This is your wedding and you should not change it for anyone!

I actually did the same thing. I recently attended one of my college friend's wedding, and it was exactly a year before my date. I feel bad about it because that means she most likely won't be able to come to my wedding, but it was hard enough just finding a date that worked for FH, me, and our immediate families. It sucks that your friend is upset, but you're not going to be able to make everyone happy with the date.

There have been some assumptions that this GM is a 'best friend' or close, close friend but the way OP worded it was "one of our groomsman".

Sometimes a GM is just that, a groomsman, especially if it's a larger bridal party--the GM could be an old friend that's no longer as close to the B or G or just a good work acquaintance or a first cousin--not a Best Friend that needs to be checked in with on the presumptive wedding date. That's reserved for VIPs like immediate family and possible the MOH and best man.

I just had to get that out.

That's kind of ridiculous.

He's being ridiculous.

Don't change it. There will probably always be some type of conflict no matter which date you choose.

Our nephew will be 3 the day after our wedding, another friends child will be 2 on our wedding date. And a dear friends birthday is the day before...and any other Saturday in Fall would have something like that go on with my friends & family. But just more to celebrate

If found out after the fact that we would be sharing our anniversary with friends of ours. I think it will be their 27th year. They said they were excited for us to share their anniversary with us. I have been thinking of doing something that day for them. Like a special dance or something.

Maybe they just feel that at this moment because their wedding is still on the horizon and so fresh on their minds. I am sure once their wedding it over in like six months, they won't even think about it when the time comes.

If it were me and our 1st year anniversary fell on a Sunday, we would want to go out that Saturday anyway.

Another vote for "Your friends don't own the date-- they need to chill". These are going to be the friends who flip because you name your baby what they wanted to name *their* baby, thus 'stealing it". Just so you know....

Keep your date!

This is silly. Is a one year anniversary really that big of a deal? I would never ask one of my best friend's to change their date for an anniversary - and I certainly wouldn't miss their wedding because of it. People really need to get their priorities straight.

Do.Not.Change.Your. Date. They will deal.

We actually ran into the same predicament with one of our friends they got married two years ago and we ended up picking the same date as them. They are actually really excited that we'll be sharing an anniversary together and FH and I are trying to think of something to give them as an anniversary gift at our wedding.

Truth is you can't please everyone and there's no reason for them to be making such a big deal about you having it on their anniversary. It happens and honestly they shouldn't be making such a big deal about it, maybe if you were on the same day and the same year than yes change but not a year apart that's a bit ridiculous and rude of them.

People won't attend a wedding because it's their one year?! Celebrate before or after.

Sometimes my birthday falls on a tuesday, I celebrate friday.

Glad I'm not a shit friend.

This is sort of happening with us. We are having a DW and our friends will have to travel to be with us on their one year anniversary. They're excited that they get to go away for their first anniversary. Lol

Theres only 365 days in a year, and more than 365 couples......

Don't chnage it. They owned that day last year. - if they attend you might want to acknowledge/wish them a happy anniversary