We accidently set our date on the same day as our friends 1st wedding anniversary

Even if you change the date to saturday it will still be their anniversary weekend. I say keep your date and if he doesn't want to be in the wedding they you can be understanding without compromising what works for your family.

Also, I read above where someone said if they were him they wouldn't want to spend most of they day away from thieir spouse. Obviously you're going to invite the GM's wife to the wedding. I'd also make an effort to include her in whatever it is he has to do that would keep him away from her. Seriously, what duties does a GM have except to show up? Does he need to be with the groom to hold his hand while he dresses? Just limit his GM 'duties' (bleecch) so he doesn't have to be apart from his wife that much.

I'm having my MOH, her bf, our best man and his wife meet me and FH at a bar right after for our first look while we get a few more pics downtown around the venue. They can hang with us or do their own thing with their SO before the ceremony.

I think asking you to change the date is pretty screwed up.

Like others have said, there's bound to be something going on for someone the day of your wedding. You picked that date for a specific reason and it better accommodates a large portion of your guests. It's not like you are picking that date to "steal" theirs. They get one day. And that is 9/3/2016. They don't get to dictate who has a wedding on 9/3 for all of eternity.

Wow. It wouldn't occur to me to care if someone had their wedding on my anniversary....or to suggest they change the wedding date. Special snowflakes abound!

Even if he is a GM, if you have a sweetheart table instead of a head table he can be sitting with his wife for the meal, and dancing with her, and hardly be apart from her at all. The GM's don't even have to do as much getting ready as the bridesmaids do.

They just need to get over it. I'll be spending my first anniversary at my daughter's college graduation next year. I've been to a funeral on my birthday. Things happen, They can't own the date forever.

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They don't get the market on that date forever. Keep the date. If they don't come, they don't come. That's pretty selfish, and shows you what kind of friendship you really had.

You get one day. An anniversary is like a birthday and doesn't have to be celebrated on the exact day. Sure it'll be annoying to them, but they can celebrate the day before or not participate. It's pretty rude of them to ask you to change your date. Our wedding weekend we had at least 3 birthdays that we were aware of that conflicted with our wedding weekend. We had a cake for my sister and groomsmen who had a birthday the day of our rehearsal and also my grandpa who had a birthday the day of our wedding. It's something that is kind of impossible to avoid.

They aren't getting married for three months, and they're already worried about the sanctity of their first anniversary? Newsflash -- it's not that big of a deal.

I think it takes a lot of nerve to ask your friends -- with signed contracts and paid deposits (something they should fully understand, by the way) -- to change their date. Everyone gets ONE date. They either decline or accept. It's called being an adult.

Don't change your date. They don't own that wedding date and can get over it.

Wow, that's selfish of them. Do not change your date. As others have said, you get one day. You do not get claim to that date forever.

Explain to him that you've put your deposit down already and you cannot change your date. If he still puts up a fight, id give him an out. Have your FH tell him that while you'd both love for him to be a groomsman, you understand if he decides he wants to celebrate his anniversary instead. IMHO, having your wedding on his one year anniversary would be a shitty reason to not be a groomsmen in one of your friends weddings.

I'm kinda in the minority here, but I think it is general courtesy to check with VIPs including your wedding party before you set the date. I think a first anniversary is special, and wouldn't have wanted to attend a wedding that day. Since you already set the date, it is kinda too late. But you are putting what I assume is a close friend in a tough spot, skip your wedding or not be able to celebrate their anniversary the way they want. If this wasn't someone in the wedding party or if it wasn't a first anniversary I would think differently.

The check with your VIP's tends to be for immediate family. If we had asked our wedding party of 12 people their input on wedding dates, we wouldn't have found a date.

DH & I got married on Oct. 10. October is a popular wedding month here and I've officiated several weddings on our anniversary day or weekend. Last year, it happened to be a friend's weddings and we're happy to be sharing our anniversaries!

I really can't believe he asked you to change the date....It is not their date forever. Your not being ridiculous.

I would not change the date I mean seriously, it's a year apart... I also cannot believe they'd even ask you to change it.

There's only 365 days. It's always going to be someone's something! Your fine! Leave it!

If the contracts are done you probably won't be able to change the date without losing your deposits and there will be a whole lot of hassle and confusion. If it is that big of an issue he should step down.

I don't know why it would be such a big deal for them but I say keep your date. I'm getting married the same day as a friend but a year apart and she's excited to have a date and doesn't find it to be a big deal at all. I guess it just depends on the couple, though.

That's pretty rude of them to ask. They get one day.

I'm vaguely reminded of a former WW poster who pitched a fit about attending a wedding on her anniversary next month...