Dedicated October 2020

Was it a surprise or did you know it was coming

Rebecca, on July 17, 2019 at 8:29 PM Posted in Parties and Events 1 63
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So I basically knew exactly when the proposal was happening. We talked about it a lot together and I knew when he was getting the ring and that he couldn’t hold on to it for long because he was so excited. I just don’t wanna look back and regret not being surprised. Did anyone else have this?


  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·

    The actual proposal and when it happened was a surprise, but we had already discussed marriage and looked at rings. I thought it wouldn't happen until a year after it did so it was not on my radar at all when he actually proposed.

  • Dita
    Expert August 2019
    Dita ·
    We had talked marriage a lot and I did know when he started ring shopping, but the proposal itself was a total surprise. Thinking back to it, there were definitely signs I could have picked up on, but didn’t.
  • Cliodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Cliodhna Online ·

    Hi there Rebecca

    Welcome to the WeddingWire community.

    A lot of couples aren’t surprised by their proposal. The movies often depict situations where people are taken by surprise and are totally shocked by it! In reality, many couples talk about marriage before getting engaged!!

    It’s difficult to live worrying about the things we may regret at some point in the future. What matters most is that you two are getting married

  • Brooke
    Expert November 2019
    Brooke ·

    My FH and I had talked about it a lot, so it wasn't TOO much of a surprise. To me though, it's not so much about being surprised as it was the feeling of knowing I get to spend the rest of my life with my best friend, so no regrets there!

  • K
    Beginner November 2019
    Kara ·
    FH and I had talked a lot about marriage but the day he proposed he had asked about my preference in how he proposed and then played it off that he'd keep it in mind for the next time we were together. We were engaged within an hr of that conversation so yeah I was surprised!
  • Candice
    Devoted July 2020
    Candice ·

    So my mom gave my fiance her old engagement ring to propose with but he didn't like it so he just left it on the coffee table for like a month. I went on a long weekend with my friend and when I came back the ring was gone sooo I knew what was up.

  • Talia
    Super October 2020
    Talia ·

    The actual proposal was a surprise. I honestly didn't know it was going to happen. 2 years ago I thought he was gonna propose in New York bc we went during Christmas time and he surprised me with that trip. But 2 years later boom, engaged at Disney! Which was my first time there!! We obviously talked about marriage throughout our relationship as we have been together for 8 years now.

  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
    Kristin ·

    Kinda did, Kinda didn't? At one point, I went shopping with his sisters and niece and they made me stop and look at rings at one of the jewelers. I really didn't want to, it just felt awkward. I knew his sisters were sending him pictures of rings they thought I would like too (probably based on that trip) but I wasn't sure if that was just them being pushy or if he had asked them. Then he started asking me about my ring size, which I really didn't think anything of because Valentines day was approaching and I figured he was going to replace my claddagh ring that I somehow smashed (with my finger still in it and without noticing it) so bad I was about 2 seconds from cutting it off because I was loosing feeling in that finger. Turns out, I was wrong lol. The day he actually proposed was a crazy day at work and I had a ton of stuff to do for my best friends local reception at the end of the week (she was still in Costa Rica) so I was super irritated with how much he was blowing up my phone while I was running errands and wasn't in the greatest mood when I got home. He said he was going to wait until the following weekend when we were on our cruise to do it but was afraid the dogs would find it and eat it before then lol.

  • Jessica
    Super October 2019
    Jessica ·
    Im not sure when, but at some point in our relationship we both started saying stuff like "Oh when were married....", etc.
    He had asked me what size ring I wore like more than 6 months before he proposed, so by the time he did it, yes, I was surprised.
    He had been keeping me out of the center console of his truck, but honestly, I thought he was hiding the keys to a boat (I thought that was my christmas present).
    Ive wanted a boat forever and we had been talking about getting one, and it was also December. It's kinda funny now because about 10 minutes after he proposed I say "So am I not getting a boat for Christmas?" LOL
  • Sara
    Devoted June 2020
    Sara ·
    I was pretty involved in the engagement. I didn't know the exact date, but I knew he had a ring. I kind of feel bad for being so involved but FH has some time management and procrastination issues so I kind of pushed him along and asked where he was in the process a bunch. Also he was excited and kept "secretly" telling strangers we met on the cruise something so I figured something was up.
  • Catherine
    Dedicated September 2019
    Catherine ·

    I accidentally found out when he was buying the ring, because I was in the car with his dad (and him and his siblings) and his dad answered a call from his cousin (the jeweler) on speakerphone and the cousin asked about the plan to buy the ring. FH was pretty upset at the time, but we laugh about it now. It's a big joke whenever we answer a call on speakerphone.

    He ended up waiting 6 whole months after buying the ring to propose!! I was going crazy for the whole six months thinking he would do it at any moment. By the time he did, I was just so happy it was actually happening. No regrets it wasn't a surprise! It is still a moment I will never forget

  • Michelle
    Super August 2019
    Michelle ·
    We talked about it a lot and at one point he even told me he had something in the works and just needed to go to the jeweler. The actual proposal was a complete surprise though. I expected to happen so many times and when it didn't I stopped expecting it. Then he and our friends planned this elaborate ruse by having a picnic at their house (which we did frequently) and everyone there knew it was going to happen but me. Lol

    I was married once before and I knew all about the ring and even when he was going to propose (he didn't know I knew) but it was still very nice and I loved it. Like Cliodhna said, you are getting married so just focus on that and not about not being surprised. In the end that's all that matters!
  • K
    Expert November 2019
    Kiley Online ·

    I had no idea he had the ring nor that he was going to propose. We had spoken about it quite a bit, and I knew it would happen within the next year.. but we also said we didn't like proposals on major holidays.. so as romantic as New Year's was for us, I keep telling myself he wasn't going too because of our conversation.. BUT to my surprise he did! Because he knows how much I love fireworks, so he planned EVERY MOMENT around the firework display. It was so perfect!

    I always thought women's reaction in movies of gasping, crying and being completely shocked was so fake.. but when I turned the corner and he was down on one knee.. I gasped, hand over mouth, repeatedly saying "shut up! Are you serious? Shut up!" and cried like a baby..

  • Erin
    Expert May 2020
    Erin ·
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    I'm kind of curious to know if he proposed similar to your preferences?! How cute!

  • K
    Beginner November 2019
    Kara ·
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    I didn't really have any preference other than not wanting a lot of people there. His proposal was great and i wouldn't change a thing!
  • 8BitBek
    Devoted October 2020
    8BitBek ·

    I knew it was coming because I asked HIM!

  • Rebecca
    Dedicated October 2020
    Rebecca ·
    Thanks guys! All these stories are so cute! And I am just so happy to be able to spend my life with him but the element of surprise just wasn’t what you see in the movies but I just have to remind myself real life isn’t like the movies!
  • Courtney
    Dedicated July 2020
    Courtney ·
    I had NO clue until the night before he proposed. We had talked about marriage but never had been ring shopping or anything close to it. The only reason I knew was because my mom was acting "weird."
    It made me so nervous the next morning before he finally popped the question but overall surprise or not, it's about getting to marry your best friend
  • A
    Dedicated May 2020
    Abigail ·

    I absolutely knew and I don't mind it at all. We are partners and discuss everything together and thats just how our lives are. I think its easy to look at other proposals and be a tad envious of the pure shock and hidden cameras and photos and they are PRECIOUS, but in the end it just wasn't us. We are planners and we knew we would be getting married before we moved to Maryland for his job and he had to request off for the wedding (a whole year in advance haha) so I knew it was coming. At the end of the day, I am just excited we get to spend our lives together.

  • A
    Just Said Yes July 2021
    Amanda ·
    My fiancé and I talked about marriage a lot and knew it would happen one day. I just didn’t know it would that soon. I was thinking 2021 he would so I was completely surprised and he didn’t plan it out. It was a normal night at home and he just popped the question with the ring in hand.

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