Jasmine
VIP August 2020

Walking Down The Aisle

Jasmine, on June 5, 2019 at 8:46 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 43
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Hi everyone!

So this will be my 2nd marriage and my FH's first. My first marriage was at a courthouse so there was no walk down an aisle and no giving away. We originally planned awhile back for a destination elopement but that changed and it will be a full wedding event. Anyway, since I've already been married before, I'm not sure if it really means anything anymore for someone to walk me down and give me away because that ship has sailed. My question is: could or should I still have someone walk me down the aisle or should I just do it alone? Has anyone else walked or plan on walking down the aisle alone? What should I do? Any advice/guidance would be greatly appreciated.


Thanks in advance!

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  • Rachael
    Devoted October 2019
    Rachael ·

    If it means something to you, it still means something

    Just because you've been married before doesn't negate anything for your upcoming wedding & marriage. Do what will feel right to you, and what will make it special

    Do you want to be given away? That's what you should be asking yourself

  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    I think it’s really your preference. In my opinion, the concept of being “given away” is long outdated anyway. It’s more of an honor to have someone walk you down the aisle. It’s 2019, women are no longer property that can be owned or given away.
  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    I definitely get that and I never meant it as being property. It was more in terms of sentiment from a parental view. I didn't come up the title but that's what I take it as. I appreciate your input. Thanks.

  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    Yea it still means something to me but just thinking about it made me question like should I or shouldn't I, ya know? I honestly didn't know if there was any kind of etiquette with that. Thanks though. I really appreciate it.

  • Casey
    Dedicated October 2019
    Casey ·
    I’ve been married before (courthouse as well). I’m having my mother walk me down. My dad recently passed away 😥
  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    Oh wow. Sorry to hear that. It'll be just as lovely, I'm sure!

  • Iva
    Super September 2019
    Iva Online ·
    I really don’t think whether it’s your 1st or 2nd marriage makes a difference here. You should do whatever you feel like doing. If you like the idea of walking alone, walk alone. If you envision walking with your FH or meeting him half way down the aisle, do it! If you prefer to have your parent(s) by your side, it’s always a sweet gesture. The giving away tradition is sexist & antiquated, of course. So the meaning of this is solely personal. Just think about what do you see when you envision yourself walking down the aisle? Some brides prefer to have all eyes on them, while others feel like that’s too much attention & want someone to hold onto. Whatever works for you & your vision will be great!
  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    I didn't even think about that. All eyes on me freaks me out.

  • Iva
    Super September 2019
    Iva Online ·
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    Lol... that feeling is not uncommon. Many brides decide to walk with someone because of that. You even see it in the movies all the time, when the bride is freaking out before walking down the aisle, but then they hold their parents’ hand & all of a sudden all is good lol 😊
  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    Yea. That makes sense. I have real bad nerves. I can't even do speeches in front of a class of people I've known for months! I get all shaky! Looks like i'll be having someone walk me so I don't pass out or look like i'm about to run lol

  • Iva
    Super September 2019
    Iva Online ·
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    Haha... 😆 Whatever works for you, right?
    It’s just performance anxiety & fear of public speaking, many people have it! This is totally unsolicited advice (so forgive me lol) but if it really bothers you, ask your doctor about propranolol (a friend takes it & they say it helps a lot with same type of problem).
    In any case, having someone to squeeze their hand super tight while you walk down to your FH, super excited, is not a bad idea at all 🙂
  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    No worries. I appreciate that. I'll definitely look into it.

  • Alycia
    Super July 2020
    Alycia ·
    You can be escorted down the aisle to your groom without doing the “who gives this woman?” part.
  • VIP September 2019
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    I think it depends on you and your preference. I was married once before. My father walked me down the aisle then and will do it again this time. I don't think it is necessary but I decided on it because I dont know how long my father will be around and wanted a special moment with him and I.
  • Anna
    Rockstar June 2020
    Anna ·
    Heck yes!
    Walk down that aisle with someone special to give you away.
    You have never been given to your current groom, so why should it be any less special this time?
    Second time around still counts as a marriage. This time you just got it right❤👍
  • Hannah
    VIP July 2019
    Hannah ·
    If you want to be escorted down the aisle, do it! I also personally don't view it as "giving the bride away." I am having both of my parents walk me down the aisle as a sign of my love and close bond with them both.
  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    Yea true. I wasn't so focused on the whole speech on someone actually asking that. Just the action of doing so. I probably should have made that part clear lol.

  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    That makes a lot of sense. I didn't think of it that way. Thanks

  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    Very true. That's exactly what my mom said! This time I got it right lol. I truly believe that too. Thanks!

  • Jasmine
    VIP August 2020
    Jasmine ·
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    I wasn't expecting the question to be asked or anything. I guess I could have just left that part out in the post but it was just moreso the action of walking me down and making that switch from parents to husband. I appreciate it!! Thank you.

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