Waiting till the ceremony

You say "I want to wait until the wedding." You shouldn't have to explain that you want to wait until your wedding to get married.

Even when you get married it may take time for the paperwork to be filed plus I thought you could only make insurance adjustments once a year. He may have to wait. Tell him you understand his frustrations but at the end of the day you want a wedding and want to wait until then. You can go and get the marriage license now but the ceremony is still on.

I can definitely see both sides of this. Your fiancé is thinking of the most logical solution to the problem at hand: a job you hate. While this doesn't mean he's disregarding the wedding, you can tell he just wants to see you happy I do agree with you though, in the sense that I wouldn't want to go off to the courthouse when our big special day is just around the corner. You have a couple options here:

1. Tough it out at the job just a bit longer...can you identify/squash a root cause or is this more of a "smile through it" for a bit longer. Try and find something to make your day more enjoyable...get a coffee on the way to work you love or take your lunch breaks outside/off site.

2. Put in your 2 weeks notice and see what your company offers in terms of extended insurance (typically called COBRA)...this is an extended coverage that most companies offer to employees who are leaving and will have a gap in insurance. Be warned, it can be REALLY expensive because the employers had been previously taking on some of that financial burden. It's worth checking out

3. Do some online research and see what companies offer short term insurance plans. Ex: when I started my last job, I wasn't eligible for insurance until after 90 days of "trial" employment. I went online and found an insurance company that would be able to accommodate a short term policy...more expensive than my company insurance now, but less expensive than COBRA coverage. Find one you like and put in your two weeks!

I'm sorry you're so miserable at your job

60 days really isn't that long though; you're almost there! Do you have any sick/personal/holiday days you can use up?

You should also check to see what the processing time is on his company's end for adding you to their insurance.

You are definitely not being unreasonable, so don't question yourself. It's important to protect the significance of the wedding and the vision that you have!

I would just wait it out - 60 days will go by quickly. I would advice this: if you do a courthouse wedding, please please please tell your guests you got married 60 days ago. Be upfront. These boards are littered with people who say "Oh they won't care" but trust us, we do. And your courthouse wedding will be your wedding, your ceremony will be a celebration of vows. Is that what you want?

Ask about COBRA - it costs money but allows you to keep your insurance for usually up to 18 months. It might be worth it to preserve your sanity (I’ve been there). Also keep in mind that in many cases after you marry you usually have to wait until the 1st of the next month to be added to you spouse’s insurance. Or you can roll the dice and be uninsured for a few months.

I totally get it! My job ceased giving insurance coverage for my position, and we still have 9 mos until the wedding. My fiancé suggested the same thing. I contemplated it, but it just felt like the wedding wouldn’t be as special then.

60 days isn’t that long, I would just wait

Once your hubby presents the marriage license, signed and sealed, he won't have to wait for open enrollment.