Vows to my daughter on wedding day...anyone else?

I have no idea what to say, but I think it's a beautiful idea to include your daughter.

My sisters husband did a vow to her daughter and gave her I think a necklace when he did it? We all thought it was super sweet. I don't remember what all he said but there wasn't a dry eye in the church.

FH's son is only 3 and wouldn't get it, let alone stand up there appropriately (we're worried about him being the ring bearer in FSIL's wedding) so we are not doing anything like that. Also, I've been around since he was 10 months old, and when we were going through his baby book, he thought his mom was me, because it was a picture of FH and his ex, and he's so little he doesn't even recognize them as ever being together.

I have vows for a step-parent to say to a step-child. Is that what you mean?

When FH proposed, he first asked my daughter (now 3) and gave her a beautiful ring that was almost like mine. We have included her in every step of this process, to the point where she talks about how excited she is to marry me and marry FH at our wedding. We are looking for family vows to say to her.

Here's what we did

"husband to be, you have already demonstrated your love to these children by opening your heart and your home to them. On this day, do you welcome these children in to your life as a permanent part of your family?

Children, Do you accept 'husband to be' into your lives not as a replacement to the father you already have but as a welcome addition to your family?"

They all said I do

We are doing a family ceremony.

FAMILY CEREMONY

As we give thanks to God for the love of Gregg and Misty together, so, too, we recognize the merging of families taking place and the significant role their child Cody plays in this marriage today celebrated.

Children are gifts entrusted to you. Not as an object to be controlled, but as human beings, each unique in their own personality, each separate in their own identity. You may give them your love, but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies, but not their souls. For they dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

Cont'

For life does not go backwards, nor does it tarry with yesterday. You are the bow from which your children, as living arrows, are sent forth.

Do you Gregg and Misty, promise before God, family and friends, to love and protect Cody?

Do you Cody, promise to love and honor your parents?

When my mom got married, i knew my mom would always love and support me. The game changer came when my stepdad really came forth w/ his vows to me. I got a necklace and a ring from both of them.