Verbal RSVP's

I couldn't care less how they tell us, I just hope they do. I gave them online, email, phone, AND RSVP cards to send in.

However, I will secretly be annoyed at all the wasted postage and print costs if I don't get any RSVP cards back, heh.

I don't care how they get back to me, text, mail, email, pigeon, just RSVP!

Uphda ........... I like "proof" B.U.T. if I get a verbal rsvp that's better than nothing.

My invites only had our cell #s and our emails to respond to, and we already have most of ours back so why would that not work? I feel like it's fighting tooth and nail anymore these days to get someone to physically send back an RSVP in the mail.

Yea I just want people to tell me, I don't care how it's done. But I do agree that the waste postage is annoying.

So many people have already said "can't I just tell you?" Umm.. you could or you could also just check the box on the rsvp and put it in your mailbox, it's already pre stamped for you. Not hard! But I guess a verbal is better then nothing!

About 75% of the weddings I've been invited to, in the last 5 years, have used some sort of online RSVP system. My sister did hers, through her website, and all but 2 guests responded, 10 days before her due date. I used regular e-mail; if one of the few guests didn't have access to a computer, they all knew someone who did. No wasted cards/envelopes/postage. We both accepted responses any way we could get them, whether it was in person, by phone, text message, Facebook private message, etc. If someone had said to me "Return the damn card or you won't get food!," I'd simply not attend.

This makes me frustrated for the world.

Deadlines and following simple instructions are an everyday part of adulthood. I can honestly say that I will give serious side eye to people who seem to be incapable is such a simple task.

Just return the damn card.

Ps; having an online set up is completely different, and I have not been to a wedding with that yet, I actually don't even know anyone who made a wedding website!

People tried to verbal before the deadline and my usual response was "I love checking the mail, just humor me and send the card back?"

After the deadline, whatever. Just fucking respond! Lol

You're a hostess, not a prison matron. Proper etiquette does require that your guests send you their reply in the same manner that you extended the invitation: by a hand-written formal note for a formal mailed invitation, by a hand-written informal note for an informal mailed invitation, by phone for a telephoned invitation, verbally, for a verbal invitation; and by extension, text for text, facebook message for facebook message, and email for email. But you cannot properly teach etiquette to your guests ... and you'll notice that none of the actual proper options boil down to "fill out an official form and submit it through the proper channels". One of the multifarious grand-nephews married a girl who called back after I sent her my very-proper acceptance note on my personalized note-paper, to tell me that I had to go check in on the R.s.v.p. website. Which I did, but I think less of her for her officiousness.

Brides so often get flack on wedding websites for being "gift-grabby", but they seem usually to be quite innocent of the charge. Greed is never nice, but I think we need to recognize that greed for control is at least as common as is greed for material goods ... and try to stem our inclinations in that direction.

Our venue coordinator suggested making her the bad guy "Our venue requests written confirmation." It worked!

I would probably say something along the lines of "If it's not too inconvenient, can you please use the RSVP card? I'm so busy and am juggling so many things for the wedding that I just want to insure that I don't forget you in my headcount."

I have been following up with those who have not sent it in yet. Even friends that verbal rsvpd when they received their invitation. I just said it is how I am tracking your meal choice. Everyone has been fine with my follow up.

I'm doing online RSVP, but I'll take a call or text. As long as they respond, I can go in and check the box for them. It's not necessary (for me) to make them conform to the way I envision the responses happening.