Verbal RSVP's---Am I asking to much?

People always do everything last minute, even when a self addressed stamped envelope is there unfortunately they will probably all start rolling in next week but I don't blame you I would want the rsvp card in hand too

Another thing is, I don't always have my guest list in front of me. And me being busy with other things (work, daughter, etc.) I may forget to mark them as they will be attending....if I have they're RSVP's there would be no way of me missing anyone.

I went through this. It gets to the point towards the end where a verbal was fine. I didn't think it was too hard for them to write a name, pick a meal, and put it in a stamped and addressed envelope, but apparently it is. Take what you can get and just write it down.

It's frustrating, especially since they aren't even contacting you or FH directly. We haven't sent invites out yet but knowing our crowd, I kinda expect this to happen.

As much as guests SHOULD be considerate and send in the paper, a third of them probably threw out your card right away. A third will forget to send them.

Just take them verbally and be glad people are RSVPing at all. If you have to, send yourself an email telling you who RSVP'd and what their meal choices are. That's what I'm doing.

We had a few people who didn't RSVP and we heard through word of mouth they were coming.

It drove me nuts.

Most of them were out of town so I know with their booked airfare, they would make it.

A few were local so we just went with it and assumed they were coming.

They did.

As annoying as it is, I would just accept the verbal RSVP. Otherwise you're going to end up calling a lot of these people in a couple weeks when you haven't received their RSVP card!

Heck no you aren't being unreasonable! I am super forgetful and super organized and I would be mad at my mom for letting them get away with telling your mom to tell you.

@Becoming a Mrs. ooh yes it is totally acceptable toward the end, as the last minute people will surely send them out on the last day. We are planning on calling our guests that we don't receive RSVP's from to confirm "yes or no".

I have however made a little note next to the names (if I remember) that verbally said they'd be attending...but also still requesting the card.

@Teaowl is so very frustrating having my mom call me/text me all the time knowing I want the actual RSVP. But she's excited so I can't blame her for doing that.

Thanks so much ladies!! I was starting to think I was becoming a witch/bridezilla, or seeming to make it difficult for my mom when she's trying to be helpful. Which she really is, I just want the actual card in hand is all.

I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. lol

I would count verbal RSVP's but ask that they send one in. Ours slowly came in, but started coming in more frequently the closer we got to our RSVP deadline and we still had to track people down. Even people who RSVP with a response card will still no show.

That's a bummer. It's annoying and hopefully some have just texted/called family just so it was out there but they haven't gotten around to sending it back yet. I wouldn't like just text/calls because people have a tendency of trying to back out of things so I feel like for many sending back an RSVP card is more final. If that's all you get, I think I'd just go with it and assume they're coming. You still have time though! Hopefully more will cooperate!

@Soon2BMrsB some invitations were sent out of state and off island (I live in Hawaii), those were the ones I made sure I texted just to be sure they received our invitation (I did mention that they please rsvp even if they aren't able to make it that we'd totally understand either way). They did respond that they did receive them, and like you said I'm sure (hoping) they haven't gotten around to sending them back.

I'm not stressing on this (yet) as they still have time to send it in. Its just the ones that are calling in that I'm questioning whether they'll send it or not.

I just feel the same as you do with them sending back the RSVP, its more a final yes or no answer.