VENTing about people who don't RSVP

@Houligantobe My venue requires a final count months before the actual date - it's their policy. It's a DW at a resort and they cannot plan and select a package unless they know how many people will be in attendance.

It's way too early if you ask me, but what can you do.

I'm dreading the rsvp stuff

:/

I totally feel you! We had a toooon of people who didn't RSVP by the deadline, and we gave it an additional week after the RSVP deadline to start reaching out to non-responders just in case any trickled in!

Our friends were worse at RSVPing than our family friends, but they were much easier to get a response from with a quick "are you coming and prime rib, salmon, or chicken?" text. I was more surprised by my parents friends who didn't RSVP. Come on, you're adults!

The most frustrating though was that no one in my immediate family RSVPed... and went the "well obviously you know I'll be there" route. Yes I get that, but I NEED YOUR MEAL CHOICE! Which you know, because I'm having you follow up with other family members and friends!! So frustrating.

No.. I completely disagree with people that say "life" happens.

99% of people are on social media 24/7. If you have time to scroll thru instagram, you have time to RSVP in a timely fashion.

People are so socially inept these days.

There ya go @MrsCoakleyToBe....You are EXACTLY right. I see you on social media. I see you posting your meals and your pointless memes. But you can't check mark a card, write your name and throw it in a mail box? And sorry PP- saying you lived in an apartment that doesn't have outgoing mail? Lame-o. I've lived in apartments for 10 years. I either drove by a) a post office, b) a blue mailbox anywhere out in town, or c) put it in with my workplace's outgoing mail. The LAZINESS astounds me.

I am not trying to take it personally, but it's very hard to. Those of you defending non-RSVPers or saying you ARE one yourself. Firstly, shame on you. Secondly, Just you WAIT until it's your day and you're having to run around like this. It's lazy at best, disrespectful at worst. Wake the hell up and RSVP.

I'm ready to let this thread die now though. It just gets my blood pressure going especially with folks trying to explain to me the minority, miniscule reason why *they* don't RSVP. Very few exceptions apply here. I'm convinced Bridezillas aren't born, they're created.

"I'm convinced Bridezillas aren't born, they're created"

YAS.

I've had the same issue. Mostly with FH's friends and family members who either "forget" to RSVP or "misplaced" their invitation. And don't get me started on the people who kept messaging us asking what the M______ was for! Ughhh. I'm so glad we're done with that.

I had 5 no shows at my wedding. Not to happy about that.

Before you get upset about not receiving mailed RSVPs, take in to account that they may have actually been lost in the mail. We received 2 pieces of mail for the wrong address about a week ago. I put them on the counter so I could take them back to the post office. FH got home, assumed they were our mail and opened one of them. Turns out, they were RSVP cards for a wedding! I put it back in the envelope, taped it up and dropped both off at the post office the next day. Yesterday, one of them was back in our mailbox! It has 2 postmark stamps and the tape that I resealed it with. The address is in our rown, but not near us and has a completely different street name. Not sure show it got mixed up twice. It's in my car so I can drop it back off at the post office. Hopefully, it gets to the right address this time.

I know some people just don't send back the RSVPs, but it's not always their fault that they are not received

This is like an everyday thing with some (almost most) Mexican families. When we send invites there are never any RSVP's attached because nobody ever sends any back! It usually involves a phonecall saying 'oh i'm so excited for your celebration! do you need me to bring anything?' Even though this is my culture, I can see where brides would not like this at all. Hopefully you get some RSVP's soon!

Yes I am disappointed in my family. It stresses the bride and family when they don’t get back rsvp. There is stress enough just say yes or no and drop in mailbox. Don’t cost nothing. Someone is planning food and seating it’s just disrespectful.

People are just a holes. You waste time, effort, and money on them and all they have to do is check a box and put it in their mailbox or drop it off at a post office. Our RSVP s are due next week and we still need 67 back. Lol it really shows you who cares about you and who are lazy as all get out.

I had a bridal shower the other day and 15 people did not RSVP. The thing that angers me most is that people near and dear threw me the shower and had tons of food, cake, and party favors left over because people are too lazy and inconsiderate to say no I won't be there. It just really shows their character. The people that threw my shower are too nice but I will have no problem calling people out at family functions. It's really makes you think less of your family and friends and that they don't even care or have respect toward a you. Sigh. Okay I'm done now but really that was almost 70 dollars worth of stamps lol