VENTing about people who don't RSVP

Girl if you don't have some wine and relax. Watch a happy movie or something don't let it upset you that bad. At least they're coming!

I feel right now! All my RSvP are due back by 4/10... We haven't heard from more than half!

I went through something similar. H's family's RSVP responses were quick. I think we only had to hunt down two.

My family on the other hand...

I'm pretty sure 50% had not responded by the deadline.

Then, come wedding day, my dad's side of the family who RSVPd yes (after I hunted them down for answers) didn't show.

I'm pretty sure it's because weddings on that side of the family are usually VERY casual backyard type things with open invitations, so they just really had no idea how or why RSVP was important.

So I feel for you. I agree with PPs, have some wine and relax and even though it's hard, try not to let it stress you.

Honestly a lot of people(myself included) are really bad at remembering to do this. I get an invite. I enter the date into my calendar, hang invite up on board and kind of forget about it. That doesn't mean I don't care about the wedding or the people getting married. It's that I have a life, work, meetings, kids. Life gets away from me.

A gentle phone call is all that's needed. Pour yourself some wine and make the calls

That would drive me nuts too! Even before planning this wedding, I found it so rude to not RSVP and always RSVPed within a day or two of getting an invite. I'm an obsessive planner though. People don't get how much work goes into these things. I'd be super ticked by that too.

Do something that'll help you relax and stop caring. A doobie? A xanny? A long island iced tea?

You know, I had relatives of DH's (a family of 5) RSVP on time that they were not coming, and his aunt even wrote a sweet note on the card about how much they wished they could come, but traveling out of state wasn't going to work out. Fast forward to a week and a half before our wedding date, the very day our final payment was due, and FMIL gets an email from Uncle Dennis saying he'll be there all weekend for the RD and the wedding. Flights booked and everything. I asked whether he wanted filet or salmon and we made it happen.

I'm glad he was there and I got to meet him.

We got an invite for FH's cousins wedding for July 21st, replies are due June 20th.

Don't know why so early, but I RSVP'd right away and he took the envelope right back to the mailbox.

It's really not that hard to do.

I feel ya girl! My FH side of the family doesn't know how to "wedding" is what I like to call it. They were confused on my bridal shower, my bachelorette party. The majority of the RSVPs that were missing were from his side. And when I called FMIL about it, her response "oh just take em of the list." WTF??! No, you need to call and verify they are not coming. I'm not having some 30 people just show up day of. That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works. I need that meme. Lol.

ETA: I never received FMIL RSVP. I mean I know she is coming and all, but for reals. My mom's was like the 2nd one back.

I sent my invitations out the last weekend in March, out of 73 invitations mailed, I've received 13 back. what's funny is the people who live closest to me, still have not responded yet. But they have until the end of the month before I start making phone calls.

*raises hand* i am so guilty that I am THAT friend.

because of my horrible history of not RSVP (dont get me wrong, its always been people who I saw daily, or hung out with, or talked to often, or worked with and they KNEW i was coming I just was so bad at throwing it in the mail) my RSVP is being done through the website or people are allowed to text/call me to let me know they're coming and the name of their plus one.

I know this is NOT an excuse BUT my mailbox does not have an option for just throwing it in the mail, we actually have to drive to our post office to mail anything out.

Hey Date Twin , I had 6 people loss their RVSP cards and 2 that were like, I thought the verbal no was good enough, you wanted me to mail it back?

Yes , yes I wanted you to mail it back that is why it had a stamp. I feel ya , have a glass of wine for me too.

I completely feel you on this right now. It's been a few days past my deadline and my mom and FFIL has still been chasing people down for their rsvps. I've been drinking a lot of wine haha

What's to remember? You get an invite, you check with your sig other, you say yes or no. You don't make the couple chase you around for an answer.

I'd send a blanket email to the guilty parties and tell them you're very sorry they can't come. The end. I wouldn't even call them.

For all the money, emotion and effort you put into these things, the very least you should expect back is a timely RSVP.

I feel you! My deadline is next week and I'm like, "ugh, send the RSVP card already". ::eye roll:: They even have the option to RSVP online! I don't get it.

MrsG- why is your deadline next week?

We requested online RSVPs, through our wedding website. We heard from all but one couple, 10 days before our due date.

And that one couple that had to be chased down? My uncle and his wife, who never had any intention of attending. My mother flat-out said "They're dead to me!"

I just found out from two of our guests that for some reason they never received their invite. I have no idea what happened. Silly mail. So maybe that happened.

I apologized and am sending them a new one.

I totally feel for you! I'm anticipating at least 50 people to chase once the time comes. I cannot stand people who do not RSVP. Definitely have a glass of wine and try not to let it bother you. People are just annoying.

I am not looking forward to this part of the planning.

With my first marriage, we had ppl say they were coming and not show. We also had a couple who said no but came. I can understand some excuses but most didn't have an excuse.

Hopefully with a smaller guest list this time I won't have a problem with this.

Yeah its annoying..i'm more pissed about buying the stamps that people fail to use yet I get text from folks saying they are coming..you can't win..lol