VENT: Not one one of my close friends is attenting my engagement party...

That BLOWS..... 7 month annversary... wow.... good one! WTH. I guess life goes on..they are the ones that are missing out! sorry

Man I am so sorry Turner, if I was your good friend and even I have to work that day, I would asap ask for work off and be there for you. Maybe you should reconsider about your friends...

I feel for you girl. My MOH and the Best Man didnt come to ours. My MOH is my sis and a trip to Vegas was more important. And the Best Man had to work. Oh well, we had fun with out them.

I think this is revealing something about them. My 2 very best friends in the world were there for me. one flying from germany & the other flying pregnant from out of state. I think they are only thinking of themselves! I would express your sadness to them then leave it at that. Stand back & see what they do.

All the best to you!

Sorry to hear that! All I can say is be grateful for the people that you have that are actually sticking around and just make the best of it! As for your other buds, if it really bothers you then maybe you should let them know in a nice way. But really... they just have lame excuses not to show!

Seems like the true friends are the ones that are reaching out and offering to help. You need to just enjoy your day with your FH and not worry about these people who would put a lame excuse like a 7 month anniversary with a boyfriend ahead of your engagement party.

Sorry to hear that! Our's is Saturday, I was worried my MOH wasn't going to make it because she had class and honestly if she didn't I was going to reconsider her as a MOH even if that does sound petty. The guy FH was considering making his Best Man when we first got engaged isn't coming even though we told him a month ago so he could get the day off... FH is not reconsidering because if he can't make it to an engagement party who's to say he wont back out for the actual wedding. It really sucks, I feel that if they are a true friend they would be there especially with the excuses they gave you. That really sucks :-( *hugs*

That sucks! Well, let's see if they make it up to you for the shower, bachelorette, or just there for you from now on or maybe on the wedding day.

It is disappointing.

Focus on the people who are there for you. That will surprise you!!!! And cherish them.

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Are you totally blindsided? Have they acted this way before?

Also, did you give them enough notice?? Invite and rsvp or email?

Thanks for the support girls!

@Danie..can't believe you MOH and Best man didn't show!

@shelley...your pregnant friend came? See! This is what I'm talking about. Anyway...I've already had the conversation with them...they just make excuses so I guess it's a lost cause.

@Veronica & Mom N...yes...I'm very grateful for the ones who are reaching out and I'm gonna try to not let it bother me that the others aren't gonna make it. I'm not gonna let anyone ruin my wedding events.

@BritNhe...that is a really good reason for reconsidering. If they can't even attend the e-party, which is sorta like the kickoff of the wedding events...how are they to attend the other stuff? I hope you get it all worked out.

If it wasn't for my sisters friends I wouldn't be having a bachelorette party. My friends don't wanna go cuz they have to pay if they wanna go to club. But everything else is free b4

Their loss. make sure you tell them what a great time it was and say "see you at the wedding" because you expect them there.

Yep their loss you just go and enjoy your party the hell with them and the church one is pretty good is she going to be in church all day i mean really since when is it all day and 7 months oh wow just have a glass a wine togther at the party with u i mean really sorry i just know how you are feeling right now

Yeah I have friends that are front runners for the lame-o awards too. One of my BM's is bailing on my bridal shower because she's going to a Lady GaGa concert. She knew about my shower months before she got the tickets. My MOH hasn't helped me with one single thing so far and my wedding is 5 months away, she even bailed on going and getting my dress with me even though I took the day off to accomodate HER schedule not my own. So yeah, I feel your pain. Vent to us Mrs. T we understand!

@Laura..EXACTLY! My sister's friends are more involved then my own friends! One of my sister's friend..she is doing my make up for the wedding and including eyelash extensions..and all for free. AND she also said she would video tape the ceremony since I don't have a professional videoagrapher. And two of my other sister's friends are sooo excited to come to my engagement party...they want to come to the bridal shower and bachelorette party..and they said they'll come even if I don't have room for them on the guest list for the actual wedding. I just had to make room for them since they actually want to be involved.

@Juanita & @Jessica..yes! Their loss...and to hell with them!LOL

@teexoxo...Lady Gaga concert? Oh my! See..this is what I don't get..you give these people way more than enough time...and then they schedule something that's more important to them! I'm SOOO glad I didn't chose them as my BMs or MOH and that I chose family instead because I'm sure they'd be nonexistent if I

Had and then I find out that two of them were surprised they're not in the bridal party! Please!!

Can't believe your MOH bailed on your gown shopping. That's the fun part!

@teexoxo...if I were you...I'd tell her she can't see the dress until the wedding

Wanna hear something that happend to my hubby 2 weeks before our wedding his best friend that was his best friend bailed on him 2WEEKS before our wedding he didn't gives us a reson at the time just said he couldn't do it then come to find out almost a year and half later from some of his friends its b/c he didn't think his gf was invited umm of course she was she just didn't like me or my husband so she didn't want her bf around us so we arn't friends with them anymore

It suck to have people you care about missing during one of your events, but i feel us brides sometimes forget that there is a lot of events. engagement party, bridal shower, bacholorette, rehearsal dinner, wedding and reception!

it is a difficult task to fit all of those into your schedule even when you are the bride let alone a guest.

so keep in mind that even if your friend cant be there this time she will like be at the other things and her absence is not a reflection on you or intended to be hurtful

@Jessica...wow...that sucks !! are they still together?

@littlefox...I completely understand that...but I really feel that people decide to be exactly where they want to be. For two of the friends who aren't making it...when they got married a few years back...I was there for all of their events. I didn't miss anything...so I guess it's just disappointing that they can't be there for me. Especially the engagement part cus that was important to me..the bach and bridal shower...I wouldn't have minded..and the rehearsal..they're not in the bridal party so they wouldn't have to attend that. Oh well!! It is what it is I guess.

I feel the opposite way. I would do everything in my power to make it to a shower, but may bail in an engagement party if something came up. I also wouldn't consider booting a party member just because they wouldn't/couldn't go. I know it sucks when people don't show up. At my shower my mom didn't go because "she didn't feel like it", a BM had some strange excuse, and my SIL had no excuse at all. Bummer but oh well, they missed out. Sorry to hear so many bailed on you. Just enjoy the time with those who can be there to celebrate with you.