Vent: bridesmaid pajamas

View Quoted Comment Because it is a new trend. And a lot of people don't like it.

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Well those same people could have said no I don't like that instead of yes that's a great idea. YOU don't like it. Plain and simple.

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Sure, lots of people do it and that fine - just saying it's a pretty trivial silly thing to be so bothered by. If one girl lost pajamas (how does that even happen) I think it's pretty safe to say they weren't overly excited by the idea.

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Oh this I agree with 100%!

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If you say so. I didn't force anyone to wear pajamas. Previously I stated that it was something they wanted to do.

I totally get why you're feeling this way--I would be upset as well! I would be super annoyed with the girl who lost hers...is there any way to just buy a new set? I mean, if I were her, I would be embarrassed for losing it and I'd offer to buy a replacement. For the ones who are saying their pajamas are too big, I wouldn't think this should be a problem because plenty of pajamas are designed to be loose fitting anyway and they can pin them up. I also bought matching pajama sets for my bridesmaids to wear because like you, I wanted a cohesive look for my getting ready photos. My getting ready photos were very special and ended up taking an entire spread (featured quite prominently) in my album. I honestly don't understand why you're getting so much pushback on this thread because buying matching getting ready outfits for your bridesmaids is a super common thing to do, and I'm truly shocked by the number of brides who are putting you down... Who cares if wearing matching getting ready outfits wasn't common 20 years ago? New traditions develop over time, and it sure is a thing now. Out of the 8 times I've been a bridesmaid, I've always been given either a set of pajamas or a robe to wear while getting ready. And I sure as heck made sure to do the same thing with my own bridesmaids, because it was important to me!

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This 100%. Prior to wedding tv (Four Weddings. etc) the plethora of current trends including matching pjs and getting ready photo ops was not a thing.

View Quoted Comment I think that if 3 did not bother to tell you they did not fit, and one lost hers, you should consider that maybe they are not as happy you asked them to do this as you think. When a person gets a wanted item, she makes a point of trying it on pretty soon so it can be exchanged in time. 3 or your ladies basically did not care. As to one who lost hers, does not seem real enthusiastic to me. In general etiquette, politeness, it is not considered nice for a bride to teat her friends like props or models. Look in any etiquette source not dependent on wedding industry money, Emily Post, Miss Manners and others. No I am not a troll, and I am far from 50. This getting ready with photos in PJ's or shorty robes is a new trend started by some wedding tv shows, marketing. For a few generations now, women have worked hard to get rid of situations where women are asked to pose half dressed, or cavort around, for pics taken by others, now on the internet and formerly in print. When men are not asked to do any such humiliating thing. And whatever they said when you asked, the 4 have given very strong signals they do not want this, with their not trying things on, or losing them. And some might get even less enchanted when pics of them appear on the internet for years, lifted by Google by anything you post, howevey provate. Or when your ladies fond out your photographer likely has a claise in his contract saying the pictures belong to himself. Meaning he can sell or trade these pics of your friends if he wants, will no permission from them, or payment to them.

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I also thought it was common. Another thing that I don't think the others are understanding is that it is something they wanted to do nothing I was forcing them to do. It may seem silly to them, but my girls and I liked the idea.

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That's your opinion and that's fine, but no one seems to see the comment when I said it was something they wanted to do.

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My advice would be to ignore the trolls on this thread, have your girls whose pajamas are too big use safety pins, and as annoying as it may be, try to get a replacement set for the girl who lost hers. She really should have offered to buy the replacement, but for your own sake, I'd just move on and get it now. Maybe she will offer to reimburse you later.

I like the yoga pants idea and maybe similar or matching shirts! I do understand the not wanting to wear too big pjs (especially if the pjs are more tank top versions where you have to worry about coming out). If you do buy anything else, make sure to give it to them at the ceremony or a few days before!

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I guess them asking to order new pajamas is also them not wanting to do it? I'm okay if they don't like they way the first pair looked. One of my friends recently asked me to wear all black to her birthday party where she took pictures. I was okay with that and I didn't feel like a prop. Instead of trying to argue with me just realize we come from two different walks of life. We have different opinions. Respect mine and I'll respect yours. You got on this post and tried to make me feel small for something my bridesmaids wanted to do. It was their idea. I just bought the pajamas so they would not have to. I'm super close to my bridesmaids so I know if they didn't like them they would have told me when I gave it to them. You keep making these long post that I disagree with, just like you disagree with my opinion. Lets just agree to disagree.

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Agreed! Thank you!

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Thank you!

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But now it is and my group of friends presented the idea to me and wanted to do it.

Definitely annoying that they don't fit and that someone lost theirs. Are you able to order more of the same pajamas in time for the wedding? Alternatives could be to keep the top of the original pajama set (even the ones that are too big) and wear simple botoms (maybe mismatched styles in the same color). You could also buy a kimono or robe that is in stock at a local store (or can be ordered and shipped quickly enough) and wear matching/similar-looking pajamas underneath.


Also, I feel bad seeing people criticize your decision to wear matching getting ready outfits when you came for sympathy and to vent. You do you and I'm glad you are sticking up for yourself and your choices. If you and your girls talked about matching outfits and agreed on them then no one else should have a say in it.

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They actually sent me a text an hour ago asking me where I bought them from so they could order new ones. I just wish they had of said something sooner so I could have sent the ones that were too big back and exchanged them for a pair that will fit. For the one who lost hers. She recently had a new baby and moved into a new house. She has a lot on her plate so I'm not too upset.

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All of this over matching pjs?

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Yay! That worked out! I would definitely show your friend who just had a baby and moved some grace. Maybe offer to go ahead and buy her another set, in the hopes that she may offer to reimburse you later. It may mean a lot more to her than you realize!