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Blair
Dedicated June 2021

Vent: bridesmaid pajamas

Blair, on May 5, 2021 at 1:12 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 1 61
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I bought my bridesmaids pajamas to wear while getting ready. I gave them to them during a girls night I put together for my bridesmaids about 2 or 3 months ago. Today I'm officially one month away from my wedding day so I decided to remind them to wear them to get ready in for the big day. Today I found out 3 of bridesmaids pajamas are too big (I bought the sizes they told me to) and 1 other lost hers. I can't send the pajamas that are too big pack because they were bought precovid. Now I'm trying to think of alternatives so we can all look cohesive for our pictures.

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Latest activity by Evgeniy, on January 28, 2022 at 7:42 AM
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    But i feel like if theyre just pajamas it's ok that they're a bit bigger?

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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
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    Honestly, you really don't need matching outfits. Think of any pictures you've taken with your friends at a random time. It's unlikely you're all wearing matching outfits, and the pictures look just as cute. This is honestly something I wouldn't stress. My girls all just wore whatever they wanted, and the pictures were fine. It's not like these are photos you are framing and hanging on your wall anyway.
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  • Lisa
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    Are they able to be altered? If so, maybe consider taking them to a seamstress. That way, they can wear them again after the wedding. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
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    I'd be mad at your friends tbh. But l think they should just pin the pants and let the shirts be oversized. Nbd. The friend who lost the pjs needs to go buy another pair
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  • L
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    This. I would so hate getting ready in matchy pj's. I'm not 7 years old. Just let them get ready in what they're comfortable in.

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  • Blair
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    I understand where you are coming from, but I had a vision of how I wanted my professional pictures to turn out. I won't be hanging them, but I will be putting them in an album. I included a picture of the look I was going for.

    Vent: bridesmaid pajamas 1

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  • Blair
    Dedicated June 2021
    Blair ·
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    Well that's your opinion. I've seen grown women on a lot of wedding websites who do the matching pajamas while getting ready. Plus the grown women I asked to be in my wedding agreed to do it and they do not feel uncomfortable about it.

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  • Blair
    Dedicated June 2021
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    It's not a big enough deal to get them professionally altered. I just needed to vent really.

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  • MK
    Expert September 2021
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    I would probably be really annoyed, honestly. More-so with the ones who have lost them. The ones that are running a little big can be altered, but even without alterations, you can still wear oversized pjs!

    No, you don't HAVE to have matching sets. But you bought them matching sets because you wanted them for your wedding day. I would have put those pjs up until I wore them on your day, I wouldn't have even given myself the opportunity to lose something a bride gifted to me for their wedding, before their wedding.

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  • Blair
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    That's how I feel. When I first asked them to be my bridesmaids my maid of honor thought it would be a cute idea to do the matching pjs. Once I seen pictures I agreed that it was cute and asked my other bridesmaids what they thought. Once they said they liked the idea I went ahead a bought the pjs. I'm not going to worry about it though.

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    Why is it necessary to look cohesive while getting ready? Why can't each bring a pair of stretch pants, and a button down shirt. This recent fad is totally unnecessary. Just one more opportunity for the bride to dress her ladies like props for
    pictures. If your ladies actually wanted to wear them, 3 would have made sure they fit while there was time to exchange them, and the other would not have lost hers. Why not take that as a sign they don't want to do it and let it go. Is your groom getting pajamas for his guys to get into while getting ready? No,most guys don't do these humiliating things. Why should your ladies?
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  • J
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    Yes! The dress should be the only time a bride picks what you wear.
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  • J
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    Your ladies are not models or actresses, and I assume you are not paying them $300-600 each. They are not paid to creat a vision or pictures outside of the ceremony clothes. You are using them as props for pictures, which is not nice.
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  • Blair
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    You are really upset about something YOU don't have to put on. They wanted to do it. I was nice enough to buy the pajamas.

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  • Michelle
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    I agree with this. I wouldn’t have a problem with yoga pants or sweatpants (depending on time of year).

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  • Blair
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    Of course I'm not paying them! They are my friends, not models. AS I STATED BEFORE THEY WANTED TO DRESS ALIKE. Why are some of you acting like dressing a like to get ready is new trend? This is common. If you don't agree then that's fine for you and your bridesmaids. We are all different. Don't come down on me because you disagree with something I like.

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  • Blair
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    They had an option to wear whatever they wanted. They chose the pajamas. I bought them as a courtesy. If they now want to wear yoga pants or whatever else that's fine too. There is nothing I can do about it now.

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  • MK
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    I would assume by this that you didn't/won't have your bridesmaids wear dresses of your choosing for your wedding, either. It is a very common idea to have your bridesmaids match for your wedding day. Maybe not your preference, but very common. I've never been in a wedding and gotten to chose everything I put on. Which is a very common assumption to make when agreeing to be a bridesmaid in someone's wedding. It would be another story if this bride was expecting her friends to fund all of her ideas and visions - she isn't. If she wants to put her girls in matching pajamas while they all get ready that she purchased and gifted herself, that's allowed.

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  • Blair
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    I'm glad you understand. This a trend we saw on social media and all of them were super excited about doing it. It was my maid of honor's idea and since they were already buying the dresses I decided to buy the pajamas as a thank you for being in my wedding.

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  • MK
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    I did a poll for my bridesmaids - loungewear, robes, or pajamas. All 11 of them voted the same, so that's what I'll get for them to wear as they get ready. This is a super common thing. I probably have 10 pajama sets or robes from previous weddings I've been in - and I've never had such an opinion on it, nor have I put up a fight when I'm told what I'll be wearing for a wedding. Especially if it's been purchased and gifted to me. It's not required by any means! But it's your wedding, do what you want!

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